11/02/2026
Valentine’s Day. The time of year where the world, more than ever, tries to sell us “The Love Lie”.
Not that LOVE is a lie.
But what we’ve been taught about love is. The way we’ve been socialised to seek it, how we think of it, what we’ve been told to expect from it. The idea that we can’t be truly happy without a partner.
Real Love doesn’t look anything like what we’ve been sold.
Love is not magical - at least, not in the fairytale sense. It doesn’t happen by chance (or fortune). It’s not about being swept up in a feeling, butterflies in the stomach, or obsession. It’s not flowers, chocolates, expensive meals, or “romantic” gestures. Those things are fun and exciting, sure. But anyone can offer those - and anyone can get caught up in those.
The performance of “love” is easy.
But Love is not.
And it’s no “happily ever after” either.
Love - be it romantic, platonic, or other - is mutual respect, equal partnership, support, safety (both physical and emotional), consistency. It’s being able to be your whole self - and letting them be that too. It’s shared values, hard conversations, and honesty (with yourself, and with them). It’s a willingness to hear them, and be influenced by them (without walking away from yourself). It’s a commitment to grow, separately and together.
Love is not a fantasy, and it’s not about someone’s potential. It’s being able to say, “if they never changed or moved (not even an inch) from where they are now, I would still choose them”.
It’s not performing “love” one day a year. It’s saying yes to someone, exactly as they are, day, after day, after day.
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