Trauma Insight Solutions

Trauma Insight Solutions Healing survivors, empowering parents to prevent trauma, and training professionals for intervention.

It was neglect and it was a strategy!A calculated, cruel way to ensure obedience.They didn’t fail to feed their children...
21/05/2025

It was neglect and it was a strategy!
A calculated, cruel way to ensure obedience.

They didn’t fail to feed their children, they chose not to.
There could have been food for everyone, if the children’s needs had been prioritised over those of the parents. But power tasted better than empathy.

Starvation made them weak.
Weak kids don’t argue.
Weak kids don’t resist.
Weak kids obey.
Weak kids remain trapped under the control of the parent.

Hunger wasn’t the side effect, it was the method.
They learned to scan their face before asking for dinner.
They learned that food was a privilege, not a right.
And they learned that love came last, after control, after punishment, after silence.

Hungry children make great props, evidence of hardship that paints the parent as the struggling hero, not the perpetrator.

They weren't struggling parents.
This wasn’t about survival.
It was about submission.

But this kind of truth is taboo.
No one wants to believe a parent could do that.
It’s easier to label it poverty, trauma, anything but intentional harm.

So the silence stays.
The lie survives.
And evil lives on, well-fed, protected by denial.

Psychologists in Manawatu – We’re Hiring!Trauma Insight Solutions is looking for registered psychologists in NZ to provi...
05/03/2025

Psychologists in Manawatu – We’re Hiring!

Trauma Insight Solutions is looking for registered psychologists in NZ to provide ACC Sensitive Claims Services.

What makes us different?
✅ Lowest supplier rate – keep more of what you earn.
✅ Exceptional admin support – we handle the paperwork, so you focus on clients.
✅ Values-driven practice – authenticity, compassion & accountability at our core.
✅ Flexible work options – work in a way that suits you.

DM me if you're interested!

🚪 Check Your Assumptions at the Door 🚪While I was on the longest holiday of my life (a full 10 days—yes, I survived!), I...
03/03/2025

🚪 Check Your Assumptions at the Door 🚪

While I was on the longest holiday of my life (a full 10 days—yes, I survived!), I found myself reflecting on my biggest takeaway from my time working with Hawke’s Bay Alternative Education Services.

I had the privilege of presenting a seminar to their staff: "The Power to Make a Difference"—exploring trauma, brain science, and the impact tutors have on student success. We delved into trauma-informed practice, the unseen challenges students carry, and the powerful role tutors play in shaping their futures.

✨ Appearances aren’t always what they seem. ✨

If someone looks privileged, does that mean they had a privileged childhood?
Does the color of their skin determine the kind of upbringing they had?
And what does privilege in childhood actually mean? Is it about money, stability, and success? Or is it about love, time, and compassion?

I work with adults—many of whom didn’t have the privilege of safety, care, or consistency as children. And what I see time and time again is that privilege in childhood shapes everything—but not always in the ways we assume.

We need to check our assumptions at the door. You never know what’s underneath.

🔥 Masters Nationals 2025 – What. A. Week. 🔥A week in Whangārei, battling it out in the Taranaki Women's 40s squad, and l...
03/03/2025

🔥 Masters Nationals 2025 – What. A. Week. 🔥

A week in Whangārei, battling it out in the Taranaki Women's 40s squad, and let me tell you—hockey in 27-degree heat is a whole new level of suffering. 🥵 But this team? Absolute warriors.

We went into the final game top of the table, knowing a win or draw would secure gold. The stakes were high, the energy electric… but sport is brutal, and we walked away with bronze instead of gold. 🥉 A tough pill, but honestly, it was never just about the medal. It was about the battles fought, the friendships strengthened, and the memories made that will last a lifetime.

From the sweat-drenched games to the off-field laughs, the whole experience was one for the books. Could my legs be any sorer? No. Would I do it all again? In a heartbeat. 💛🖤

🌟 Family: The Other F Word 🌟The holiday season often brings with it a tidal wave of societal pressure to spend time with...
29/12/2024

🌟 Family: The Other F Word 🌟

The holiday season often brings with it a tidal wave of societal pressure to spend time with "family." For many, this is a joyous tradition. But for others, it means returning to spaces filled with pain: childhood abusers, those who enabled harm, or people whose words cut deeper than they will ever admit.

Choosing yourself this holiday season—deciding not to participate in the socially approved pretense of "happy family gatherings"—is a courageous and difficult choice. It can feel isolating, lonely, and even guilt-inducing, especially when scrolling through images of smiling relatives and festive reunions.

But know this: you are not alone. You made the brave decision to prioritise your mental well-being and protect yourself (and your children, if you have them) from environments that harm. You chose honesty and authenticity over performing for a societal script.

You are not depriving your children of extended family; you are saving them from toxic cycles. You are showing them the power of boundaries, self-respect, and choosing peace.

To everyone who has chosen themselves this season. Your choice matters. You are rewriting what "family" means and proving that love and connection can be built on safety and mutual respect, not just shared bloodlines.

You are not selfish. You are healing. 💛

As survivors of child abuse, our voices matter. It's not easy to confront the trauma inflicted upon us, especially when ...
03/04/2024

As survivors of child abuse, our voices matter. It's not easy to confront the trauma inflicted upon us, especially when it's by those who were meant to protect us.

Speaking out about our past isn't about revenge or hatred. It's about healing, reclaiming our power, and preventing the cycle from repeating.

Abusive parents becoming victims of their own behavior is a harsh reality. But it doesn't absolve them of their actions. It's not a justification, it's a consequence.

To every survivor out there: Your voice is your strength. You are not alone, and you deserve to be heard, believed, and supported. 🌟

Co-parenting with a narcissist is like navigating a minefield, especially when it comes to finances. When they start dic...
27/03/2024

Co-parenting with a narcissist is like navigating a minefield, especially when it comes to finances. When they start dictating how child support money should be spent, it's a stark reminder of their victim mentality. They act as though supporting their own children is some kind of burden, demanding control over every dollar spent. It's a display of entitlement, believing they have the right to micromanage financial decisions. But let's call it what it is: righteous anger at the mere thought of fulfilling their responsibilities as a parent. It's time to prioritize the well-being of our children over egos and entitlement.

😡 Child abuse at its worst…Abusive parents calling their child a liar when they disclose the parents' abusive behaviour....
25/03/2024

😡 Child abuse at its worst…Abusive parents calling their child a liar when they disclose the parents' abusive behaviour. Then going one step further and blaming the innocent parent claiming that they 'forced the child to lie' is a despicable tactic used in an attempt to gain control and favouritism and use the child as a p**n to harm the innocent parent.

Children can start questioning their own reality, and may feel isolated and detached from their feelings, increasing their experiences of anxiety and depression.

If your child returns from your co-parent dysregulated and anxious. Be the calm in their storm. Do not blame the other parent. Never talk negatively about the other parent to your children. Children need our support and belief, not more confusion. Let's stand against this toxic behavior.

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When a co-parent refuses all communication, blocks access to the kids, and undermines their relationship with the other ...
21/03/2024

When a co-parent refuses all communication, blocks access to the kids, and undermines their relationship with the other parent, it's called parental alienation. Let's put an end to this harmful behavior and focus on what's best for our children.

I'm genuinely humbled by the overwhelmingly positive response to my seminar presentation. It's truly heartwarming to hea...
15/03/2024

I'm genuinely humbled by the overwhelmingly positive response to my seminar presentation. It's truly heartwarming to hear that it left such a lasting impression on everyone in attendance. The fact that the delivery and content were described as powerful and insightful means the world to me. I poured my heart and soul into preparing for this presentation, so to hear that it was considered truly exceptional is incredibly gratifying. Thank you all for your kind words and for making it such an unforgettable experience. It's an honor to have had the opportunity to share my insights with such an engaging audience.

🌟 Tomorrow I'm delivering an eye-opening seminar on childhood trauma, complex PTSD, and teen behavior to the wonderful p...
13/03/2024

🌟 Tomorrow I'm delivering an eye-opening seminar on childhood trauma, complex PTSD, and teen behavior to the wonderful people who support NZ's teen parents! 🌟 As professionals, it's crucial we equip ourselves with the knowledge and tools to support those who've experienced trauma.

🔍 💡My goal? To challenge your thinking, inspire growth, and deepen your understanding and commitment to trauma-informed care. Let's create a community of support for those who need it most and make a world of difference in the lives of survivors.

Together, we can make a difference!

Why is 'who knew' abuse was happening to a child so important?Understanding 'who knew' about abuse happening to a child ...
13/03/2024

Why is 'who knew' abuse was happening to a child so important?

Understanding 'who knew' about abuse happening to a child is crucial because it reveals the depth of societal failures and the impact on the child. When everyone is aware of the trauma but remains silent, it sends a devastating message to the child: that they are worthless, undeserving of protection, and alone in their suffering. This silence normalizes harm and perpetuates a culture where abuse is accepted. It reflects a systemic failure to support and protect children. Breaking this cycle demands courage from adults to speak out and say, 'No, this is not okay.' Taking a stand shows the child that their suffering is not normal, that they are seen, and that there are people who care. Let's stand up for children everywhere and create a world where they are truly safe and valued.

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