Tatia Bray Connecting Within

16/03/2026

This morning my son asked "If you had a time machine and could go back in time to one moment where would you go and why?

It took me to many places of how I could change the world with one moment of saving someone's life, or taking another's and came to the conclusion that

A) The events in time happen to teach us and develop us as humans and by trying to change one life may do nothing to the overall world as another may just take their place.

B) I am best to change my life and the awareness and yet even if I tried to go back and tell myself something really important, would I actually listen? Because I am where I am now because of the lessons through life and mistakes ( which aren't really mistakes they are just feedback from the choices I made.)

So my answer is... I would probably go back in time to see myself and tell myself that I am doing amazing just as I am! And to reaffirm how far I have come!

How about you? What would you choose?

04/03/2026

To help you better understand why its so challenging to create and stick to new habits or beliefs.

It takes time and consistency to move from a neural pathway that is already established, to a new pathway and so when we are in the process of creating new pathways, we need to be gentle with ourselves!

Its easy to default to the old way of doing or thinking, and if you just keep working at it, before you know it, the old path will be history!

Let me know if this has helped! And then share it!

03/03/2026

If I were to pick 3 things that made the most impact in leveling up my self worth it would be these!

1) How I speak to myself and about myself.
Words have SO much power. Use them to lift yourself up! Pay attention to the negative and immediately change it into a positive. "I'm such an idiot" Nope cancel that "I am doing the best I can in this moment" Talk to yourself as if you are talking to someone who is learning how to do something. After all we are all learning how to do Life!

2) Understanding the brain is a processor carrying out what it is programed based on past experiences and the beliefs YOU created because of past experiences and what YOU MADE them mean to you. When you step into your souls knowing, your higher mind, you understand this and can start to reprogram your beliefs!

3) Get into the body and process the past emotions that are held there. All of those emotions we didn't want to feel and stuffed down, didn't go away. They got stored in the tissues. And if we dont move our bodies, if we ignore the aches and pains and the high blood pressure and the stress and anxiety, it will just speak louder.

Massage, Breathwork, Reiki, intentional movement, all help to bring awareness into the body and process to let go of those emotions. You start to feel lighter more connected and more fulfilled with life!

The cost of self neglect is always greater than the cost of self care!

I will go in to more depth on this in the future so check back!

03/03/2026

I know I am not alone in this

What happens when you don’t follow through on what you said you were going to do?

You abandon yourself
Essentially self sabotage.

Here's how it plays out

You get a clear action toward something you are excited about.

You tell people

You start.....then hit the crunchy bit..(the growth)

The discomfort kicks in and the inner critic fires up...

"You dont have IT, you're not professional enough, you will look stupid, who are you to think you are qualified enough?"

So you put it off, thinking you will come back to it, but really

You quit!

On the surface? No big deal

On the inside? HUGE

You trust yourself less
You shrink a bit more
You hesitate the next time
You show up differently

I made a mistake this week because I was impatient and trying to control the outcome and I got it very wrong...it cost us money and time

And the shame and that sick feeling in your stomach....

I wanted to crawl in a hole. But I have changed over the last year and instead of avoidance I sat with the feelings and found the gift of this mistake

Its the awareness

We dont give up because we cant do it. We give up because we dont want to FEEL

We don't want to feel that we let someone down
We don't want to feel that we have inconvenienced someone else
We dont want to ask for help

Why?

Because deep down we dont belive our feelings matter as much as other people's do.

So we abandon ourselves again and again.

The real cost isn't the mistake
Its treating yourself like you cant be trusted

That is self sabotage

Next I'll share how to turn it around.
How did this land?

26/02/2026

Are you ignoring the signs your body is needing rest and recovery time?

Our mind is a powerful thing and we can easily dismiss the signs our body is trying to tell us by simply ignoring them or over-riding them.

We use stimulants like caffeine, sugar and scrolling on devices.

We tell ourselves we don't have time to move our body.

We push through exhaustion until we get overtired and wired.

All while the body is whispering to us to slow down, rest, recover!

The body whispers before it screams!

Just a few more signs of self abandonment!

25/02/2026

The past is gone and the future hasn't happened yet!

“The only thing that is ultimately real about your journey is the step that you are taking at this moment. That's all there ever is.” —Eckhart Tolle

24/02/2026

Self abandonment doesn't look dramatic

It looks....

normal

Because we have been taught that we dont matter as much as everyone else.

True self love is not self absorption...its self responsibility and when we take responsibility for our inner work, that ripples out and changes how we show up for ourselves and for others!

Send this to someone who needs to hear it...

24/02/2026

Ways in which we abandon ourselves without realising it...
If this resonates let me know...

05/02/2026

Breathwork was a game changer for me!

After my first breathwork session in a women's circle 5 years ago, I immediately felt the difference.

We were living in Auckland with a big mortgage. We had 2 beautiful boys, I owned a massage clinic with a few therapists, my husband was working long hours and not enjoying it anymore and I was completely fried. My nervous system was shot, my confidence was at an all time low, I had no motivation.

I hadn’t been taking the advice I was giving to all of my clients.
“You deserve to take time for yourself”
“Self Care is self full not selfish”
“there is no need to feel guilty for taking time for yourself”

All things I would say to my clients but when it came to me? I felt we just couldn’t afford for me to take any time off or go away, and I saw how hard my husband was working and he didn’t take any time for himself either so how could I?

All of this I could see. I knew and believed I shouldn’t feel guilty, that I did deserve self care and the few times I did get to take, I fully enjoyed but underlying all of this was old patterning and conditioning and the People Pleaser that developed to keep me safe as a child was still there creating havoc!

Something needed to change!

So we moved to Papamoa and it took a good 6 months for me to even want to come out of my shell. I saw this post for a women's circle on the beach and my whole body went YES!

I laid down feeling heavy and nervous and unsure as I only knew one other in the group. I had dabbled in the Wim Hof breathing so I kind of knew what it was like but this time it was so different, I went far deeper and the thoughts and emotions that came up I fully didn’t expect.

I got up off the mat and immediately felt lighter, freer, more like myself again. I got up and danced for the first time in a very long time and didn’t care a thing about what others thought! I was in my own space feeling free again.

I went on to heal and clear out soo much of my past patterning, conditioning, other peoples “stuff” that I had taken on from my body through breathwork and Sound healing.

From then on I was hooked! I knew, I too could hold space for others and support them in their letting go, finding clarity and deep healing of not only this life, but lifetimes and ancestral healing as well.

Tune and Bloom is an opportunity for you too, to experience deep healing and nurturing in a supportive environment!

https://events.humanitix.com/tune-and-bloom

05/02/2026

Whooo hooo! Today we picked the winner of our 2 x free tickets to this Sunday's event Tune and Bloom!

And (drum roll 🥁🥁🥁) the winner is....

Kirsten Jefferson 🤩🤩🤩

I will message you now and I will see you and a friend on Sunday!

💗✨️💗✨️💗✨️

03/02/2026

As we transition from 2025 to 2026 and we reflect on what created the most impact....

it is the times you invested in yourself!

You made the choice to look after your nervous system, your health and wellbeing and you realize that this is what creates the ripples that go out into your life, your family, your work.

It all starts with you choosing to invest in yourself!!!

If you’re craving change…
If you’re seeking clarity or direction…
If you feel disconnected from yourself and want to return home…
If you know there’s more for you, and you’re ready for the inner shift that unlocks it…

Tune & Bloom is your moment.

✨️✨️✨️We are giving away 2 x FREE tickets for you and a friend on Thursday the 5th of February ✨️✨️✨️

If you have already purchased, we will refund them!

https://events.humanitix.com/tune-and-bloom

08/10/2025

Please Share with your networks and help make this years Empower Her Expo the biggest so far!!!

We are a FB group called Empower Her in the Bay (was Networking 4 Tauranga Women in Business) that was started back in 2014 and has grown to over 1400 members!

We are Women in business from all walks of life, all different ages and from every part of the business world. We are here to support each other in the ups, downs, curves and curlywurly's that come from owning our own business' and juggling all that life has to offer!!!

For the last 4 years we have been getting together in October to not only talk about what we do but to showcase it with an EXPO, giving us the chance to see, taste!, touch and get to know more first hand how our passion and love of what we do. Which not only helps us to then refer to others but to really strengthen our relationships with each other. The first 2 years were such a VIBE! but it was only for each other. soo then we thought....

"This really needs to be brought to the public!" and so last year (2024) was the first year we found a bigger venue, advertised with bus backs and billboards and got it out... to the public!!!

This is the second year and we are sooo excited to be doing it all again! So please come on down and support our local businesses because this is where your money and attention really do make a difference!!!

18th of October 9am -2pm
Tauranga Yacht Club, at Sulphur Point
Bring the family as there is something for everyone!

We will have spot prizes rolling throughout the day and food trucks to keep your energy up!

Keep an eye out for all our advertising and let us know when and where you spotted it!