Provider

24/02/2026

Full circle. Welcome to any man who feels the call. Reach out.

22/02/2026

First Men’s Wellbeing Retreat for 2026, and it was a powerful one!

Four men with big hearts, travelled to Tairua from Australia, the South Island, Taranaki and Bay of Plenty. To board Provider’s wairua waka for the week, take the paddle, and do the reps.

This isn’t a kick back and chill retreat or holiday, it’s about broadening the mind, opening the heart, moving the body and activating the spirit.

It takes a courageous man to step into the circle, not knowing anyone, and speak deeper and truer than they have ever been before, and I’m
grateful 4 brave men stepped up to be part of this journey. These men were no stranger to courage, some had literally been to war.

When a man has been to war, sometimes he forgets to put his armour down when he comes home. To tell himself it is safe to do so. But sooner or later that armour gets pretty bloody heavy.

To take the armour off, men need to whole heartedly trust the men around them and the environment they are in. To not worry about threats from the external world, calm the nervous system and take the time to go inside and heal.

To be honest we’re not really taught how to do this - and men many battle on in silence.

And so we offer a space where we go through many layers, using the tools of old, our ancestors used, fire, council, water, alchemy, breath, meditation, movement, nature, hunting our own primal food as a group, 4 days of clean eating and drinking, honesty, speaking with conviction, taking responsibility for our actions, learning to speaking kindly to ourselves again.

Speaking to each man’s gifts and being willing to receive these words with an open heart.

Letting the inner child we all have inside heal and remember to play again, so the man on the outside can heal and find joy again.

A journey outside linear time, no phones, no laptops, no distractions, no alcohol, no processed food. A liminal space of growth mindset.

And with the cup full and overflowing, it’s time to return to those they love, ready to be of service again, grounded and with a new found sense of mauri and mana. Armed with tools to come back to every morning, and when the time comes, on each breath. And new brothers to reach out to, and to be kept to account by.

Pumped to be back into retreat mode and doing the reps again.

Thank you men for showing up and reminding me - this is the work! Tihei…Mauri Ora!

12/02/2026

The foundation of holding a safe space, like we do in our Men’s Wellbeing retreats and men’s circles, is having some agreements and values that set the tone for how we all show up.

The PROVIDER Codes don’t just define how we walk on our retreats, they are a transformational reminder for showing up as a good, grounded man in today’s world.

Presence - bring your presence, show up, use eye contact, listen, bring all of you, open your ears, your eyes, your heart. Turn your phone and any distractions off. If we’re in an online circle, don’t be doing other stuff! The best thing we can do as men, is be present for those around us.

Reverence - Speaks to the heart of the word Provider. Nature is our Provider, we’re constantly in communion with it, so walk lightly on this earth. Recognise anything all nature as a living, intelligent being and only take what you need. Just like we walk on this earth, we have reverence for women, in our talk and actions. Reverence is intertwined in the principle of Katiakitanga or guardianship, to be a katiaki first we need to feel and acknowledge this sacred connection.

Ownership - Take responsibility for your choices, current state and position in life. Don’t blame others. Take action and when something needs doing, own it. You are the master of your own ship, so take the wheel.

Valor - Lead from the heart, and have the courage to keep your heart open when it hurts. The courage to lean into hard discussions. The courage to do hard things daily that build your resilience. The courage to set boundaries and say no. And the courage to speak up when you know something is not right.

Integrity - Integrity is about aligning your values with your actions. Aligning your walk with your talk. Approach life and your relationships with honesty. Choose your words wisely, and speak the truth. Integrity means not being judgemental because we’re more concerned with our own actions than criticising others. Integrity means staying that path and not compromising our core values to get a quick result.

Discretion - Any personal information someone else shares is CONFIDENTIAL and PRIVATE and does not leave the group. Loose lips sink ships. When you leave a retreat, circle or call, use your discretion to share any new found wisdom, because not everyone is ready for it. The best way to show or teach others, is to do the work to embody what you have learnt and lead by example.

Expression - Use this opportunity to express yourself, and your feelings. Tell others how much you appreciate them. Express the gifts that you have been given in this life, don’t hide them away.

Reciprocity - Step into the mutual exchange of energy and the power of the collective. You get what you put in. Give without expecting to receive, but be open to receiving in return.

11/02/2026

“The best way out, is through” Robert Frost. If you find yourself saying ‘how did i get here’ you are probably right where you need to be

Life’s curriculum is in the current moment

You don’t always get what you want - you get what you need

Don’t numb it down

Don’t freak out

Let it be your teacher

Take a deep breath in, then a long breath out and notice what changes

A grounded, alchemic Man can transform:

Chaos into Calm

Pain into Purpose & Presence

Stress into a Superpower

Depression into Depth, Drive and Direction

Worry into Wisdom

That doesn’t mean just hardening up and getting on with it - most men are good at this

Sometimes the path through requires softening

It doesn’t mean shutting off

Sometimes the path through requires stopping and listening

It doesn’t always require talking nor playing the part - the loudest man in the room who looks like he has his s**t together can be falling apart inside.

Take a look around a group of men, and sometimes it is the quiet one holding the group, the listener, the grounded one. When he speaks, you’re probably going to want to listen, because that nugget is probably the best thing you will hear that day.

It doesn’t mean finding ways to numb yourself

The path through is about feeling it all and staying whole

It doesn’t mean keep going flat tack, it means doing what matters

The secret is in the consistent work to drop into regulated state, no matter what is going on in the external world.

Because let’s face it, the external world is a bit crazy right now

It doesn’t mean pleasing everyone. The path through is often in setting boundaries and learning to say No.

By acknowledging what is coming up, letting go of the emotion and integrating the learnings you transform into a better version of you. That flows into better health, better relationships, and an abundant flow of goodness into your life.

This is the mahi we do with men, if its sounds like something you’d like to experience, reach out 👇

10/02/2026

Reflections on another lap around the sun

09/02/2026

Kai at Provider HQ last night, nature is always providing what we need to stay well
-KamoKamo from our garden
-ChimiCHURri from our garden
-Tri cap rump from the local butcher
Our well being philosophy with food:
-Take time to eat with no distractions or stress, TV off, phone off, dropping into para sympathetic nervous system
- Go slow
-karakia before Kai, giving thanks for where the Kai comes from, everyone involved in getting it to the plate, & the life force it provides
-Micro Nutrient density - as many of the minerals, vitamins & phyto chemicals your mind & body needs - natural colour mix is a good cue on the plate
- Macro nutrient mix - prioritising essential protein & fat over non essential carbs
- Whole food focussed
- Grow some of your own spray free food
Learn more on our wellbeing retreats, and online guides, w recipes👇

02/02/2026

Recipe: Macadamia crumbed Bass with cauli puree & salsa verde, Nutrient density ✅ Macros ✅ Micros ✅ Sourced as close to nature as possible ✅ one day the macadamias will come from the land too 🙏 # nutrition

25/01/2026

What is showing up in your life at the moment?

Are there thoughts, feelings, frustrations, repetitive behaviours that you need to get to the bottom of?

Ever wish you could take the mask of, and just be yourself for a week?

Ever wish you could hit pause and take some time to reorient your direction in life?

Here is your opportunity.

We offer a specially curated 4 day experience which speaks to the hearts of Men.

Adventures in nature that fulfill your soul’s innate call for the wild.

Rich conversations best had in the company of like minded men. Because we’re built for community, not isolation.

Nourishing food that will change your perspective on how you fuel your mind and body. Because our ancestors didn’t line up at the supermarket for their food.

A rare opportunity to turn devices off for four days and step into a safe space to practice new tools that you can take back into your life to cultivate ease, calmness, and healthy relationships.

Your beliefs will be challenged.

Because we can change how we are feeling by being aware of, and changing our thoughts.

And our thoughts are driven by our beliefs.

Our beliefs are formed through experiences.

Our 4 day Men’s Wellbeing Retreat is a curated experience for the mind, body and spirit of a MAN, which recognises this work needs the counsel of other men.

It may just be the experience you are looking for?

Upcoming dates:
Feb 16-19, 2026 (1 spot remaining)
Mar 16-19, 2026 (2 spots remaining)
Apr 20-23 , 2026 (2 spots remaining)

https://theprovider.co.nz/retreats

Escape for a digital free week reconnecting with nature and its healing powers. We take care of everything on this wellbeing retreat - healthy meals, a wellbeing journal, the space to talk with like minded men and learn new tools for recovery and resilience.

16/01/2026

Successful morning mission for three generations of the Holder family. Fresh kaimoana on the menu tonight!

16/01/2026

A father helping his 19yo son’s uni holiday dreams become a reality 👌💪🔥
Nice one Al & Reuben!

15/01/2026

Another delicious recipe whipped up last night using Kingi Collars / Kingi wings. All the juicy meat spooned out from the roasted wings into a creamy caper & sweetcorn sauce mixed through some gluten free quinoa spaghetti with pan fried snapper bites added 👌👌💪💪

14/01/2026

Young Alex and Leo getting an Aldies initiation today 💪💪