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Connection • Awareness • Relationship • Real-life integration. Parenting is messy, beautiful and full of teachable moments. This is your invitation to begin.

Together, I will take you beyond behaviour & quick fixes, into deeper understanding of yourself & your children ♥️ With deep honour and an open heart, I am excited to share that I am now stepping forward under the name Tanya Kay. This shift is more than a name change, it’s a rebirth. A shedding of old layers, a return to the essence of who I truly am. It reflects a deepening of my path, my purpose and the way I offer my presence and service in the world. For years, I’ve held space as the heart behind “A Journey of Remembrance,” guiding others back to their truth. That vision is still alive but now it lives through me more fully. I’ve come to realise that I am the living, breathing embodiment of that remembrance. This next chapter is about owning that truth and stepping out from behind the name and allowing myself to be fully seen. Tanya Kay is not just a name, it is the energy I now stand in. Grounded in love, clarity, deep listening and presence. Kay, meaning “keeper of the keys,” speaks to the sacred role I hold in supporting others through life’s transitions, unlocking deeper truths, honouring their pivotal moments and reconnecting them with their own inner knowing. This sacred work is offered online or in person through 1:1 sessions and group journeys. If something here is stirring something in you, I’d love to connect. You’re welcome to explore my current offerings, book a session or simply reach out for a conversation. Whether you have questions, a quiet curiosity or just feel the nudge, send me a message or let’s set up a call.

16/03/2026

One thing I’ve learnt over the years, as a mum of six, a New Zealand trained teacher and now working with families, is that when we support the parent, we also support the child.

That’s why I decided to start sharing two free weekly offerings for families.

✨ Wednesdays – for parents

Each Wednesday I’ll share simple nervous system resets and tools for parents. Small things you can use in the moment when parenting feels overwhelming or emotions are rising.

✨ Sundays – for children

On Sunday evenings I’ll share tools, insights and resources to help support your child, especially when they’re navigating big feelings, worries or emotional overwhelm.

Simple ways to better understand what might be happening beneath the behaviour.

I strongly believe parenting was never meant to be done alone and sometimes one small tool can change a whole moment.

If you’d like to build your parenting toolkit, you’re very welcome to follow my page.

And if you ever want personalised in-depth support, I also offer a free no-obligation chat.

Tanya Kay ♥️ — in Athenree.

15/03/2026

✨ One of the most overlooked ways to support big emotions ✨

Most of us have heard to soften our voice when a child is upset but what about slow your movements.

What I notice again and again, both in my home and with the families I support, is this, that our voice might be calm but our body is still moving fast and sensitive nervous systems feel that immediately.

When emotions are rising, children aren’t just listening to our words. They are reading our pace. Our speed. Our energy. Our urgency.

So one of the quiet tools we use in our home is intentionally slowing the body down.

In the moment this might look like:
• walking more slowly toward them
• lowering myself gently to their level
• reaching out with soft, unhurried movements
• sitting beside them instead of standing beside them
• reducing quick hand gestures
• taking one slow breath before I move in

Sometimes I don’t say much at all. I just let my body communicate to them that they are safe, there is no rush and I’m here with you.

Why this works

When a child’s nervous system is activated, fast movement around them can feel like more pressure on an already overwhelmed system.

Slower movement helps:
• reduce the sense of urgency
• lower threat in the body
• support co-regulation
• create more felt safety
• prevent escalation in some moments

Over time, children begin to settle more quickly because the adult energy around them feels steadier and more predictable.

Please note, this is a general nervous system reflection. Every child is wired differently.

If you’re wanting support that is specific to your child and what’s happening in your home right now, I work closely with only a small number of families at any one time so the guidance can be deeply personalised.

If that level of support would feel helpful, you’re very welcome to DM me to book a free, no-obligation chat.

Tanya Kay ♥️

12/03/2026

Does anyone else have a child who loses something at school almost every week?

Drink bottles.
Jumpers.
Lunchboxes.
Shoes.

Gracie is that child in our house.

For a while it would have been easy to think she just needed to try harder or remember better but watching her closely taught me something different.

Gracie’s mind is busy.
She notices everything.

She’s thinking about what someone said, watching what her friends are doing, wondering about something she just learned or bursting to tell a story before she forgets it.

By the time she’s finished that thought, her body has already moved on to the next thing.

And the jumper is still on the chair.

It’s not that she doesn’t care. It’s that her attention is pulled toward people, ideas and experiences more than objects.

So instead of focusing on remembering better, we have started using simple strategies that support her in a way that works for her brain. It’s still a work in progress but at least I now understand this part of her and can implement strategies that are best suited to her and how she’s wired.

✨The bag creature strategy ✨

We turned Gracie’s school bag into a mythical creature that needs feeding before she leaves the classroom.

Before she goes, she feeds the creature which at the moment is a unicorn.

Drink bottle → food
Lunchbox → food
Jumper → food
Shoes → food

Instead of remembering a list of things, she just remembers to feed her unicorn before she leaves.

Sometimes I’ll ask her if her unicorn has been fed and suddenly packing up feels less like a chore and more like a little game her brain actually enjoys.

✨Give her a job strategy ✨

Personally I love this one! Some children respond really well when they feel responsible for something.

So sometimes I share with her that her job is to be the guardian of her things. Instead of reminding her over and over, she has a role.

Kids often step into responsibility differently when it feels like something important they’re in charge of. Sometimes the children who lose the most things are also the ones most absorbed in the world around them.

The curious ones.
The storytellers.
The ones who notice everything.

And honestly I wouldn’t trade that part of her for a perfectly remembered drink bottle.

If you’re noticing patterns like this with your child too, I actually write and create child insight and support guides where I look at how your child is wired and share practical suggestions that help both you and your child navigate things like this in a way that works for them.

Each guide includes personalised insights and simple strategies you can use at home and school.

If you’re curious or want to know more, feel free to send me a message and we can arrange a no obligation chat.

Tanya Kay ♥️

11/03/2026

✨Wednesday reset for parents✨

One thing I’ve learnt as a parent is that when our child’s emotions suddenly spike, our nervous system reacts too.

In those moments it’s very easy for our brain to go into tunnel vision.

All we can see is the behaviour. The problem. The moment that needs fixing.

Over time I have discovered and used simple techniques that help me reset before responding.

The first of these techniques that I’ll be sharing is widening my vision.

Before saying anything to our child, I look around the room. I notice the edges of the room. The corners. The objects around me.

This small shift signals to my brain that I am safe and I don’t need to react right now.

It only takes a few seconds but it helps my nervous system move out of stress mode so I can respond to our children from a calmer place.

Sometimes the most powerful support we can give our children’s big emotions is settling our own nervous system first.

If you try this, I’d genuinely love to hear how it goes for you. Feel free to comment below or send me a message and let me know what you noticed.

If you know another parent who might like to try this technique, feel free to share it with them too.

✨✨Every Wednesday I’ll be sharing simple nervous system resets for parents that you can try at home. I invite you to follow along and add these to your parenting toolbox. ✨✨

Tanya Kay ♥️

10/03/2026

Something I notice often when parents reach out to me is they aren’t looking for someone to “fix” their child. They are usually trying to understand them.

Why their child reacts so strongly. Why certain situations feel so big for them. Why something that seems small can completely overwhelm their system.

When we start looking beneath the behaviour, we often see something very different.

A sensitive nervous system. A child processing big feelings. A body that hasn’t yet learned how to regulate.

When parents begin to understand what their child’s system is actually communicating, things can shift in really beautiful ways.

Sometimes all it takes is someone helping you see your child through a slightly different lens.

If you ever find yourself thinking “What am I missing here?” you’re always welcome to reach out for a no-obligation chat. Sometimes just talking it through can bring a whole new understanding.

Tanya Kay ♥️

09/03/2026

Children often behave the worst with the people they feel safest with not because they don’t respect you but because their nervous system finally relaxes enough to release everything it held in all day.

School.
Social pressure.
Holding it together.

Then they get home and the feelings spill out.

It can be exhausting as a parent but it is also a sign that you are their safe place.

A place where their body finally says, “I don’t have to hold this in anymore.”

✨ A reflection question:
When your child has one of those after-school meltdowns, what might their nervous system be trying to release?

Sometimes that question alone can shift the whole moment.

Tanya Kay ♥️

08/03/2026

One simple tool we use at home when emotions are starting to bubble

Sometimes when a child is heading toward a big reaction, their body isn’t asking to move more and it’s not always asking to be contained either.

Sometimes the nervous system is asking for something much quieter.

One of the gentle tools we use in our home is what I call slow and steady rhythm.

It helps bring the nervous system back into a more organised, settled state. In our home this can look like:

• slow back-and-forth rocking
• gentle swinging
• walking slowly together hand-in-hand
• rhythmic patting on the back
• quiet humming together
• slow, predictable breathing side-by-side

Sometimes I’ll remind Gracie and say “Let’s help your body find its slow rhythm.”

Why this works:

When children become overwhelmed, their nervous system can become fast and disorganised and rhythm helps the body:

• feel more predictable and safe
• organise sensory input
• reduce emotional intensity
• support co-regulation
• bring the body back toward calm

For many children, especially those who become frantic, wired or emotionally flooded, rhythm can be incredibly regulating.

With tools in their tool kit, children begin to notice what their body is needing such as I need to rock or I want to swing or I need slow breaths. This growing self-awareness is powerful nervous system learning.

We use this technique often in our home when I notice energy starting to climb.

A gentle note: This is a general regulation suggestion. Every child’s nervous system is beautifully unique, so this approach won’t suit every child.

If you’re wanting support that is specific to your child, I intentionally work with only a small number of families at any one time so the guidance can be deeply personalised.

If that would feel helpful, you’re very welcome to DM me to book a free, no-obligation chat and we can explore what might support your child best.

Tanya Kay ♥️

05/03/2026

✨Sunday free toolbox for parents✨

Over the years, both as a mum of six, a trained New Zealand teacher, retrained and through the families I support, I’ve collected a lot of little tools that help children when big feelings are building.

Not big complicated parenting strategies. Just simple things that support a child’s emotions, body and nervous system in the moment.

Often it’s the smallest things that make the biggest difference when a child feels overwhelmed.

If you’d like to slowly build your own parent toolkit for supporting big emotions, I invite you to follow along. Every Sunday evening I’ll share something new you can try in your own home.

I also love hearing how these tools have helped you and your child. Reach out anytime.

Tanya Kay ♥️

04/03/2026

So often, the big questions don’t come during the busy parts of the day. They come in the quiet.

It’s late. You are tired. You have done the routine, tucked them in, turned off the light and just as you are about to leave, your child’s small voice comes through the dark with a big question.

And in that moment, it can feel so easy to think they’re just stalling.

But what I have seen, both as a mum of six and in the families I work with, is something much deeper is often happening.

From a nervous system perspective, our children’s bodies are working incredibly hard all day long. They are navigating noise, expectations, friendships, transitions and constant sensory input all while trying to hold themselves together.

For many sensitive children, this keeps their nervous system in a quiet state of alert for much of the day.

By bedtime, when the house quiets and the stimulation drops, their body finally begins to downshift toward safety. Often this is the first moment their system has enough capacity to process what has been building inside.

This is why the big thoughts and vulnerable questions so often surface in the dark.

Not because they are manipulating. Not because they are trying to delay sleep but because their nervous system finally feels safe enough to let it out.

The darkness helps. With less eye contact and less stimulation, many children find it physically easier to access their deeper worries and thoughts. Their system is also often emotionally depleted by bedtime, which is why your presence can become such a powerful co-regulation anchor.

In many ways, bedtime becomes their quiet charging station.

This doesn’t mean you need to open long, deep conversations every night especially when you are exhausted because real life, right.

But when you can, even a brief moment of warmth helps like
• a slow, gentle voice
• a hand on their back
• one or two grounded sentences
• your regulated presence

Often what they are truly seeking is not a perfect answer. They are seeking:

🤍 connection
🤍 co-regulation
🤍 reassurance
🤍 and the felt sense that their inner world is safe with you

Over time, these small moments build something incredibly powerful inside your child:
✓ emotional safety
✓ body trust
✓ nervous system resilience
✓ and deep relational security

So if the big questions come late at night…

Pause.

Breathe.

Drop your shoulders.

You don’t have to solve everything in that moment. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can offer is simply your calm presence in the dark.

That is powerful medicine.

Tanya Kay ♥️

03/03/2026

If asking your child to get off technology feels like walking into a storm, you’re not alone.

I hear this from parents all the time.

You give the warning. You ask nicely. Then all of a sudden the whole moment escalates fast.

Suddenly there’s:
• pushback
• big emotions
• tension in the room
• and your own nervous system starting to spike

What I see again and again both in my own home and with the families I support is that many children genuinely struggle with the transition off screens.

Not because they’re trying to be difficult but because their nervous systems are:
• highly engaged
• overstimulated
• finding it genuinely hard to shift states quickly

And for parents? You’re often already carrying a full mental and emotional load before the moment even begins.

So the whole thing can feel much bigger than expected.

The good news is there are ways to support these moments so they don’t keep turning into battles.

When we understand your child’s unique regulation patterns and support your nervous system at the same time, things can begin to change.

If this dynamic feels familiar in your home, I offer a free, no-obligation chat. A space where we can talk through what you’re seeing, what’s getting activated for you and what personalised support could look like for your family.

You’re very welcome to DM me to book.

Tanya Kay ♥️

02/03/2026

There is something I hold very sacred about being invited into a family’s world because I know parents don’t usually reach out when things feel easy.

It’s often after the long days. The big emotional waves. The quiet moments at night wondering what am I missing?

As a mum of six, I have sat in that place more times than I can count and what I have learned, both in my own home and walking alongside the families I support, is this, that emotions are rarely the real problem. They are signals.

Signals from a sensitive nervous system. Signals from a body that has tipped into overwhelm. Signals from a child whose system is asking, in the only way it knows how, to be understood more deeply.

This is the work that lights something deep inside me! I love it!

I’ve learnt and now help show other parents, when we slow right down and look beneath the behaviour, we begin to see our child more clearly. How they are uniquely wired, what their body is communicating and where their system is asking for more support.

Then when support truly matches the child in front of us, something magical and powerful shifts…

• the intensity begins to soften
• the child feels deeply seen and safer in their body
• and parents finally have something that works in real life

There is also something even deeper and cooler happening too. When a child feels safe, regulated and understood, their whole system lifts. Their confidence grows. Their natural essence has more room to breathe.

This is how we raise the emotional tone of the home. The family. Rippling that outward into the wider world. I love this too!

I care deeply about this work which is why I keep my client spaces small and work closely with each family I support. This isn’t surface-level work. It’s deep.

If you’re feeling that quiet nudge that something deeper might be going on for your child, sometimes you just need someone who knows how to read what your child’s system is really saying.

If it feels like the right time for you, I offer a free, no-obligation chat where we can explore what might help your family most.

Tanya Kay ♥️

01/03/2026

✨ Want to know one of the tools we use in our home when big feelings are building… ✨

Sometimes when a child is overwhelmed, teary or on the edge of a big reaction, their nervous system isn’t actually asking for more movement or more talking. Sometimes it’s asking for containment and safety.

One of the simplest ways we support this at home is something I call “small and cosy.”

It’s exactly what it sounds like, helping the body feel gently contained.

In our home this can look like:
• wrapping up in a soft blanket
• sitting in a laundry basket with pillows
• snuggling into the couch corner
• wearing a snug hoodie
• gentle squeezes to arms or shoulders
• curling up with a favourite soft toy

Sometimes I’ll also say:
“Your body might need to feel small and cosy right now.”

No big conversation.
No pressure to explain.
Just support.

Why this tool works

When children are overwhelmed, their nervous system can feel very “wide open” and exposed.

Containment and gentle pressure help the body:
• feel safer and more held
• reduce sensory overwhelm
• settle the nervous system
• support emotional regulation
• prevent escalation in some moments

For many sensitive children, especially those who withdraw, freeze or get teary, this can work faster than words.

What I often notice that over time, children begin to recognise:
• Oh… my body feels better when I get cosy
• or I need my safe spot
• or I want my blanket

That level of self-awareness is gold.

We use this a lot in our home, especially with my more sensitive nervous system kids.

✨ Every Sunday I share one simple nervous system support you can try in your own home.

Follow my page if you’d like a growing toolkit of calm, connection and real-life support for sensitive kids. ✨

Please be aware that this is a general regulation suggestion. Every child’s nervous system is wired differently so this approach may not be suited to your child.

If you’re wanting support that is specific to your child, I work closely with only a small number of families at any one time so the guidance can be deeply personalised.

If that level of support would feel helpful, you’re very welcome to DM me to book a free, no-obligation chat and we can explore what might support your child best.

Tanya Kay ♥️

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