Elisa Di Napoli Holistic Life Coaching and Psychological Guidance

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Elisa Di Napoli is a creative coach, intuitive holistic hypnotherapist, author, and singer-songwriter. She specializes in helping artists take their creativity to the next level. Best selling author of “Dare to Be Seen” she has been featured on radio and podcasts, and her articles have been published on blogs and online magazines. Elisa's background in comparative religion, music, and acting allows her to offer creative strategies for her clients, while her motto “dare to be seen” urges them to shine their light on the world.

As we journey through life, many of us experience that profound shift—from being the cared-for child to becoming the car...
20/01/2026

As we journey through life, many of us experience that profound shift—from being the cared-for child to becoming the caregiver for our aging parents. 🌿 Whether it's helping them transition to a retirement home or simply checking in more often, this change stirs deep emotions. It invites us to face our own mortality alongside theirs, while unresolved feelings from our childhood may resurface—like how well they nurtured us. Even after years of independence, the fear of losing them can feel overwhelming. 💔

Yet, in this vulnerability lies opportunity. Connecting with friends and family who share similar paths can offer profound support, helping us navigate the past's echoes and the present's challenges. Sometimes, a trusted ear—or professional guidance—provides the space to process it all with compassion. 🗣️❤️

This phase is a rebirth: a chance to reflect on our family's legacy, our own life choices, and the dreams we still hold for our future. As our parents' stories near completion, we reclaim our narrative with intention and grace. These cycles are life's greatest teachers—embracing them fosters healing and growth. 🌱✨

If this resonates, I'm here as your hypnotherapist, life coach, and counsellor to support your journey. Let's explore together. DM for sessions.

Hope isn’t just wishful thinking—it’s a powerful psychological resource. Research shows it boosts resilience, reduces st...
05/01/2026

Hope isn’t just wishful thinking—it’s a powerful psychological resource. Research shows it boosts resilience, reduces stress, strengthens relationships, and even improves physical health.

According to psychologist Charles Snyder, hope has three parts:
✨ Goals – the outcomes you want
✨ Agency – your belief you can reach them
✨ Pathways– the strategies you create to get there

In other words, hopeful people don’t just dream—they take action and adapt when obstacles appear.

The benefits are real: hopeful people enjoy better mental health, greater life satisfaction, and stronger performance at school and work.

The good news? Hope is a skill you can build. Here are a few ways:
🌱 Set meaningful goals– break them into small steps you can actually take.
🌱 Visualize success – see both the outcome *and* the path forward.
🌱 Reframe setbacks – ask “What can I learn here?” instead of giving up.
🌱 Practice gratitude & kindness – both foster perspective and possibility.
🌱 Connect with others – hope grows in community.

Hope isn’t about ignoring reality—it’s about choosing to believe in better outcomes and fueling yourself with the energy to pursue them.

✨ Question for you: What’s one hopeful step you can take today toward a goal that matters to you?

Creativity isn’t just for artists—it’s the spark that turns ordinary life into something extraordinary. ✨ Why it matters...
29/12/2025

Creativity isn’t just for artists—it’s the spark that turns ordinary life into something extraordinary.

✨ Why it matters: Research shows that positive emotions like joy and curiosity fuel creative thinking. When you’re in a state of “flow,” you not only feel more alive—you also open yourself to new opportunities and synchronicities.

✨ How to start awakening your creativity:

1. Set the intention – Remind yourself daily: “I am a creative being, open to inspiration.”
2. Create space – Even a small corner filled with inspiring objects can signal your mind it’s time to explore.
3. Practice daily – Journal, doodle, cook, take photos—anything that lets you express freely.
4. Seek new experiences – Step outside your routine to spark fresh ideas.
5. Stay present – Mindfulness and gratitude keep you attuned to everyday inspiration.
6. Find community*– Surround yourself with people who celebrate creativity.

By weaving these small practices into your life, you begin to bridge imagination with reality—turning your visions into lived experiences.

✨ Question for you: What’s one creative practice you’d like to bring into your week?

In our always-on world, screens can amp up holiday stress—endless notifications, FOMO, and that nagging phone pull. But ...
23/12/2025

In our always-on world, screens can amp up holiday stress—endless notifications, FOMO, and that nagging phone pull. But what if you could reclaim your calm? Check out my latest guide: "14 Proven Strategies to Reduce Screen Anxiety and Boost Your Mental Health."
Packed with evidence-based tips like notification tweaks, device-free zones, and a 4-week plan to sleep better and feel more present. Perfect for unwinding this season!
Read it now: https://elisadinapoli.com/reduce-screen-anxiety-practical-strategies

“I feel like I have to apologize for doing well.”If that sounds familiar, you may be experiencing *Tall Poppy Syndrome*—...
22/12/2025

“I feel like I have to apologize for doing well.”

If that sounds familiar, you may be experiencing *Tall Poppy Syndrome*—the fear that standing out or succeeding will make you a target for criticism, envy, or rejection.

For many people, success doesn’t feel like joy—it feels like guilt, shame, or even danger. You might find yourself downplaying achievements, rejecting compliments, avoiding opportunities, or shrinking to make others more comfortable.

This can leave you anxious, burnt out, and disconnected from the very progress you’ve worked so hard for.

🌱 Hypnotherapy can help you shift these patterns by:

1. **Naming the problem** – Realizing that your struggle isn’t a personal flaw, but a learned cultural or family pattern.
2. **Exploring hidden beliefs** – Uncovering early messages like “don’t stand out” or “ambition is selfish” that still shape your self-worth.
3. **Reframing success** – Learning to see achievement not as arrogance, but as self-respect—and even as inspiration for others.
4. **Accepting celebration** – Practicing new ways of receiving compliments, acknowledging wins, and letting pride feel safe.
5. **Building support** – Connecting with people who uplift you, so you no longer feel you have to shrink to belong.

Through guided hypnosis, you can gently release old conditioning and begin to feel safe being seen—so your success becomes something to celebrate, not apologize for.

✨ You don’t have to cut yourself down to fit in. You’re allowed to thrive!

𝗠𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 “w𝗼𝗿𝗸.” Think of it more like creating art—something that flows with joy, v...
15/12/2025

𝗠𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 “w𝗼𝗿𝗸.” Think of it more like creating art—something that flows with joy, vision, and a touch of intuition.

Here’s how to use the art of attraction to invite more meaningful friendships into your life:

✨ 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘃𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻
What does an ideal friendship look like for you? What kinds of activities, qualities, and energy would you love to share? Clarity helps call the right people in.

✨ 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝘂𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
When meeting someone new, don’t overthink. Notice how you feel in their presence. Do you sense openness, warmth, ease? Let that guide you more than mental checklists.

✨ 𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲
Friendship is a process. Collect experiences and information before making judgments. Allow things to unfold.

✨ 𝗩𝗶𝘀𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘇𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
Spend a moment imagining what a nourishing friendship would feel like—laughing together, supporting each other, being truly seen.

✨ 𝗕𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁
If you want loyalty, be loyal. If you want kindness, be kind. Like attracts like.

When you treat friendship like art, you shift from striving to creating. You paint the canvas of connection with vision, intuition, and alignment.

🎨 Question for you: What’s one quality you want to embody more in your friendships right now?

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲: “Love yourself unconditionally” is beautiful advice—but for many, it feels so far from realit...
08/12/2025

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲: “Love yourself unconditionally” is beautiful advice—but for many, it feels so far from reality that it can be discouraging. So here’s a more approachable goal: becoming someone you genuinely like being.

At its core, this comes down to two things:
👉 Doing less of what erodes your self-trust and self-esteem
👉 Doing more of what builds them

✨ Do less of:

* Habits that leave you drained (endless doom-scrolling, anyone?)
* One-sided relationships
* Burning out to prove your worth
* Ignoring intuition or overriding boundaries

✨ Do more of:

* Challenging yourself so you see what you’re capable of
* Taking real care of your body, heart, and mind
* Getting clear on your values and living by them
* Investing in mutual, nourishing relationships
* Prioritizing creative outlets and community

It’s not about overhauling your life overnight. It’s about noticing how your daily choices shape your relationship with yourself.

And here’s the empowering part: if your habits and choices can erode self-trust, they can also restore it. The discomfort of seeing where we’re stuck is also a reminder that we have agency—and that we’re far less stuck than we think.

✨ What’s one small “do more” you want to start with this week?

𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗺—we all know it too well. That voice that calls us awkward, inadequate, or broken. That replays mistakes, ...
01/12/2025

𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗺—we all know it too well. That voice that calls us awkward, inadequate, or broken. That replays mistakes, magnifies flaws, and makes us cringe at ourselves.

It’s tempting to want to silence or defeat the inner critic. But here’s the paradox: when we attack it, we only add more stress to a system already under pressure.

What if instead, we got curious?

💭 𝗔𝘀𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲:

* “What are you trying to do for me by pointing out my flaws?”
* “What are you afraid will happen if I don’t focus on my mistakes?”
* “What would help you soften your tone?”

Often, the answers sound surprisingly tender:
👉 “I don’t want you to get hurt again.”
👉 “I’m scared we won’t be loved if we’re not perfect.”
👉 “I’m trying to keep you safe.”

Seen this way, 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗺 𝗶𝘀 𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝗯𝘂𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗿𝗰𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗼𝗿—c𝗹𝘂𝗺𝘀𝘆 𝗶𝗻 𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗼𝗱𝘀, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗿𝗼𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲.

Of course, beating ourselves up isn’t the best way to grow. But 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗴𝗻𝗶𝘇𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰 helps us respond with compassion, not shame.

Ironically, when we stop fighting it, our critic often quiets down—because it finally trusts we’re listening, learning, and moving forward in healthier ways.

✨ Need help? Click the link to find out what guidance you could get.

Want to grow as a songwriter? Writing regularly is essential—but how you use that time matters just as much as showing u...
26/11/2025

Want to grow as a songwriter? Writing regularly is essential—but how you use that time matters just as much as showing up.

It’s easy to default to the parts of writing that come naturally—polishing a chorus hook, or jamming on a comfortable chord progression. But just like practicing an instrument, growth happens when we face the harder parts, the ones we tend to avoid.

Writing a song a week is a great habit—it builds consistency, reduces fear, and helps us embrace both the ordinary and the inspired. But if you really want to level up, try adding exercises that target specific “songwriting muscles.”

🎶 Short (10–15 min):

* Write about a memory using all 5 senses.
* Create a 3-chord progression and record it.
* Take a phrase and sing it at drastically different tempos—notice how the meaning shifts.

🎶 Longer (30+ min):

* Borrow the groove from a favorite song as a launchpad.
* Outline a song concept, writing one sentence per section.
* Take a walk and record stray thoughts—later, turn them into lyrical seeds.

Think of it like cross-training. You don’t just build stamina—you expand your creative vocabulary, spark new ideas, and unlock fresh joy in the process.

Even 10 minutes a day compounds. A little regular practice will take your songs further than waiting for the “perfect” moment.

✨ Want help? Get a free kickstart your project session with me (see link)

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗴𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂: Ever notice how your inner critic gets louder the moment s...
19/11/2025

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗴𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂:
Ever notice how your inner critic gets louder the moment someone important is in the audience? Suddenly it’s not about expressing yourself—it’s about proving yourself.

Turns out, this voice in our head often isn’t just us—it’s a mashup of parents, teachers, and authority figures whose judgments we’ve internalized. Research even shows that when people were flashed (unconsciously!) a disapproving face, they judged their own ideas way more harshly than when they saw an approving one.

So what does this mean for us as musicians? Our self-talk often reflects the “audiences” we carry around inside. And if those inner audiences are critical, it can trigger shame, anxiety, and self-doubt.

But here’s the good news: we can choose which audience to play to.

🎶 Use the “rule of thirds”: 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝟭/𝟯 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗴𝗲𝗻𝘂𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝗻𝗷𝗼𝘆 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗲, not the ones who look checked out.
🎶 Try the “gift reframe”: 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗼𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴—your music is something you’re giving, not defending.
🎶 Prime yourself with love: a picture of 𝗮 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱 in your case, or even 𝗶𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 can soften the critic’s edge.

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂: undefinedConfidence can be slippery, right? One day you feel unstoppable, t...
12/11/2025

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂:
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Confidence can be slippery, right? One day you feel unstoppable, the next it’s gone. And often, it’s that little voice in your head that’s the culprit.

We’ve all heard “just think positive,” but research shows it’s not that simple. Negative self-talk doesn’t always hurt performance—sometimes it can even fuel it, depending on how we respond.

In one study, athletes who reframed discouraging thoughts as challenges performed better—especially when things got tough. For example, instead of “My legs are tired,” adding “...but I can push through” gave them an edge.

So what if musicians used the same strategy? Instead of letting criticism shut you down, flip it with a “but.”

🎶 “That was out of tune…but I’ve fixed tricky intonation before, I can clean this up too.”
🎶 “This passage feels impossible…but if I keep experimenting, I’ll find a way through.”

Try it in your next practice:

1. Say your thoughts out loud to catch them.
2. When a negative one shows up, add a “but” + a challenge statement.

It’s not about silencing the critic—it’s about refusing to give it the last word. Confidence grows when you practice responding, not when you never hear that inner voice at all.

How do you usually handle negative self-talk in practice or performance? If you need help feel free to reach out!

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Elisa Di Napoli is a holistic clinical hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner, empowerment and performance coach, author, and singer-songwriter. She specializes in helping performing artists command the stage and magnify their presence so they can share their gifts with their audience and shine their light on the world. Best selling author of “Dare to Be Seen” she has been featured on radio and podcasts, and her articles have been published on blogs and online magazines. Elisa's background in comparative religion, music, and acting allows her to offer creative strategies for her clients, while her motto “dare to be seen” urges them to shine their light on the world.