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I remember being called once again to a Regional Trial Court to explain my findings in an annulment case. The judge aske...
22/10/2025

I remember being called once again to a Regional Trial Court to explain my findings in an annulment case. The judge asked me who among the couple had suffered in their imperfect marriage.

I answered softly, โ€œBoth.โ€

Love always involves ๐™ฉ๐™ฌ๐™ค people, and in the ruins of it, both often bleed in different ways. One may suffer in silence, the other in guilt. One clings too long, the other runs too soon. But in the end, pain always finds both.

After the trial, I sat quietly and reflected.

How strange it is that love, ๐™ฌ๐™๐™ž๐™˜๐™ ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š ๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ข๐™ž๐™จ๐™š๐™™ ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ข๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฉ, could also become the source of the deepest sorrow.

Sometimes, love doesnโ€™t end because people stop caring. It ends because theyโ€™ve cared too much, too long, without being cared for in the same way.

Love can be beautiful,
๐™—๐™ช๐™ฉ it can also be cruel.
And often,
the cruelest part is realizing
that both were victims,
๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ก๐™ฎ ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™™๐™ž๐™›๐™›๐™š๐™ง๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™ฎ๐™จ.
โ˜บ๏ธ

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Life often tests us by taking away the very things we thought we couldnโ€™t live without.We chase love that never stayed, ...
21/10/2025

Life often tests us by taking away the very things we thought we couldnโ€™t live without.
We chase love that never stayed, money that never felt enough, attention that fades, approval that drains, and friendships that change when life does.

At some point, we realize that ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฎ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ we lose is meant to return, and not everything we hold is meant to last.

Sometimes, peace is found not in getting what we want, but in accepting whatโ€™s no longer ours to fight for.

At times, we have no choice but to let things be. โ˜บ๏ธโœจ

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Psychiatrist and psychologist in Bacolod?
Saint Camillus Premium Healthcare Services,
Central City Walk Robinsons-Mandalagan
Bacolod City, Negros Occidental
+639301699331 | 09102582297

๐™Ž๐™ช๐™˜๐™˜๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™– ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ก๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ฎ. ๐™„๐™ฉโ€™๐™จ ๐™– ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฎ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ง๐™จ๐™ž๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š. If someone finally enjoys the comfort they once prayed...
19/10/2025

๐™Ž๐™ช๐™˜๐™˜๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™– ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ก๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ฎ.
๐™„๐™ฉโ€™๐™จ ๐™– ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฎ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ง๐™จ๐™ž๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š.

If someone finally enjoys the comfort they once prayed for, ๐™™๐™ค๐™ฃโ€™๐™ฉ ๐™จ๐™–๐™ฎ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ฎโ€™๐™ซ๐™š ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™œ๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ฌ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ฎ ๐™˜๐™–๐™ข๐™š ๐™›๐™ง๐™ค๐™ข. Donโ€™t let envy blind you to another personโ€™s journey. ๐™”๐™ค๐™ช ๐™ฌ๐™š๐™ง๐™š๐™ฃโ€™๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š when they worked through sleepless nights, silent prayers, or failures that almost broke them.

So, instead of comparing, be inspired. Instead of resenting, keep building.

Never let your eyes be contaminated by envy. Let them be enlightened by gratitude. โ˜บ๏ธ

One time I was asked by the court to explain the nature of depression. I said that depression is not just sadness or wea...
17/10/2025

One time I was asked by the court to explain the nature of depression. I said that depression is not just sadness or weakness. It is a deep kind of exhaustion that slowly affects how a person thinks, feels, and lives.

Some people still think it is just overthinking, but it is more than that. It can come from many things like trauma, loss, stress, rejection, or the feeling of being unseen for too long. Depression can happen quietly, ๐™š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™œ๐™š๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™™๐™š๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™š ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฌ.

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It is courage. Healing does not start with pretending you are fine. It starts with being honest that you are not, and that is okay.

Be gentle with yourself and others. Sometimes the people who smile the most are the ones carrying the heaviest hearts.

๐™‹๐™–๐™œ๐™ž๐™œ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ข๐™–๐™ฃ๐™๐™ž๐™™.Sometimes, itโ€™s not that people stop loving; they just stop feeling. When pain becomes too much, the hea...
16/10/2025

๐™‹๐™–๐™œ๐™ž๐™œ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ข๐™–๐™ฃ๐™๐™ž๐™™.

Sometimes, itโ€™s not that people stop loving; they just stop feeling. When pain becomes too much, the heart builds walls higher than reason can reach.

It can be a defense mechanism. In trauma psychology, emotional numbness is a response to overwhelming stress when the body and mind disconnect to survive. Instead of processing pain consciously, a person unconsciously detaches from their emotions to avoid being hurt again. This reaction is common among those who have experienced PTSD or complex trauma.

In a relationship, being โ€œmanhidโ€ slowly destroys what love once tried to build. When one stops responding, caring, or even noticing, the other begins to fade.

Love doesnโ€™t die overnight. It dies in silence, in apathy, in the space between โ€œI careโ€ and โ€œI donโ€™t feel anything anymore.โ€

Whatever it is, pain, fear, or pride, learn to feel again. Because healing begins the moment you choose to feel what you once tried to avoid.

Realization inside the courtroomToday, I was asked by the court to explain the nature of a broken marriage. People, at t...
15/10/2025

Realization inside the courtroom

Today, I was asked by the court to explain the nature of a broken marriage. People, at times, are drawn to what feels familiar, ๐™š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ฌ๐™๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™๐™ช๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™จ, because it reminds them of something from their ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™จ ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง ๐™๐™š๐™–๐™ก๐™š๐™™. This means that some individuals are not emotionally ready to give what they never learned to receive, such as care, trust, or stability. Many relationships break not from a lack of love but from unhealed wounds carried into marriage.

True love begins when a person heals from within. It is ๐™ฌ๐™๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ฌ๐™š ๐™ก๐™š๐™–๐™ง๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ก๐™ค๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™›๐™š๐™–๐™ง, ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ฎ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ก, ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ก๐™š๐™ฉ ๐™œ๐™ค ๐™ฌ๐™๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™–๐™˜๐™š ๐™ข๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง๐™จ ๐™ข๐™ค๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™ž๐™™๐™š.

Healing is not forgetting; it is choosing to stop the pain from repeating.

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โš ๏ธTRIGGER WARNING: SENSITIVE INFO ABOUT SYMPTOMS OF MENTAL HEALTHโ—๏ธTINGNAN: WARNING SIGNS NG MENTAL ILLNESSโ—๏ธNgayong Oct...
10/10/2025

โš ๏ธTRIGGER WARNING: SENSITIVE INFO ABOUT SYMPTOMS OF MENTAL HEALTH

โ—๏ธTINGNAN: WARNING SIGNS NG MENTAL ILLNESSโ—๏ธ

Ngayong October 10, World Mental Health Day, we must appreciate the importance of our mental health. Dapat nating malaman ang mga posibleng sintomas, o maagang senyales ng mental illness.

Kung nangyayari ang ilan sa mga sumusunod, maaaring sumangguni sa ating mga doktor o mga eksperto.

MGA POSIBLENG INDIKASYON o SINTOMAS
๐ŸšฉMatinding pagbabago sa pagtulog o gana sa pagkain.
๐ŸšฉMabilis na pagbabago sa mood.
๐ŸšฉSocial Withdrawal / Isolation.
๐ŸšฉProblema sa konsentrasyon, memorya o at laman ng pananalita.
๐ŸšฉHindi normal na sensitivity sa ingay, amoy o sitwasyon.
๐ŸšฉKawalang-interes sa anumang aktibidad.
๐ŸšฉHindi lohikal na pag-iisip
๐ŸšฉHindi normal na takot o paghihinala sa ibang tao.
๐ŸšฉHindi pangkaraniwang pag-uugali.
๐ŸšฉMalaking pagbabago sa mga ginagampanang tungkulin sa paaralan o trabaho

Kung ang isang tao ay nakakaranas ng ilan sa mga nabanggit na sintoma at nagdudulot ang mga ito ng malubhang problema sa kakayahang mag-aral, magtrabaho o makipag-ugnayan sa iba, dapat siyang magpatingin sa isang propesyonal na eksperto sa kalusugang mental.

Ang mga taong nag-iisip o may planong magpakamatay, o nag-iisip na saktan ang iba, ay nangangailangan ng agarang atensyon.

โš ๏ธDisclaimer: For educational purposes only. If you need professional help, please reach out to your trusted doctor/ psychiatrist / psychologist or to the nearest health facility for appropriate evaluation and intervention

Reference: American Psychiatric Association

When the annulment case was ๐™œ๐™ง๐™–๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™™I received a message from a client that the petition where my psychological evaluatio...
07/10/2025

When the annulment case was ๐™œ๐™ง๐™–๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™™

I received a message from a client that the petition where my psychological evaluation report was used for the nullity of marriage had been granted.

As a psychologist, moments like this always bring mixed emotions. ๐™‹๐™–๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™–๐™ก๐™ง๐™š๐™–๐™™๐™ฎ ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™›๐™ช๐™ก, but sometimes, the bravest kind of love is the one that chooses peace over persistence. There are cases where the best solution is not reconciliation ๐™—๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ง๐™š๐™™๐™ž๐™ง๐™š๐™˜๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ.

๐™ˆ๐™–๐™ง๐™ง๐™ž๐™–๐™œ๐™š, ๐™–๐™›๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง ๐™–๐™ก๐™ก, ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™Ÿ๐™ช๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™—๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ก๐™ค๐™ซ๐™š. It is about maturity, the ability to manage oneโ€™s emotions, take responsibility, and nurture another personโ€™s well-being without losing oneโ€™s own. When immaturity, unresolved trauma, and deep-seated dysfunction govern the relationship, love alone cannot hold it together.

Yes, it is also a reminder that emotional readiness is not a luxury but a prerequisite for building a lasting union.

To anyone going through this process, remember that healing doesnโ€™t always come from holding on. Sometimes, it begins when you finally let go with understanding, dignity, and peace. ๐Ÿ’”โœจ

Because the end of one chapter can still be the start of someoneโ€™s wholeness. โ˜บ๏ธ



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Central City Walk Robinsons-Mandalagan
Bacolod City, Negros Occidental
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