The Negrense Psychologist

27/08/2025

cheers.

13/08/2025

Some loves feel unshakable before marriage
full of promises, hope, and the belief
that nothing could break you apart.
But marriage can reveal cracks
you never saw coming.

Over time,
some loves run out of trust,
out of care,
out of the will to fight for each other.

When that happens,
love stops being a safe place
and becomes the very thing that drains you.
It’s not weakness to walk away
from a love that’s already dying
it’s choosing to live
when staying would only break you more.

Because real love should keep you alive,
not slowly bury the person you used to be.
And when love becomes the reason you’re losing yourself,
the bravest thing you can do is let it go.

11/08/2025

𝙆𝙖𝙞𝙗𝙞𝙜𝙖𝙣.

Not just someone who’s there when life is good,
but someone who stays when the world starts falling apart.

We don’t just have friends or family,
we have 𝙠𝙖𝙨𝙖𝙢𝙖 𝙨𝙖 𝙡𝙖𝙗𝙖𝙣.
Even if they’re out of their depth,
even if they don’t know all the details,
if they love you, they’ll fight for you.
The talk or scolding? That comes later, 𝙞𝙣 𝙥𝙧𝙞𝙫𝙖𝙩𝙚.

Because for us, being a kaibigan means
showing up even when it’s inconvenient,
defending you even when it’s risky,
and standing beside you even when the crowd walks away.

So if you have someone like that, treasure them.
Not everyone will fight for you when you’re not the hero of your own story. ☺️

09/08/2025

Life is too precious to waste on
“could haves” and “should haves.”
Yet too often, we Filipinos 𝙬𝙖𝙞𝙩
sometimes thinking “𝙢𝙖𝙮 𝙗𝙪𝙠𝙖𝙨 𝙥𝙖,”
sometimes 𝙝𝙤𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙡
what we 𝙣𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 tried to fix.

But the truth?
We can’t keep postponing what’s right.
We speak up when it matters.
We show up 𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚.
We make amends 𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙚 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙩𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜

Because 𝙖𝙖𝙣𝙝𝙞𝙣 𝙥𝙖 𝙖𝙣𝙜 𝙙𝙖𝙢𝙤 𝙠𝙪𝙣𝙜 𝙥𝙖𝙩𝙖𝙮 𝙣𝙖 𝙖𝙣𝙜 𝙠𝙖𝙗𝙖𝙮𝙤?
We know this. We say this.
But we also need to live it.
Don’t wait for the moment
when it no longer matters.

Do it now
𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚’𝙨 𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚,
𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙚 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙨.
Because once it’s gone…
no amount of love,
regret,
or “𝙨𝙖𝙣𝙖”
can bring it back. ☺️

06/08/2025

𝙋𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙠𝙞𝙧𝙖𝙢𝙙𝙖𝙢: Feeling the Unspoken

Silence speaks louder than words.
We don’t always say what we mean
𝙬𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚 𝙞𝙩.

It’s the way we notice
the shift in someone’s tone,
the way we sense discomfort
before anyone admits it,
the way we read a room without asking questions.

It’s rooted in empathy,
in the deep desire to connect without offending,
to understand without forcing words out of someone’s mouth.
It’s patience, it’s observation,
it’s respect for the spaces between words.

But it can also keep us from speaking up,
from expressing our needs,
from addressing conflict head-on.

Still, Pakikiramdam is part of who we are.
It’s how we care, how we protect,
how we love without always saying, “I love you.”

So yeah
“𝙥𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙠𝙞𝙧𝙖𝙢𝙙𝙖𝙣”
makiramdam.

Because here, you don’t always have to speak to be understood.

05/08/2025

They always say,
“You’ll only regret the chances you didn’t take.”
It sounds brave. It sounds romantic.

But sometimes,
we’ve taken chances
that didn’t just miss the mark
they left us hurting…
chances that didn’t lead to growth or victory,
only to scars we never saw coming.

𝙎𝙪𝙧𝙚, 𝙬𝙚 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙙 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢.
𝘽𝙪𝙩 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙘𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙖 𝙥𝙧𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙩𝙤𝙤 𝙝𝙞𝙜𝙝 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙞𝙩 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝 𝙞𝙩.

So now we know
not every risk is worth the fall.
Sometimes, choosing peace
is the braver choice.
Because not every fall makes us stronger…
some just break us.

And 𝙖𝙡𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙧𝙞𝙨𝙠𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙨 𝙣𝙚𝙘𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙖𝙧𝙮,
we’ve learned to take them
with 𝙗𝙤𝙩𝙝 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣
because protecting our peace
is just as important as chasing our dreams.

05/08/2025

Promise yourself
that no matter how hard it gets,
you will still choose to believe in the good.

In healing.
In second chances.
In yourself.

Promise yourself joy
without guilt.
Peace without permission.
Love without conditions.

You deserve a life that feels like yours.
So make that vow.
Promise yourself all the good things.
Because you’re not asking for too much.
You’re asking for what you truly need.

03/08/2025

You’re not selfish for creating space.
You’re not wrong for walking away
from what drains your peace.

You’re growing. You’re healing. You’re finally choosing what’s right not just for them,
but for you.

There comes a time
when constantly showing up for others
at the expense of your own well-being
is no longer strength
it’s self-neglect.

So you begin to step back.
You draw the line.
You take your power back.

And in that silence
when the noise of everyone else fades
you finally hear the voice that matters most:
𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣.

You don’t need to explain your peace.
You just need to protect it.

Start doing what feels right
even if it means doing it alone.

You owe it to yourself
to stop breaking your back
𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙚𝙡𝙨𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚.

This is your life.
This is your moment.
Begin again
with you. 💛

01/08/2025

Filipino bravery: “𝘽𝙖𝙝𝙖𝙡𝙖 𝙣𝙖”

It’s what a mother whispers
before working overseas,
unsure of what lies ahead
but sure her children must eat.

It’s what a friend says
before standing up for someone they love
even when they might lose everything.

It’s what lovers say
when they choose to fight for each other
despite distance, judgment, or fear.

“Bahala na” is not recklessness.

It’s sacrifice.
It’s risk.
It’s love in action.

This is Filipino courage:
we leap, not because it’s safe
𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙬𝙚 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚
𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙛𝙖𝙡𝙡.

Bahala na. 🇵🇭🔥

30/07/2025

Trust Him ☝️

30/07/2025

hehe

Huehue

30/07/2025

Friendship ☺️

Mapa-high o low maintenance man ang friendship, constant niyo pa rin ang isa't isa. ❤️