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The Negrense Psychologist, Bacolod CIty (2026)

29/04/2026

Coloring pa more.😭

28/04/2026

Annulment reflection from a psychologist

Love cannot grow where responsibility is missing. Staying too long may look like strength, but it can slowly drain a person from within.

Walking away is not always failure.
Sometimes, it is healing.
Sometimes it is the right choice.

27/04/2026

relate! 🫩🔱😂

27/04/2026

Be your own home.
Date yourself.
Book that trip.
Sip that iced coffee in some random café.
Go to places you’ve never been.
Stop waiting for someone to say it’s okay
you’re the permission you’ve been looking for.
There’s a different kind of peace when you realize you are enough.
Yes. You are enough. ☺️♥️

26/04/2026

We are all allowed to dream.

A child who dreams is a child who still believes the world can open for them.

Sometimes, without meaning to,
parents step in too quickly.
They redirect. They replace the dream with something more like their own.
And little by little, something inside the child begins to close.

𝘼 𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙡𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚.
𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙡𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧𝙨.

They need space to try, to imagine, to believe in something that feels real to them, even if it does not fully make sense yet.

If the dream leads them to growth, to purpose,
to something better, then support it.
Not by taking over, but by standing beside them.

Because 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙖 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙗𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙧, the child does not just lose a goal.

They lose their voice.

They 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤𝙪𝙗𝙩 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡.
To shrink what they want.
To choose what is safe over what is true.

And one day, they may stop dreaming at all.

The hardest thing to rebuild is not opportunity.
It is belief in oneself.

𝙎𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙛𝙪𝙡 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙨𝙞𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚.
You might think you are protecting them from failure.

But you may be teaching them to give up before they even begin.

26/04/2026

“Is my child normal?” ☺️

This is a very common question from parents. When a child is growing, it is natural to worry about whether their behavior is okay.

Children go through many changes, especially in their social and emotional development. That is why 𝙬𝙚 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙛𝙪𝙡 𝙞𝙣 𝙤𝙗𝙨𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙚𝙫𝙖𝙡𝙪𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙠𝙞𝙙𝙨.

Younger children often copy what others do and begin to show independence by saying “mine” and wanting things right away. They may insist on doing tasks on their own, even if they cannot fully manage yet. They can also show strong emotions such as crying, anger, or tantrums, while exploring new things but still needing you nearby for security. They start to show interest in other children, although they are still learning how to interact.

As a parent, some days are tiring, frustrating, even embarrassing. But these are part of your own unique journey as a parent.

What matters is that you are aware and paying attention. 𝘾𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙𝙧𝙚𝙣 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙖 𝙡𝙤𝙩 𝙗𝙮 𝙬𝙖𝙩𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙮𝙤𝙪. They copy your behavior, your reactions, and how you treat others.

So your role is not just to correct them, but to model good behavior. This is where they begin to learn what is right and wrong.

If you feel something is not typical or you are unsure, it is always okay to consult a professional. Do not be shy. It means you are being a 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙥𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙗𝙡𝙚 parent.

In the end, keep it simple.
Give them love, talk to them, and let them try things at their own pace, even if it is messy or imperfect.

As they grow, you will see it clearly. The love you gave when they were young is the same love they will give back.

PS. Thanks Ma and Pa for this photo. 😅❤️

25/04/2026

An open letter from the one who provides.

They see me working, providing, smiling when needed, and always showing up.
But they do not see the pressure that never leaves. The nights I lie awake thinking how to make what I have enough. The times I put myself last because someone else needs more.

I live a life most people do not really see.

You learn early that your dreams can wait. That your wants are not a priority. That your family comes first, even when it slowly takes parts of you.

There are days I feel strong, like I can carry everything. But there are also days I feel tired in a way I cannot explain. Days when I wish someone would ask me if I am okay and really listen.

People say, “You’re strong.”
Others will say, “You are too strict.”
But I did not choose this. It was something I became.

There are things I keep to myself.
How tiring it is to always understand.
How lonely it is to carry everything.
How sometimes I just want to rest
and be taken care of, even for a while.

Still, I keep going.

Not because it is easy,
but because I love.

And to those who come after me, this is what I hope for you.

I do not want you to carry what I carried.
I do not want you to lose yourself just to survive.

And if one day you finally understand
what I went through,
I hope you do not feel guilty.

I hope you feel grateful.
And I hope you build a life
where you do not have to carry everything alone.

Because everything I carried,
I carried so you would not have to.

Even if it meant no one ever carried me.

24/04/2026

Kapag nag jowa ka ng psych major

24/04/2026

Betrayal is not just pain, it is a violation of trust

Maleficent did not just lose her wings that night. She lost her innocence, her belief in love, and the part of herself that once saw goodness in others.

It is not just what someone did.
It is what you believed about them.
The memories change.
The meaning changes.
What once felt safe now feels like a lie.

That is why it hurts more.
Because they did not just break your heart,
they made you feel unsafe.

And that kind of pain stays longer, not because you are weak, but because you were real.

23/04/2026

These are some truths that hit hard as an adult.

📌 𝓢𝓲𝓶𝓹𝓵𝓮 moments matter most. Yung kape mo, the genuine smile, a quiet evening, they’re the real treasures.

📌The 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓹𝓪𝓷𝔂 you keep is powerful. Piliin maigi. Surround yourself with those who uplift and inspire you.

📌 𝓛𝓲𝓯𝓮 𝓲𝓼 𝓼𝓱𝓸𝓻𝓽. Don’t wait for the “perfect time”. Embrace the now. Make yourself happy.

📌 𝙁𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙨 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚. Not everyone is meant to stay. Sa totoo lang, some people are only there for a season, and that’s okay.

📌 𝙁𝙖𝙢𝙞𝙡𝙮 𝙞𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙛𝙚𝙘𝙩. You can love them and still set boundaries.

📌 𝘽𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙞𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨. Sometimes it’s where you find your purpose.

📌 𝙈𝙤𝙣𝙚𝙮 𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙨, 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙞𝙩’𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜. It solves problems, but it won’t fix a restless mind or a broken relationship.

📌 𝙀𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙪𝙣𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙚𝙙. Life’s twists and turns are inevitable; mag-adapt.

📌 𝙏𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙨 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚. Your observed patterns don’t lie, even when words do.

📌 𝙁𝙖𝙞𝙡𝙪𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚𝙣𝙙. It’s a stepping stone to growth and resilience.

📌You hold the 𝙥𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙘𝙝𝙤𝙞𝙘𝙚. Every decision shapes your journey. Always choose with intention.

Growing up isn’t just about work and bills; at times it’s about our quiet realizations that reshape how we see the world.

Always embrace your journey. 😘☺️

22/04/2026

There are places that teach lessons, difficult but necessary ones. In such places, effort does not always translate into value, and meaningful and honest contributions are not always recognized. Time, energy, and work may be given with the intention of building something purposeful, bringing in opportunities, generating impact, and striving for growth.

Yet later, those who strive are often questioned more than they are supported, while those who remain comfortable and produce less are allowed space without the same level of scrutiny. That kind of environment does not align with standards of integrity and genuine progress.

Still, there is reason to be thankful, not in spite of the experience, but because of it. It becomes a defining lesson. It clarifies the kind of environment worth choosing and the standards that should never be compromised.

This is the same place where one leaves with clarity, not bitterness; with direction, not doubt, and with gratitude for those who offered support along the way.

So go where effort is matched with integrity, where contributions are met with respect, and where growth is not resisted but actively pursued.

Be thankful for the lesson.

The Negrense Psychologist

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