02/08/2025
A lot of people spend their lives fixated on what’s ahead—constantly planning, preparing, and projecting into the future. On the other hand, some remain stuck in the past—replaying memories, regrets, or what-ifs that can no longer be changed.
Both states of mind create a kind of anxiety that quietly steals from the present. And the truth is, most of the things we worry about—whether from yesterday or tomorrow—don’t deserve the space they take up in our minds today.
I’ve heard it said many times, and maybe you have too: “Live in the present.” It sounds simple. Maybe even obvious. But for someone like me—a self-proclaimed overthinker—it took me a long time to actually understand and practice that idea.
Letting go of the pull from both sides—the weight of the past and the uncertainty of the future—didn’t come easily. I used to obsess over what had already happened, constantly questioning why it unfolded that way. At the same time, I was always thinking ahead, trying to control outcomes that hadn’t even occurred yet.
All of it left me feeling drained and disconnected. I was breathing, but not really living.
But as I grew older, something shifted. I began to see the value of simply being here—right now. I realized that life doesn’t happen in the past or in the future. It happens in this very moment.
And if I kept missing it, I’d look back one day and regret not being more present for the life I was actually living. One piece of advice that helped me take the first step was this:
To live in the present, start by noticing what’s right in front of you.
It sounds easy. But the first time I tried it, my mind quickly wandered—either back to something that happened years ago or forward to a worry about something uncertain. I had to keep bringing myself back. Over and over again.
It’s a practice. And like any practice, it gets easier the more you do it.
Some tools have helped along the way:
* Mindful breathing and short meditations to ease the grip of future-based anxiety.
* Journaling and self-reflection to process and release the past.
* Simply noticing the little things—the sounds around me, the colors, the sensations, the people near me.
It’s important to know that worrying about the future or reflecting on the past isn’t inherently bad. In fact, it can be useful—if we don’t let ourselves get stuck there. Planning ahead is wise. Learning from the past is valuable. But living there? That’s when we lose touch with the life we’re meant to experience now.
So, if you're like me—always overthinking, always somewhere else—maybe today is a good day to pause. Look around you. Breathe. Let today be enough.
Because the present moment is not just where life happens—it’s the only place where we can truly live.