Proxima Vez

30/08/2025

Darating ka sa point ng buhay na hindi mo na pwedeng sisisihin ang mga magulang mo.

Kapag kaya mo nang kumayod, magtrabaho, at baguhin ang buhay mo, hindi mo babalikan 'yung mga tapos na — mga pagkukulang nila. Hindi mo na 'yan control.

At some point dati, gusto ko rin tanungin sila Mama at Papa na bakit lumaki kaming mahirap, at naging mahirap ang umusad sa amin dahil wala kaming sisimulang yaman. Pero looking back, ginawa rin naman nila ang lahat.

Naglalaba nanay ko sa iba. Si Papa naman sumasideline. Mapapagod ka nang magtanong kasi bahagi lang rin sila ng sistemang kinalakihan nila.

There will come a point in time where we no longer would put the blame on them. Dahil baka sila man, hindi rin nila nasubukang maging bata, at malamang, ngayon lang rin nila nararanasan ang mabuhay ng masagana. Baka sila man, naghi-heal pa rin ng inner child.

Kaya para sa kanila, ilalaban natin ang buhay. ✨🌻

16/08/2025

We often assume that because two people earn the same salary, they live the same life.But one might spend freely on themselves, while the other quietly sends most of their paycheck home to keep the lights on for their family.

Not every burden is visible, and not every story is told out loud. So be good to everyone you never know the weight they’re carrying.

26/06/2025

"Hanggang saan nga ba dapat ang pakikisama?"
Sa pamilya, kamag-anak, mga kakilala, kapitbahay, katrabaho, mga kaibigan, tropa at barkada.

Isang tanong na mahirap at minsan masakit sagutin kung isasama natin ang buong puso’t karanasan.

Sa pamilya, kamag-anak, kakilala, kapitbahay, katrabaho, kaibigan, tropa o barkada—lahat sila may papel sa buhay natin. Pero hindi porket may ugnayan, ay kailangan palaging isakripisyo ang sarili para lang masabing ‘nakikisama.

📌May hangganan ang pakikisama—at 'yan ay dapat nagsisimula sa iyong sarili at respeto sa sarili.

✅ Makisama ka, pero huwag mong hayaang tapakan ka.

✅ Makisama ka, pero hindi ibig sabihin nun ay palagi kang uutangin, aabusuhin, o pagsasamantalahan.

✅ Makisama ka, pero huwag mong isuko ang prinsipyo mo para lang mapalugod sila.

✅ Makisama ka, pero piliin mo rin ang katahimikan mo kaysa sa gulo na paulit-ulit.

Sa pamilya at kamag-anak, minsan ang pakikisama ay nauuwi sa obligasyon—hindi na kusa. May mga hihinging tulong,
pero kapag ikaw ang nangangailangan,
tila hindi ka nila kilala.

👍😉 Sa mga kaibigan at tropa, may mga tatawag sa'yo kapatid, pero sila rin pala ang una mong mararamdaman na hindi totoo.

👌😉 Sa trabaho, makikisama ka para sa magandang samahan, pero minsan may mga taong sisira kahit wala kang ginagawang masama.

Kaya mahalagang matutunan ang salitang "hanggang dito muna ako"
Hindi yan kabastusan, kundi pagtatanggol sa sarili.

📌 Makisama, pero marunong ding umiwas kapag ikaw na ang nauubos.
Makisama, pero piliin mong buuin ang sarili mo kaysa paulit-ulit sirain ng iba.
Dahil ang tunay na pakikisama ay may respeto sa kapwa—pero higit sa lahat, may respeto rin sa sarili."

✍️ FondaMotto

18/05/2025

Maybe sometime...

On my 60th birthday, I wore a red dress hoping for compliments — instead, my husband’s words brought me to tears.

I prepared for that day like a young girl going to prom.
A month in advance, I chose a beautiful red dress — soft pleats, just below the knee.
Not provocative, but striking.
I hadn’t worn bold colors in years.
But this time, I wanted to feel alive.
Like a woman, not just a grandma or a housewife.

I got my hair done, hired a stylist, sprayed on my favorite perfume — the one he used to gift me.
The table was set: salads, cake, the grandkids laughing with balloons.
Jazz playing softly in the background. Red roses in the vase.

He walked in, kicked off his shoes, glanced at me and said coldly:
“Where are you going dressed like that? You’re not going on stage. It’s not age-appropriate.”

I stood there in the center of the room, smile frozen.
“I thought… I looked nice,” I whispered.
He shrugged and walked past me. No kiss. No warmth.

I locked myself in the bathroom and cried.
Mascara running.
Sixty years old… and all I wanted was a kind word.
Not expensive gifts — just a look that said:
“You’re still the love of my life.”

But his eyes were indifferent. As if I were just part of the furniture.

We’ve been together 40 years.
We’ve survived children, debts, illnesses.
I carried it all.
He rarely spoke gently — I blamed stress, hoped one day he’d change.

But the years went by.
And I became invisible.

That night, I wiped my tears.
Changed out of my dress into a gray sweater and jeans.
Lit the candles. Smiled for the grandkids.
Pretended nothing was broken.

Later, when everyone had left, I cleaned the table.
He was on the couch watching football.

“You didn’t even wish me a happy birthday,” I said quietly.

“I gave you a blender. What more do you want?” he replied, eyes on the screen.

“Maybe… not that,” I said softly and walked away.

The next morning, I woke up early.
On the kitchen table was a note: “Went to mom’s. Be back later.”

I stood in front of the mirror, wearing that red dress again.
And for the first time in years, I saw her — me.
Alive. Beautiful. Still here.

I poured myself coffee, opened my laptop, and started looking at trips to Italy.

Why not?
I’m not old.
I’m free.
And I deserve more than a broken blender and silence. 💕

22/10/2024

06/01/2024

Day 6 of 366

18/12/2023

Why are Leonard and Sheldon so poor? They share an apartment, drive an old car. I was under the impression that scientists are making decent money, at least more money than pharmaceutical rep (Penny).
At the beginning of the series, our four buddies are stuck in academic hell. Apart from Howard, they’re all “post-docs” who have non-tenured teaching positions and pretty much live from grant to grant. Howard, for his part, although a talented engineer, works for JPL, which means he’s not getting a competitive salary either.

None of the four has any real job security. They’re hired to teach classes on a year to year basis and they don’t get paid much to do that. The university pays them for the research work they do, but again that’s highly dependent on the research money they bring in, which means three of them are constantly writing grant proposals. Their income from year to year probably varies a lot, and they all face the possibility the university could just dump them on the street.

Now, in real life, Leonard, Sheldon and Raj would most likely be seeking out tenured positions, which open up rarely, no matter where they opened up, and would be trying to network to find out where these positions were. However, part of the issue is that they like working at CalTech, which is very prestigious and where it’s likely they will actually get some recognition.

Post docs hanging around in this situation generally live from hand to mouth and many of them drop out of academia to do other work.

Like Walter White here. Walter has a Ph.D. and worked on a research team. That’s typical for a post-doc student who has no tenured position. However, he decided to give it up because high school science teacher was actually a more secure, higher paying profession.

It’s also clear that when Penny becomes a pharmaceutical rep, her income soars and she’s making a lot more money than Leonard. Bernadette, who got out of academia and into industry, also started making big bucks and clearly makes more than Howard. Sheldon and Amy both work as academics, but at the end Sheldon finally has a tenured position and makes a fair living. Amy doesn’t.

Yes, scientists can make a lot of money, but generally not in academia. However, a lot of scientists want to continue in academia because they will do more meaningful work there.

Einstein’s grades weren’t good enough to get a teaching position, so he went to work in a patent office. He finally got back into academia about four years after he wrote his 1905 papers when a British scientists recommended him to a colleague in Berlin.

Stephen Hawking was the most brilliant scientific mind of his generation, but most of his income came from writing books. He took that up because he needed a lot of private help that he couldn’t afford on his salary as an academic.

And remember this map

In the vast majority of U.S. states, you’re far better off coaching football or basketball than you are working as a scientist. Moreover, the guys who make the big bucks in science aren’t the good scientists, they’re the good administrators.

House is one of the world’s greatest doctors. He doesn’t make nearly as much as Cuddy, who does nearly no medicine. Physicians make way more than scientists even in this scenario. Technically, House is a professor, although his teaching duties are limited to training his three fellows. Similarly, House’s fellows, who are all trained specialists who could be making big bucks anywhere, are taking fairly large pay cuts to work with him. Leonard, Sheldon, Raj, Howard and Amy are in the same boat.

There are thousands of people stuck in non-tenured hell, both post-docs and master’s degree holders who haven’t quite finished their doctorate. They often teach at universities for decades with poor pay living a marginal existence. 60 Minutes once did a story on such a master’s degree holder who made key contributions to a field but essentially just puttered about universities doing research projects without completing a doctorate or getting a teaching position. Everyone thought he was brilliant, but he had no focus and was never able to profit from any of his developments. He described it as “living from grant to grant”. That’s the situation most of the characters are in.
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08/05/2022

Está Bien, Mama

May 8, obviously from the country I am from, it's Mother's Day... But is it truly mother's day?

Celebrating "it" is a way to proudly show how much children honor their mother...
Giving flowers, cakes, gifts and surprises. Treating mothers to dinners and out of town staycation... But how about those who just lived from their paycheck to paycheck situation? From their usual "vale para mairaos lang ang sikmura" daily life?
I knew many people will react differently to my questions, " sana naturuan ng anak", "magkusa naman" or "wag na magexpect" ( expection vs. realities) memes...

Times like these, many flaunt how they celebrate the day... Some wrote lengthy messages in social media... But is it the true essence of making mothers happy? "Ang bait sa social media pero pasaway sa totoong buhay". Sweet naman yan pero di magawang magpaalam o kaya ay magtapat ng nararamdaman sa ina... Magbibigay ng regalo pero di naman makakaabot ng pambayad ng bills kasi wala na... Maxed out ng card. Making simple gestures n sila muna gagawa ng chores for the day pero 364 days naman gagawing katulong or tagapagalaga ng apo si nanay...Do they talk about how they feel or what they want? Mothers suppressed their own needs, wants and emotions "para lang mapaluguran ang kailangan ng anak"...All of these are "okey lang...Okey lang ang nanay"...Está Bien...

I don't know if these are the measurement of how you loved your mothers... But sabi nga "iba-ibang paraan tayo magmahal at magpasaya." Simple joys are indeed highly appreciated these days...we never knew how much time they will be spent.

Remember always, "Sana lagi love si mother, mudra, mom, mommy,nanay or inay ninyo habang nabubuhay, dahil mahirap magsabi ng happy mother's day in heaven nakakadurog ng puso... Lalo at alam natin marami tayong di nagagawa para sa kanya.

Thank you for remembering mother's day... Because our mother's love "is" cannot be measured.

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