31/07/2025
Shifting from "what's wrong" to "what's possible" 🙌
I used to casually say words like rigid, noncompliant, or low functioning in my reports and feedback time. For me, it was just describing what I saw. But as I learned deeper about the neurodivergent community, a lot changed.
I learned about the why’s of behavior: how “rigid” is often a child needing predictability and safety, how “noncompliant” could be a struggle to process instructions, and how “low functioning” dismisses the unique strengths hidden behind their limitations. These words, though familiar to professionals, carried pain for families who heard them.
I remember the first time someone not-so-gently reminded me to listen to neurodivergent people, wag ko ipilit yung sakin kahit professional ako. At first, I felt defensive. Sabi ko sa sarili ko compassionate naman ako, with good intentions naman ako...
But as I listened and read more, I remembered… 𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗴𝘂𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗲𝘀 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝗮 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻. 𝗜𝘁 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗲𝘀 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺. If we describe a child as “noncompliant,” we might fail to see their struggles to process instructions. If we call them “rigid,” we miss out on understanding their need for predictability and safety.
What if we changed “obsessions” to “deep interests or passions”?
What if we said “has difficulty with transitions” instead of “noncompliant”?
What if we replaced “low functioning” with “benefits from more support”?
Words aren’t just words. They carry weight. They can either empower or reduce a person to a label.
✨ I still catch myself sometimes. But I keep learning, unlearning, and trying again. Because the way we talk about them changes the way we see them… and the way they see themselves.
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