06/01/2025
Most of us in recovery have engaged in denial from time to time... I may have denied events or emotions from my past experiences. I may have denied other people's problems... i may have denied my own problems...feelings... thoughts.... wants or needs... or even the truth about me.
"Denial means we didnt let ourselves face reality, usually because facing that particular reality would hurt. It would be a loss of something: trust, love, family, perhaps a marriage, a friendship, or a dream. And it hurts to lose something or someone." ( Melody Beattie )
Denial is like a protective device, a shock absorber for the soul. It prevents me from facing reality until i feel prepared to cope with that particular reality. People can shout and scream the truth at me, but i will not see or hear it until I am ready. I realized that we are strong and yet sensitive beings. Sometimes, we need time to get prepared... time to ready ourselves to cope. We do not let go of our need to deny by beating ourselves into acceptance... We let go of our need to deny by allowing ourselves to become safe and strong enough to cope with the truth. This will happen, when we are ready and when the time is right.
Have a good Monday everyone! 🌞🙏