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23/01/2026

“When Conscience Is Formed, Corruption Is Transformed”

Part 2 of 5 💔 Erosion of Virtue and Conscience

Moral development involves forming virtues like honesty, justice, temperance, and courage.

Corruption represents the habitual distortion of these virtues:
• Honesty → deceit
• Justice → favoritism
• Temperance → greed
• Courage → complacency or complicity

Repeated exposure to corrupt systems dulls the moral conscience, normalizing wrongdoing and weakening people’s sensitivity to sin or injustice. This is when the moral foundation in childhood collapsed.

A well-formed conscience enables one to choose what is right, even when it costs.

“The real test of integrity is what we do when no one is watching.”

– St. John Paul II reminds us that freedom and morality cannot be separated.

22/01/2026

“When Conscience Is Formed, Corruption Is Transformed”

Part 1 of 5
🌱 1. Corruption as a Failure of Moral Development

When we hear the word “corruption,” what comes to mind?

Maybe we immediately think of politicians taking money, rigged deals, or broken systems.

But corruption doesn’t start in high offices — it begins in the small, quiet corners of the human heart.

It is whenever we cheat a little, lie a little, or look the other way such as cheating in school, bribing traffic officers, using influence for favors. This is when we plant the same seed that grows into national corruption.

So if we want a society that is clean and just, we must begin NOT WITH NEW LAWS — but WITH RENEWED HEARTS.

According to Lawrence Kohlberg’s stages of moral development:

PRE-CONVENTIONAL (Stages 1–2) Obedience to avoid punishment or gain rewards.
A person might avoid corruption only if they fear getting caught.

CONVENTIONAL (Stages 3–4)
Desire to fit in, to conform, to maintain order, and to follow rules.
Corruption may occur if “everyone does it” or if loyalty to a group is valued over integrity.

POST-CONVENTIONAL (Stages 5–6) Guided by universal ethical principles and justice .
A morally developed person resists corruption even when pressured, out of conscience and commitment to the common good.

A mature society must rise to the post-conventional level, where people act from ethical principles and conscience, not on personal or group gain, pressure or convenience.

To understand better how corruption becomes a moral failure, we need to consider the following: (a) Corruption is the misuse of power or position for personal gain; (b) Beneath this act is a moral disconnection: Choosing self-interest over conscience and common good; and (c) Root cause: Undeveloped or compromised moral reasoning.

“We may know what is right but choose what is convenient.”

05/12/2025

“The Coffee Cup Catastrophe That Never Happened”

Marco was known in the office for two things: His fast, top-tier problem-solving skills; and his even faster mouth—which sometimes solved nothing.

On Monday morning, he walked into the office ready to conquer the week… until he saw it:

His favorite mug—his prized “World’s Okayest Employee” mug—was missing.

“WHO took my mug?” he whispered dramatically, as if narrating a true-crime documentary.

His officemate Trixie sipped her latte. “Relax, Marco. Maybe it’s in the pantry.”

Marco marched to the pantry—and there it was. Warm. Full. Being used by Sir Arnold, the senior manager whose face resembled a permanent system error.

Marco felt the impulse rising—like a volcano. He imagined snatching the mug back, giving a TED Talk on property rights, or delivering a dramatic monologue about betrayal.

But then he remembered what his therapist told him during last month’s stress-management seminar: “WHEN EMOTIONS GOES UP, WISDOM GOES DOWN. DO THE POWER PAUSE - 30 SECONDS TO BREATHE, NOT REACT.”

“Okay,” Marco whispered. “Power Pause. Power Pause!”

He turned away, clenched his fists, and did his 30-second breathing exercise… right there … unlnowingly in front of a coworker … seeing him inhaling like a dragon preparing for battle. The coworker asked “You okay, bro?” He quipped, “Just… upgrading my emotional firmware.”

When Marco finally looked back, he saw something unexpectedly: Sir Arnold wasn’t enjoying the mug—he was panicking.

“Whose mug is this?!” Arnold asked the pantry staff. “Someone swapped mine! Mine had my medicine inside!”

Marco blinked.
Wait. He wasn’t a mug thief—he was a confused senior trying to take his meds.

Marco quietly approached. “Sir, I think that’s mine.” Arnold handed it back, relieved. “Ah, thank you. I thought I lost my pills! Sorry for the mix-up.”

Marco smiled, calmer than he expected.
“No problem, sir. Happens to all of us.”

The thirty-second Power Pause had saved him from: a confrontation; an HR incident; and possibly unemployment.

Later that day, he told the story to his girlfriend, Mia.

She laughed so hard she nearly dropped her phone.
“Love, imagine if you actually grabbed the mug! You’d look like a toddler protecting his toy.”

Marco defended himself. “That mug has sentimental value!”
“Uh-huh,” she teased. “Or maybe you just needed your Power Pause.”

He grinned. “It works. You should try it next time you want to comment on my driving.”
“Oh, I already do,” she said. “Otherwise, we wouldn’t be together.”

They both laughed.

And from that day on, Marco discovered something magical:

Impulse control isn’t about being less passionate— it’s about being powerful enough to choose the wiser moment.

The mug incident became famous in the office, and Marco earned a new nickname:

“MR. POWER PAUSE”

And honestly?
He wore that title—
just like he held his mug—
with pride… and a little more patience.

04/12/2025

Begin and end the day of being happy.

29/11/2025

Modest Demeanor as a Psychological Strength

From a psychological standpoint, modesty is not about being timid or self-effacing. It is a healthy expression of self-awareness, emotional maturity, and balanced self-worth. A modest demeanor reveals a mind and heart that are secure, grounded, and oriented toward growth and authentic relationships.

There are 6 benefits on being modest in your demeanor that develops psychological strengths and these are the following:

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1. Healthy Self-Concept

A person with a modest demeanor tends to have a realistic and grounded self-image.
Psychologically, this means:
• They value themselves without the need to exaggerate or prove their worth; do not rely on external validations; and comfortable with their strengths and open to accepting and learning how to improve their limitations.

Why this makes you better:
You become more teachable, authentic, and less reactive to comparison or insecurity.

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2. Emotional Regulation

Modesty reflects self-control in behavior, speech, and appearance.
Psychologically, this draws from:
• The ability to manage impulses; to keep behavior aligned with values rather than mood; and to choose appropriate responses to arising situations.

Why this makes you better:
You develop emotional stability, which improves relationships and reduces unnecessary conflict.

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3. Empathy and Other-Oriented Thinking

A modest person naturally considers how their words, actions, and presence affect others.

This shows:
• Perspective-taking (thinking beyond oneself); and sensitivity to others’ feelings.

Why this makes you better:
You become more compassionate, approachable, and trustworthy.

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4. Resilience Against Ego

Modesty protects the psychological self from the pitfalls of ego such as pride, entitlement, and self-centered thinking; and it also reduces the fear of failure because identity is not tied to impressing others.

Why this makes you better:
You grow faster, recover from mistakes more easily, and maintain inner peace.

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5. Authentic Confidence

Ironically, modesty often signals strong inner confidence:
• When you don’t need to show off, it means you’re secure inside; when you speak calmly and dress simply, it shows confidence rooted in identity, not image; and when you behave with decorum, you show mastery of self, not fear of others.

Why this makes you better:
You develop quiet strength, which is more powerful, steady, and inspiring than loud confidence.

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6. Integration of Values and Behavior

In psychology, maturity means aligning inner values with outer actions.
Modest demeanor embodies this integration:
• Values of humility, respect, and dignity appear in speech and behavior; mindfulness of personal boundaries; and acts from an internal compass, not from pressure or trends.

Why this makes you better:
You live with greater integrity, consistency, and inner harmony.

-Lucia Jemima M. Ata

27/11/2025

28/10/2025

GRATITUDE & KINDNESS

"Gratitude turns what we have into enough." – Aesop

Research shows that regularly practicing gratitude can improve mental health by redirecting focus from negative thoughts to positive experiences.

GRATITUDE CAN SERVE AS A POWERFUL ANTI-DEPRESSANT.

Simple acts of kindness can create a supportive environment. These are some of the helpful approaches:
* Listen actively without judgment.
* Offer your presence rather than trying to fix their feelings.
* Encourage small steps towards activities they enjoy.

These practices can foster connection and help alleviate feelings of isolation or withdrawal.

KINDNESS IS ESSENTIAL WHEN SUPPORTING SOMEONE DEALING WITH DEPRESSION.

Lucia Jemima M. Ata
MBS Psychological Services

30/09/2025

GENOGRAM

A genogram, maps out family structures, relationships, and patterns across generations—not just who is related to whom, but also how we are connected emotionally, socially, and even medically.

A genogram might show the following:
• Family members and generations
• Marriages, divorces, and significant partnerships
• Patterns of health (e.g., heart disease, cancer, mental illness)
• Emotional dynamics (e.g., close bonds, conflicts, estrangements)
• Social patterns (e.g., careers, migration, addictions, spirituality)

Why do we need to know our roots through a Genogram?

1. Self-Understanding – It helps us see how we identity, values, strengths, and struggles, which may be influenced by our family’s history.
2. Breaking Cycles – Many people repeat unconscious family patterns (in relationships, careers, habits). Recognizing them gives us a chance to change.
3. Healing & Reconciliation – Understanding family struggles, trauma, or estrangements can bring compassion, forgiveness, and even restored relationships.
4. Health Awareness – It highlights medical and psychological risks that run in families, helping with prevention and early intervention.
5. Cultural & Spiritual Identity – Knowing our roots strengthens our sense of belonging, pride, and meaning. It situates us within a bigger story..

A genogram is more than a chart. It is a tool for reflection, healing, and growth. It reminds us that we inherit not only blood, but also stories, wounds, and wisdom—and we can choose which ones to carry forward.

Source: internet access, October 1, 2025

26/08/2025

I just found this in my file … it has been 9 years .. it’s refreshing to reminisce this 30 minutes segment.

[Pagdidisiplina sa bata] Ata: Ang mga magulang nire-reinforce nila ang sinasabi nila para maintindihan ng bata.

26/08/2025

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26/06/2025

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