Coach ELi Abela

22/04/2026

We've been taught that leadership means being the loudest, the strongest, the one who pushes hardest.

The herd disagrees.

Humans and Horses are matrilineal - the Alpha female isthe compass of the clan.

In horse herds, the lead mare doesn't chase. She doesn't force. She disciplines and educates with the minimum effective dose then creates safety.

She knows how to conserve her energy and shares tasks with others, so she never runs on empty.

She leads from presence - and the entire herd organises itself around her calm leadership.

The lead stallion doesn't compete with her. He protects everything within his territory - and that includes the lead mare and the herd.

Two different roles. One shared purpose: the survival of the family.
This is not just a horse story. This is your family.

When a mother is chronically depleted and dysregulated, she is not just tired - she is leading from the wrong state: Pushing, emitting, forcing, dominating. And her children's nervous systems are absorbing that as their baseline.

When a father loses his sense of protective purpose, he doesn't disappear all at once. He just slowly stops showing up.

We wonder why families feel so disconnected. We blame schedules, screens, personality clashes.

The real answer is biological. We have abandoned the polarity that kept mammal families alive for millions of years - and we are paying for it in disconnection, dysregulation, depletion - and the highest cost is our children who grow up not feeling safe in the nest.

This is what KinShip Renewal is about. It's not fixing people but rather, restoring nature's biological design for whole-family nurture.

Swipe through. Tell me what lands for you. 🐴

21/04/2026

So happy I got to meet fellow GHK educator Roselle in person since the very first Freyja English speaking cohort in 2022! She got here just in time to sign up for our Cowgirl Retreat 🐴🐴🐴

18/04/2026

Horses sparked my life in early childhood. Now, in this powerful planetary gateway, they are guiding me toward the culmination of everything I’ve mastered and embodied over the last decade.

They are the great teachers of the laws of nature - and the laws of nurture.

Studying Germanische Heilkunde and the biological laws of nature helped me understand the vital roles of males and females in the wild. In packs and herds, the structure is matrilineal; the female leads and decides for the survival of the family. This is true for wolves, horses, orcas, and... humans.

I’ve noticed that animal females know the difference between real danger and perceived threat. They know when to rest. They don’t carry what isn't theirs.

Human females, however, carry everything and everyone. They live in chronic survival mode, operating in a state that was never meant to be permanent. Her "doing" energy- the overextended masculine - is running her dry.

Until she meets a horse.

Here is a formidable, massive animal capable of destroying her, yet that is the farthest thing from its mind. The horse is purely present, and it responds only to PRESENCE. It is moved by energy, yes - but an energy that is surrendered, receptive, and responsive.

When she finally allows herself to receive, to be loved and cared for, she returns to her personal power. She becomes the wise woman who holds the center, ensuring everyone is nurtured because she herself is full.

Love, support, nourishment, and safety are not luxuries she has to earn. They are what she is biologically designed to draw in - the moment she stops pushing them away.

Femininity is magnetic. It is nurturing. It is time to learn these laws through nature.

18/04/2026

This photo says it all.....what we experienced in the Cowgirl Retreat by Tr Garon Vandervoort.

During our Heart Radiaion Technique (I prefer that term over Heart Lock-In), we grounded ourselves with self awareness (Focusing the attention to the area of the heart, imagining the breath flowing in and out...inhaling for 5 seconds, and exhaling fo 6-8 seconds), then making a sincere attempt to connect with a renewing emotion like care, appreciation, compassion, then radiating this emotion to oneself and others (especially those who need it the most). We specifically radiated to those who cried and shared in this circle and then to everyone, to the VanAlex Herd of Horses, then to All Life Everywhere.

Look how powerful it is - we all co-regulated and even Winter was able to release cortisol through licking and chewing. In her pre-VanAlex life, Winter was rejected because she is blind in one eye. She was used for carrying load - just a “beast of burden.” She was also full of stable rot because she didn’t have a safe stable to shelter her from the elements. She didn’t experience loving touch from her handlers.....until the Garons rescued her.

Look at how Tr Vanessa is holding her with love and safety and how they both feel the warmth and love in each other’s presence. Their heartspace radiating love to each other and to all. We are gifted to share the same kind of nervous system with horses. This way, we can help each other find peace, wholeness, and even a slice of heaven.

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18/04/2026

Ready to start your biohacking reset journey? START SMALL and SIMPLE.

This isn't a program you muscle through. It's a slow exhale - one module at a time, working through the real reasons you're tired.

You'll start by getting honest about where your energy actually is. Then move through sleep, nutrition, movement, and breathwork - not as rules, but as tools you learn to use for your body.

From there, it goes deeper: the thoughts quietly draining you, the spaces you live and work in, the relationships that cost more than they give, and your relationship with your phone.

Each module is simple. Reflective. Practical.

By the end, you won't be doing everything at once - you'll have chosen what matters most right now and built something sustainable around that.

The goal was never to do more.
It was to finally feel better.

DM or Comment "RESET" to get your limited offer workbook for just P599 (from P999)

14/04/2026

When we ignore our bodies, "being better" feels impossible.

You can't optimize behavior without supporting biology.

We often try to muscle our way through - "struggling" to be more patient, more present, more productive.

But patience and presence aren't just mental skills. They are physical outputs. If your body is sleep-deprived, under-fueled, or chronically overstimulated, you're trying to withdraw energy from an empty account.

The shift begins when you go small.

Start with your physical foundations:

Hydration: Drink water in the morning with half a teaspoon of celtic salt or redmond real salt or Bohol tibuoc salt (lots of minerals!).

Sunlight: Upon waking, open the window and bring your eyes in the glare for ten minutes - doesn't have to be direct sun, but if you can get, it go for it.

Sleep: Hack your circadian rhythm. Turn off ceiling lights at 7 pm so the lower half of the retina knows it's nighttime since the sun has set and there is no overhead light signal.

Timed Nutrition: Eat food that makes you happy like "lutong bahay" - the food you grew up with, the food of your culture, using homegrown ingredients - "comfort food" (Ahh!) Oh..and eat before sunset :) This'll make your body know it's time to wind down after sunset since digestion is complete.

Build your base. Regulate your nervous system from the ground up. Then, the behavior shifts naturally due to a filled up gas tank.

💬 Where is your body asking for more support today?

11/04/2026

From this week's module in the Nested World Ambassador program:

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11/04/2026

If you feel heavy even after you rest, it’s usually because your nervous system is still "on guard" while you sleep.

This isn't a flaw in your character; it’s a reflex in your biology. When you're stuck in survival mode, your health and your relationships get the leftovers of your energy.

It doesn't have to be permanent. Your body is designed to recover - it just needs the right signals.

I’m opening a private container for those ready to do the deep, quiet work of resetting their system. It’s time to feel like yourself again.

Comment RESET if you want in! (finally doing this)

10/04/2026

09/04/2026

Welcome to the Philippines! So happy to connect with fellow Germanische Heilkunde educator and her beautiful Mom. Thank you for visiting my biohacking lab 🙌

Stay tuned for collabs and workshops with and without a GHk lens!

09/04/2026

You don’t have a discipline problem. You have a safety problem.

Most of us have been taught that if we aren’t hitting our goals, we just need more willpower. But the reality is more physiological than that. About 90% of our daily actions are driven by subconscious patterns—specifically, the need to feel safe.

When your nervous system associates "more success" or "more visibility" with a loss of control, it will naturally pull the emergency brake. This isn't self-sabotage; it’s a survival mechanism doing its job.

The "hustle" mindset tells you to push through the fear. High-performance coaching teaches you to regulate through it.

Real elite performance isn’t about being fearless. It’s about having a nervous system so well-integrated that you can maintain composure and take action even when your brain is screaming "stop."

Whether you are an athlete, a professional, or a parent, the goal is the same: move out of survival mode and into a state where your success feels sustainable, not exhausting.

It’s time to stop fighting your biology and start leading it.

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