23/01/2025
Have you ever experienced a craving for the attention and approval of someone you didn’t even know or like? It’s a weird feeling, isn’t it? You find yourself seeking validation from someone who doesn’t even have your best interests at heart, and yet, you can’t help but feel the need for their approval. This craving is more common than we realize, and it often stems from deeper, unprocessed emotional wounds tied to past trauma.
When we experience trauma, it doesn’t just affect our minds; it leaves a lasting imprint on our bodies and nervous systems. But what often gets overlooked is what happens after the trauma—the way we land after it. The moments that follow can become their own form of trauma, as significant as the event itself. Did we get the support we needed? Were we heard, seen, and cared for, or were we left to cope alone? The absence of these vital resources can leave our nervous system stuck in a state of alert, making it harder for us to heal.
This is where the craving for validation comes in. If we were left feeling neglected or unheard after a traumatic experience, we may seek approval from anyone, even from people who don't truly support us. We may unconsciously look for reassurance and acceptance in places that won’t ever provide it, because our body and mind are still trying to fill the emotional gap left by trauma.
Brainspotting can be incredibly helpful in addressing this. Instead of just focusing on the surface-level need for approval, Brainspotting helps us explore the deeper emotional triggers. It guides us to the spots in our body where those emotions are stored—the tension, discomfort, or unease that we carry, often without even realizing it. Through this process, we begin to connect with the trauma behind the craving for approval, understanding how and why we seek validation in the wrong places.
As we work through these emotions with Brainspotting, the nervous system is gently retrained to process and release the stuck energy. We learn to reconnect with our true sense of worth, separate from external validation. Over time, Brainspotting helps us break free from these old patterns and find peace, not by chasing someone else's approval, but by rediscovering our own sense of self-worth.
Healing from trauma is never a quick fix, but with Brainspotting, you can start to shift the way your body and mind respond to past hurts. You can stop seeking validation from people who don’t truly see you and begin to trust in your own worth. You deserve to feel whole, heard, and safe, and with Brainspotting, that’s exactly what’s possible.
