08/07/2025
"Your calm is NOT a reaction to them, it is something you have to PRACTICE within yourself" đ
Itâs hard to stay calm when your child isnât.
But thatâs when they need your calm the most.
And that kind of calm doesnât come from willpower.
It comes from doing the work inside ourselves.
Hereâs what that might look like:
đ§ Understanding your own triggers
That moment you feel disrespected or helpless? Itâs likely something deeper. You donât need to judge itâjust notice it.
đŹ Building self-regulation tools
Controlled breaths. Stepping away. A mantra like âThis isnât an emergency.â You need tools just like your child does.
đȘ Healing old patterns
If you were yelled at, shut down, or punished growing up⊠it makes sense that staying calm is hard now. You're trying to do something you were never shown. Thatâs brave work.
𫶠Giving yourself compassion
You wonât get it perfect. But youâre learning. And your child doesnât need perfectionâthey need your presence.
âš When you feel calm, they borrow your nervous system.
And that changes everything.
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