21/09/2025
"When you criticize your child, they don’t stop loving you — they stop loving themselves."
💔 Hindi po biro ang epekto ng paulit-ulit na paninisi o masakit na pananalita sa bata.
Bilang pediatrician at ina, lagi kong paalala:
Ang mga bata, hindi pa kayang ihiwalay ang “ano yung ginawa ko” sa “kung sino ako.”
Kaya kapag palagi silang naririnig na “ang kulit mo,” “ang tigas ng ulo mo,” o “wala kang silbi”—
Ang naiiwan sa kanilang puso ay:
“Siguro, ako nga ang problema.”
“Hindi ako sapat/I am not enough”
“Hindi ako lovable/I do not deserve to be loved”
* They don’t stop loving you.
But sadly, they may start doubting their worth.
* Words become their inner voice.
What they hear from us—especially in moments of failure—becomes the script they repeat in their heads for life.
* So what can we do as parents?
✅ Itama amg mali pero with compassion. Hindi ibig sabihin na pabayaan ang maling ugali—kundi itama ng may pag-unawa.
✅ Use calm words, even when firm.
✅ Acknowledge their feelings before correcting behavior.
✅ Model kindness—even during conflict.
Your child doesn’t need a perfect parent. They need a safe one.
Because even when they mess up or do something undesirable, they should still feel loved.
-Dr. Katrina Florcruz
