Mind Healer Psychological Services - Pakistan

24/10/2025

24/09/2025

So much of our lives is spent in the shadows of fear. From childhood, we are conditioned to seek validation from parents, teachers and peers, chasing a pre-defined checklist for what it means to be "accomplished" and "happy". These criteria are sometimes superficial, created by a specific cultural mindset and since we are all uniquely individual, many of us naturally don't fit in. The consequence is a normalised, lifelong anxiety centered on a single question: "What if?"

This haunting question follows us relentlessly. What if I don't get into the right school? What if I fail to get a degree, a certain grade, a job or find a partner? What if I am left by someone I love? The list goes on until the end of our days. As we move forward, our responsibilities grow but our capacity to manage stress often ends, leading to exhaustion, anxiety, depression and relational conflict. Life feels like a burden of dissatisfaction.

There is a simple yet powerful shift we can make: stop living in the "what if" and start focusing on what truly makes you happy and content. Pursue a degree because it aligns with your aptitude or a goal because it genuinely matters to you, not because it's a worldly criterion for success. To quiet the ghost of "what if", remind yourself that nothing is the end of the world. Failure, rejection and loss are part of the natural human cycle. We are here to face challenges, that is indeed the reality of life. But how we respond to them defines the quality of our existence.

So when fear arises, reframe it. Instead of "What if this happens?" tell yourself, "Even if this happens, it's not the end of the world". Even if you don't get high grades, marry a certain person or face a profound loss, "it's not the end of the world".
This mindset provides the energy and motivation to move forward despite sadness, regret or failure. It gives you the courage to gather the pieces and move on with composure.

However maintaining a balance and rational thinking is crucial. Fulfill your duties with sincerity and effort but also accept that despite your struggles, setbacks may occur and "that' just fine, it's not the end of world".

Embrace this perspective and you'll begin to feel an aura of positive energy, replacing fear with resilience and purpose.

19/09/2025

We've all heard the term "family planning", especially in the context of new couples thinking of extending their family. But its meaning is often taken in a very limited context and usually reduced to finances.

Other topics such as the mother's career and balancing family with work life, are discussed minorly. Based on my personal experience, I wonder why people don't share real or raw experiences of becoming first-time parents. Despite my preparation, I went through novel challenges I felt completely unprepared for.

So what should be on the must-consider list for first-time parents?

1. The First Day and Night: No matter how much family support you have, the first day is immensely challenging. The physical exhaustion, fatigue and immediate responsibility for a tiny human begin the second a baby is born. Despite her own pain, the mother must immediately provide skin-to-skin contact, attempt breastfeeding and comfort the newborn. This is followed by vaccinations, feeding every half hour or full hour and arranging sleep so parents can take turns. The illusion is that with many people around, it will be easy.

2. The Postpartum Phase and Sleep Deprivation: The couple should discuss that the first two months will be critically difficult. They need to plan their jobs, social life and sleeping routines around this new reality. Husbands often return to work quickly, leaving the new mother at home going through an intense hormonal rollercoaster while handling feeding, diapering, bathing and putting the baby to sleep.

The biggest and possibly most frustrating factor for a new mom is severe sleep deprivation. This makes everything else feel heavy and depressing. The husband needs to be mentally prepared to cooperate beyond "natural roles". After office hours, he should take over for a few hours so the wife can get an uninterrupted nap.

3. Social Life and Boundaries: Couples need to discuss how they will balance their social life. The mother is often expected to stay home while the husband continues his social routine, which can create resentment. Most importantly, they should discuss and set boundaries in advance with family and friends.

The arrival of a baby is often romanticised but the first few months are a survival mode. Without pre-defined boundaries, the interference of others can lead to conflicts and confrontations. Exhausted and frustrated new parents are not equipped to handle these situations well, which can lead to intense arguments.

Many divorces happen early in marriage, shortly after the arrival of children. This is because couples are not mentally prepared for the most challenging years of their lives. They don't understand that they must learn how to communicate through the frustration, handle conflicts and, crucially, keep their bond as husband and wife separate from their duties as parents.

13/09/2025

Our Behavioural Science Lead and Senior Clinical Psychologist Saira Ashraf Kanjoo will conduct this Psych Workshop.

For details, please contact us in the mentioned WhatsApp number or email address.

06/09/2025

Even with growing public awareness of postpartum depression (PPD), many people still underestimate its severity and the impact it has on new mothers. PPD doesn't look the same for everyone which is one reason many women don't realize they are experiencing it. Contrary to common belief, PPD is not only about crying spells or not wanting to care for baby. While these can be some symptoms, a woman may also experience a wide range of other feelings. A mother with PPD usually feels a strong and persistent sense of uneasiness, discomfort and stress that seems out of proportion to her circumstances.

A new mother may find that she has very little desire or energy to take care of herself, even when it's critically needed. She might also develop high expectations for those around her, feeling hurt and depressed when they are not met. She may crave constant pampering, care and reassurance that she is doing a good job and that she is loved. It's natural for her to feel disappointed when her caregivers cannot be fully available or understand her feelings. This can lead to her feeling inadequate as a mother and can cause significant mood swings, from wanting to do everything herself, wanting no one around her at all.

Regardless of the specific symptoms a woman is experiencing, the new mother's body is in a critical stage of healing after labor or a C-section and needs a lot of care. This includes proper rest, a timely and healthy diet and medication. Although sleep deprivation is common with a newborn, family members and caregivers need to understand that the new mother requires rest to heal. Even if she seems strong, opinionated or insists on caring for the baby herself, a new mother needs someone designated to help her with her own needs; who can remind her to eat, take her medicine and sleep.

The entire family goes through a transition when a newborn arrives and the family environment can become challenging as everyone adjusts.

Unfortunately, if a new mother shows symptoms of PPD like irritability, aggression, stubbornness or mood swings, her family may simply see her as difficult or moody. Instead of judging her, caregivers need to understand that she has three basic physical needs that are a priority: eating, sleeping and taking her medication. Her body is in pain and needs to heal. Once these needs are met, her next need is emotional support: constant reassurance that she is doing a good job and a patient, loving presence to help her through mood swings.

04/09/2025

In our current era of social media, marked by restlessness and intense competition, we are unfortunately witnessing a rise in serious incidents such as kidnapping, murder and harassment. Research has proven that exposure to violent content can increase a viewer's vulnerability to becoming involved in such acts, either directly or indirectly.

More concerning, however, is the trend of people expressing their emotions aggressively without a proper or professional understanding of the issues at hand.

This is especially clear with harassment, an issue whose definition is often complicated by social, religious and cultural contexts that blur its standard meaning. As a result, people are often confused about what actually constitutes harassment and, more importantly, who is the victim and who is the culprit in any given situation. Regardless of a person's background, career, or demographic details, the individual whose personal space has been intruded upon whether through physical molestation, emotional abuse, or an attempt to cause harm is always the victim.

Conversely, the person who imposes themselves on another emotionally, physically or digitally is always the culprit.

A common pattern on social media is that when a harassment case surfaces and gains traction, it often involves a girl reporting as the victim and a boy seeking revenge or trying to get closer to her through harassment. Quickly, people appoint themselves as judges of the situation and rush to scrutinize the girl's character. This is a deeply unfortunate reaction. Regardless of gender, anyone who takes a stand for their character and seeks help should be offered support on a human basis. Instead, observers often begin to justify the incident by inventing narratives, speculating that the girl might have been in a relationship with the guy, that she was "deceitful" or that she was "greedy".

The critical point is that even if two people were in an intimate relationship, no one has the right to harm another person physically or emotionally as a form of revenge.

There is a recognized distinction between healthy and unhealthy aggression. Even within court proceedings, there are rules for how convicted criminals are treated; they retain certain rights on a human level and no individual is granted the authority to punish another. Therefore, the justifications we see on social media, where those who commit violent acts against women including physical attack, r**e, kidnapping or murder are portrayed as having been "forced" into seeking revenge because the woman was deemed "morally wrong" or "misleading", are utterly inhuman.

This type of reasoning risks normalizing such violence in our society.

08/03/2025

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07/03/2025

🌟 Join Us! Let’s Flood the Feed with Love for the Women Who Lift Us Up!" 💌

This , we’re on a mission: to fill our page with YOUR stories of the women who’ve carried you through tough days, celebrated your wins, or simply showed up when it mattered most.

Here’s the deal:
1️⃣ Take 60 seconds to shout out a mom, sister, friend, therapist, teacher—any woman who’s been your anchor.
(Example: “Shoutout to my coworker,Aisha, for always listening without judgment. You’re my safe space!”)
2️⃣ Drop your message below or DM us with —we’ll feature the most heartfelt posts all week!

Why jump in?
- Your words could make someone’s entire week. Imagine her seeing YOUR post and realizing how much she matters.
- No essays needed!Just 1-2 lines from the heart.

Not sure where to start? Try:
“I’ll never forget when you…”
“Thank you for…”
“Because of you, I…”

Let’s make this the most uplifting week of the year—tag a friend, share this post, and let’s GO!🚀

P.S. Submissions can be anonymous! Just say “ANON” + your message.

The Mind Healers Psychological Services Team

06/03/2025

This , we’re honouring the incredible women who pour their energy into caring for others—moms, teachers, friends, and everyone in between. Caregiving is a labor of love, but it can also take a toll on mental health. Let’s show them some gratitude!

💌 How to Participate:

1. Comment below or DM us with a short shout-out to a woman who’s made a difference in your life.
(Example: “Thank you, My sister, for always checking in on me during my tough days.)

2. Use so we can share your message!

🌟 We’ll feature select submissions all week and pair them with self-care tips to support caregivers’ mental wellness. Let’s lift up the women who lift us up! 💕

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