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21/03/2022

Music has a lot of significance such as the right music can help us to deal with stress.
When your mind starts overthinking, soothing and calm music can come to the rescue!
Listening to a melody can instantly lift a spirit, can bring up a good mood, leading to happy and positive emotions.
Choosing the correct type of music is as necessary to match and identify how a person is feeling currently.
Let the music play and see the magic it brings with it
If you're feeling restless or troubled with sleep (insomnia) sleeping melodies can be your friend, which relaxes and helps you find ease and comfort.
Music helps improve memory and is a friend with motivation, high pitch notes which pumps adrenaline goes good along while exercising!

15/03/2022

Music plays a massive role in manipulating one's emotions.
It has the power to enhance cognitive abilities as well as shut them down. Isn't it interesting to understand how the affectionate, positive feelings drive from it and how?
Music leaves a high impact on listeners, it's the tune, pitch, and words..

12/03/2022

Benefits of *the chess player Rule*

We now know, what comes along with it are: *Empathy* and *Mastery*

EMPATHY helps you to tie a closer and stronger knot in your relationship - but how?
When you listen to them actively.
Active listening helps us to feel relatable to that person and understand their problems without a mean strike or being brutally judgemental about their decisions and choices rather support them
*You crossed a path from being pathetic to empathetic*

It only doesn't work from the outside and helps to understand people, but makes you believe in the potential you have as a human to humanize and be a better person.

It comes from practice and practice.
We can not only practice empathy but can MASTER it in every situation.
While under pressure or stressed about life, being caught up in different situations if you'd be familiar with how to respond/ regulate emotions. How to find calm and peace,
How to have the best answer with patience,
It will make you feel in control & you'll be far ahead of time.
The growth will be unfathomable!
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10/03/2022

*Show More Empathy*
We easily judge too quickly, ( because of the emotional disconnection)
that's the perspective gap
We think they could've done it or managed it nicely, or Oh they were so careless & blah blah or we might underestimate their pain or be negative about how incapable they are.
But these reactions don't help either they don't do anything for the person who's suffering & plus doesn't help your relationship climb to a ladder going above instead...
Even if you're not being vocal but you're thinking & it will be so visible in your actions ( that bitterness will show its way out)
will create a deepening way against your loved ones.

In contrast, the rule of the chess Player helps fill the perspective gap, helps to not judge a person if they've made an uncertain mistake, cause as humans it makes us realize that facing similar circumstances can cause us & have caused us to.
You start Showing more empathy by -
Oh yes, that must be difficult to cope with, let me think how can I help?
your default changes from Judgemental to helpful, you make a bridge instead of a rift
it makes an emotional impact on your relationships.

*Perform Under Pressure*
We can practice that with our emotions like players practice their moves
When we repeat our emotional healthy routines & create habits to water them daily basis so that when we deal with them we can easily tackle & rely on our habits of helping ourselves out of that tough game.
Under emotional stress, we'd control our mind & see things & feel them better for best decision to make.
Panicking & aggressiveness will only help us build rift, but we already know the chess player rule, cause everyone makes mistakes & will only help us lessen ours.

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08/03/2022

Are you Struggling with your Emotional Intelligence in day-to-day life?
If yes - Here's how to strengthen it and be sorted by the most intriguing Rule - *the chess Player Rule*

Whenever you see a player make a mistake, we're almost on our toes in shock, how could they make that move?
Well, it's surprisingly unacceptable how a skilled player could do that, despite we could've done that if we'd have been in their shoes

It's easier to see or point out others' mistakes cause we're watching them do and not on their Hot seats.
Cause we are not emotionally attached to the game, our adrenaline doesn't pump back and forth, we aren't dealing with the pressure that beats the s**t out!

This is the Rule - 'the rule of the chess player'
founded on principles of emotional intelligence
it can help you in building a relationship, work-life & of course, pumps in while playing chess!

What's the rule of the chess player?
How it can help you at best to see its magical & hands-on result in relationships and creating habits?

The rule is simple when you're under an intense situation emotionally
you'll probably feel like (trapped by all your senses)
Can't understand exactly how to respond or behave or are simply confused about how to move forward
This is how drastically your thinking ability will differ known as the *Perspective gap* than when you're not in that situation.
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04/03/2022

Being the most distressed person, suffering anguish, unable to understand emotions & how to naturally respond to them, feeling fatigued all the time, and dozens of other traits, which after analyzing and identifying, the next step is immediately *how to improve* and *feel better*
So, here are a few acknowledgments for how to track down distress:
*1) Positive Self-talk*:
By giving a pause to the old unpleasant narration, & planting small yet positive affirmations, and repeating them can work as a magical spell.

*2) How to Cope up with Emotions in the Healthiest Way:*
When your mind goes numb and you feel dumb - that's exactly when you start questioning yourself -
• what do you need?
• how do you feel?
• what made you feel like this in such a situation?
• How to feel better?
• How did I end up being in this situation?
& lots and lots of other questions
Don't lock your emotions keep the stream flowing,
bottling up can suffocate and lead to darker places from where we're finding our way out.

*3) Interpersonal Skills & Relationship Building)*
As inhibition is the most prominent feature of a distressed person, it's 🗝️ to find peace, when one is surrounded by people and feel all-natural & less burdened - that will eventually help to improve your relationship with whom you want to build a strong bond.

*4) Tolerate Distress with Exercise & Mindfulness*
Life can give lemons 🍋
& It's important to know how to make lemonade out of it!
Surely Pushing and pulling, helps us maintain stress hormones that relieve tension and get clarity through mindfulness, meditation, prayers & practicing gratitude. That will help bring calm & navigate emotions peacefully.

*5) Self-Efficacy & Goal setting*
Do you feel you're good for nothing?
( but you're already on your way to being your best version)
Feeling no/less competent is okay when you're in constant fatigue - but challenging to make tiny steps to follow and reach up the sky
Celebrate/ appreciate for smallest tasks that mark a tick on your to-do list.
Be hopeful & look upon the brighter side.
Make meaningful goals & attainable too that make you help improve personal values & insights.

*PS:* Know the power

21/02/2022

When did you last think, you were being distressed? from anything as small as a troll shattering your confidence or a childhood trauma clobbering your innocence that still needs to be restored?

Are we all living in a distressful world?

When are we gonna take a step up & stop the anxiety to crawl all over us?

19/02/2022

Could we ever imagine?
Someone who's a diligent 'thinker' can be creative, imaginative, detail-oriented & accurate too?
All these super fine qualities are guarded when you are just a fine 'thinker'
Wow, I never imagined this way, I wonder what more they may have in them as a thinker? except, thinking from all perspectives?
Well, they can also be well organized, analytical, and ahh of course they're intelligent cause they have this tendency to think before they perform any task.
Are you one of them?

As we all know a coin has two sides, in the same way, people might have a few sides of them which require a self-reflection on their personalities like a 'thinker' who might analyze each situation before stepping in - become skeptical or disengaging ( cause of over-thinking) that might lead to anti-socialism and can affect reversely.
So to keep the behavior in check is important as to not see the glass half-empty, cheerfulness is crucial cause once believing for a disbeliever can do wonders :)

16/02/2022

Type - C personalities usually like to be undisturbed, wrapped in their thoughts, waiting for solutions and answers- they 'think' from all corners to add a difference on the outlook.
People who are roofing under personality traits as TYPE-C 'THINKERS' are always striving for spot-on performance. They like to work with great precision and accuracy. For them, details are rock-solid gold.

07/02/2022

These people are just too good to be true. Always optimistic and making every decision keeping in mind the most intricate details. They can never be wrong with making the final call and trust me, they never let their emotions blackmail them. Failure for them, is only due to extreme interference of the emotional side of one’s personality. They would keep to themselves and still be content of who they are. Be careful, they hardly second guess themselves.

04/02/2022

As calm as they are, it hits them hard when faced with sudden challenges and unannounced loses. Their anxiety kicks in, as a result of delayed attention towards an error earlier. Getting worked up takes a toll on them, as they try to face the truth of time. Before now, they hardly imagined the adversities of inviting time, to be their friend. Sigh, it never was and never will be. As they go through the highs and lows, they keep cool and remain focused on things in control, rather then paying too much heat the ones that have surpassed then jurisdictions.

02/02/2022

Even in times of distress, you seem to find your peace. What is it, that gives you the hope of possibilities and new beginnings? Well, it’s his giving nature and carefree attitude towards life. He knows how to live through a black and white phase and slowly change into a rainbow of sparkling colours. For him, each phase is one step closer to a new aim or an ambition he’ll choose for himself. He’s the master of his own game and knows how to keep calm, when the ocean throws the highest tides at him. He’s not afraid of the dark, as he’s fought the sunlight while the Sun was still behind the clouds.

31/01/2022

This is the other side of the story, that we always see as fun and happy. We seem to understand this person as the most relaxed and calm person in the surrounding. For a fact, he even is. He takes everything, one at a time. He sees the beauty in the little errors, as well as the shining blisters. To him, life has a meaning, even if time is being delayed. The irony if time, is what makes life the most happening for him. He keeps peace between the heart and the brain. That’s how his aura becomes so soothing to pass through and procrastinate just like he does; with nothing to fear and everything willingly lost, for him to find later in life.

29/01/2022

In the end, it all comes down to how you react to the situation. Your stern behaviour describes your personality and you seem to have no control over it at times. There are times when you are overwhelmed with everything happening around you and you feel divided. You’re too particular of every task you perform or every step you take, resulting in an obsessive behaviour. All this portrays you as a picky person, with extreme personality traits. However organised, your lack of patience seems to always take you down.

26/01/2022

At times in life, you become so anxious about everything you do, that even your inner-self differs from the person you really have become. Your heart and mind are at crossroads and you are clueless as to finding the way through. All you look for is peace, but the stress takes everything away. Even the simplest problems become life threatening to you. You fear losing, or being taken easy. Your personal and professional life both are being effected, but you’re over occupied to even think of taking a step back. Breaks, pauses and mental grounds don’t mean anything to you at this point. All your body knows, is how to control the obviousness of your behaviour, that is being shown through constant tapping or physical gestures.

24/01/2022

You might be thinking of what these technical terms have to do with our core personality, right? Well, they’re just big big words, trying to tell you in what ways are we watering ourselves and how sometimes we’ve planted the thorns in our lives.
At times, life becomes too overwhelming to be faced and that’s when we involve ourselves in the materialistic attributes of life. We keep ourselves busy and occupied, just to run away from the cruel reality or to face the everyday dilemmas. We see everything from a negative point of view and in return, aggression starts defining each action of ours as, crude or harsh.
Even when there’s a positive outlook towards life, we tend to believe, that our life is too off track, to be normal at any point. This brings the anxiety to react and make us question even the right decisions. At times, the question we ask ourselves is; Am I true to myself, or is it the obsessiveness that has clouded my life?

19/11/2021

It isn’t about you giving the best advice this time, it’s about them feeling better by you being there for them. They wanna be heard, not judged or questioned for how they feel. Their feelings are the most important thing right now. Let them know, that however dark the times are right now, you’re standing tall besides them. They don’t always have to be okay. Them breaking down, is as okay, as the Sun shining bright in between a thunderstorm. The moonlight will never keep falling, even when the dark nights are the heaviest.

17/11/2021

They don’t want you to be sorry. All they want is to be understood. To know that they’re not alone. To not just survive in the dark days, but also live past it. It’s hard to forget the past, but when you have people around you, who are there for you to express your vulnerable self, then it becomes easier to heal through the pain. Just let them know that they’re still alive. That their soul matters. How everything they feel is important. ‘Don’t be sorry, be present.’

15/11/2021

There’s a difference when you feel bad for someone and when you actually try to understand them. It’s different, when you let someone just cry and when you keep on telling a person, ‘it will be okay.’

There’s this girl, who’s there to listen, and to lend her shoulder to the one who’s bottled up their feelings all this while. She’s a squash ball, ready to take all in. She’s here to understand you, and your situation. She doesn’t want details, she isn’t hungry for gossip, she’s just there because it makes you feel better.

Now here’s a boy as well. Who’s intentions aren’t bad, but he’s more towards showing you the part where everything will supposedly settle down. He’s here to convince you towards the positive image of the current situation. For him, everything has to be okay by the end, otherwise the story hasn’t ended. To him, a happy ending is the only ending. His optimistic behaviour, makes him pity others. His condolences sound more like this, ‘hold tight, the goodness is yet to embark.’

If it was you who wanted to be heard, who would you go to? The girl or the boy?

13/11/2021

In the end, it’s all about a balance between the four. You can’t take anyone out of the process. Each of them, effects the other in a major way. All you need is to take everything as it comes. Don’t rush the process. As much as healing takes time, the destruction takes it’s own time to settle. Time can only master you, when you let it do so. Handle your ups and downs, by your own means. You don’t need a remote control car, you yourself are one. Take yourself where you feel the need, and let go the ones, that don’t need your immediate attention. Be there for each part of yours. Support yourself in the weaknesses and threats and cheer yourself when the opportunities and strengths knock on the door.

11/11/2021

So it’s basically a cycle. It never stops. You’ll have achievements, but you’ll also have times, where you’ll just fall apart. But don’t dig into the hole, more then it’s needed. Sometimes, let time decide for itself. Your shortcomings are also a step forward towards your most awaited victory. Your weaknesses are the treasured golds, that no one else wears. Once you start owning each part of you, be it the dark side or the sunlight, the journey will automatically become a delight to be on.

08/11/2021

Your strengths and weaknesses, both equally define you, as a person. Being proud of, or running from either of them, leaves one person incomplete. How you handle your weaknesses, and make them your strength, tells you how much you can make of the opportunities provided to you. It’s easy to get threatened and walk away from a certain situation, but it takes sheer courage to look up to those threats, with boldness and kindness. In order to handle the stress caused by the threats, one keeps calm, and shows passion in times of crisis. It makes you use the smallest resource, in the most mindful manner. That’s what adds on to your, strengths. In the end, it all goes hand in hand, and shapes your character and personality; both of which, when combined together, makes you, YOU.

06/11/2021

You’re playing the key role here. It all depends on how good of a listener are you. How you can make them comfortable, in their most uneasy times. Even 5 minutes of quality time, can change someone’s whole perspective about a certain thing. Try to be humble, and even if you can’t put yourself in their shoes, let them know, that you understand. You care, and you are present. Let their vulnerability wash away, with ever tear they cry in front of you. See them falling down, they each tell a very important chapter of the story. Life isn’t perfect for no one; just now, it’s a little more numbing for them. Be sensitive towards them, and let them flow their emotions on in the right direction of the river.

03/11/2021

A person is confiding in you. They are pouring their heart out. Let them feel loved and accepted. They are in a very vulnerable state at the moment, and all they need is someone to care, and someone to hear them out. Everyone’s life is important, and their events equally matter; these are the gestures they look for, when they’re just venting out. For you, it might be okay for them to say whatever, but for them, it’s the matter of their trust and faith, that they’re ready to put in someone. Don’t just read someone as plain words; let them draw an image of their story for you. They have fought a battle, and now they want to move on. Be the ladder, that helps them do that. Please don’t judge them, or make them too conscious. Give them the space they need. It’s hard for them already, don’t make it any worse.

01/11/2021

It’s not just the ears that have to do all the listening, but the mind and heart also play a key role. You need to have an open mind, and a soft heart towards the person, who might be sharing very sensitive details with you. Don’t be judgemental with them, or don’t become a lecturer to them. They need someone to listen, someone they can confide in, and trust with their secret. Everyone is not an open book, and it’s not easy for all to burst the pandora box full of intricate emotions. Read between the lines, and be humble. Don’t let your words, become thorns to them. Don’t let them feel, that you’ll soon shrug them away, and whatever you’re saying, doesn’t make sense to you. Even if it doesn’t, just listen! You never know, who might be just venting out, and letting off some emotional burden. Dark times are there in everyone’s life, but the ones who have someone to lean on, find it easier to pass these times.

29/10/2021

Understand others, the way you want to be understood. Listen to them, let them put their point forward too. Don’t just live in your own world. Take your time, but accept the fact, that there are others too. No one’s life is perfect. Don’t blame others for every mishap that occurs. Sometimes, it’s just life’s way to show you directions. Write your thoughts down; let the negativity out, and let positivity flourish!

27/10/2021

You can’t always be the right one. You can’t always have the upper hand. Even when life throws the worst at you, don’t forget you’re not the only one suffering through it. Yes, your pain matters, but hurting others with it, and blaming them for the unknown cause, doesn’t solve the puzzle. You can’t hide the last piece and act like the puzzle was hard. The problem lies within yourself, from the very point when you stopped listening. Bad things happen to everyone, it happened to you too. Is it fair to give a reminder about it, every time you see someone? Why should others suffer the side effects of the emotions you went through? Why can’t those feelings be dealt with, just by finding solutions for the cause. Why dig the already dug hole and make it a useless part of the land?

The toxicity you spread in the environment, changes your whole personality. Even if once, you were a humble person, after you emotional blackmailing and pressure, you’d become an unwanted burden. Your negativity can be seen through your soul; your cleverness won’t change your scrutiny towards betterment and mindful outcomes.

25/10/2021

When one’s emotions aren’t vented out the way they’re meant to be, it becomes toxic to live with them, not only for the person suffering with them, but also for the people living with the effected ones. There’s no right way to vent out, and express oneself; it’s a journey experienced differently, by each individual. Your emotional well-being is your core strength, when it comes to mental well-being. The dark humours, and hidden notices become the cause of negativity and gloomy environment in one’s surroundings. One suppressed emotion can blow up a whole new bubble without any warning!