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PATIENCE AS A REFINED PERSONALITY TRAIT IN DISCIPLINED PERSONALITY (II)
“And be patient; verily, Allah loses not the reward of the good-doers”. V-11:115
While describing the human nature, it is easy to preach and advise that “Patience has its own great reward” but it is so hard to control under temptations. Allah even advised the Holy Prophet not to lose patience in testing like Adam (great father of mankind) who lost self-control under temptation and was derailed by Satan, leading to exile from paradise over disobedience to Allah. There is a great description and lesson also about the great prophet Moses who left home in love to learn Divine knowledge from the prophet Khizer, but despite repeated warning, he could not achieve it in keeping patience. This great story is narrated in surahs Al-Kahaf V-18:60-82 which has eye-opening data for the psychologist and truth seekers on how hard it is to hold one’s self in a testing spot.
Muslims are directed to follow the moderate life and not become spendthrift and keep patience V17:26-27,” And give to the kindred his due and to the Miskin (poor) and to the wayfarer. But spend not wastefully (your wealth) in the manner of a spendthrift .Verily, spendthrifts are brothers of the Shayatin (devils), and the Shaitan (Devil - Satan) is ever ungrateful to his Lord.”
Keeping in view the importance of patience in the religion, it is highly rewarded for the believer to hold out against temptations in human relationship, controlling temperaments in fights, committing justice, sharing sources, avoiding assaults and corruption in dealing with the subordinates, etc. It is observed in daily life practices that a common person does not realize the physical, mental and emotional state of certain people around them like beggars, the chronic sick, poor humble-natured family persons or aged parents going through constant suffering with patience without making any hue or cry. They are the symbols worth consideration in this capitalist world. Unfortunately, old age people with cracking bones are ignored as life-sacrificing parents as if they become restless; either they send them to nursing homes or desert them as a headache without realizing that they too will pass through natural aging till death. The afore-mentioned emotions are worsened in the Covid-19 period of uncertainty and helplessness. There is a great eternal reward in paradise to provide relief to the weak and dependent person.
Psychologically, the resistance power within a person is dependent on his self-concept, attitudes, faith which helps him to fight with the physical and psychological ailments in life. Those who generate a strong bond with Allah and follow the given model of the holy prophets set their life parameter on this strong foundation and live on the will of Allah. So, in the losses and deaths of dear ones, they do not mourn with hue and cry, rather they show patience, contentment and look for peace and blessings, by accepting it as the will of the Creator, learning from it, is described in V-2:155-157,” And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.). Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: "Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return." They are those on whom are the Salawat (i.e. blessings, etc.) (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided-ones.”
Human nature is disclosed that patience has the best reward in V-11:9-11,” And if We give man a taste of Mercy from Us, and then withdraw it from him, verily! He is despairing, ungrateful. But if We let him taste good (favour) after evil (poverty and harm) has touched him, he is sure to say: "Ills have departed from me." Surely, he is exultant, and boastful (ungrateful to Allah). Except those who show patience and do righteous good deeds, those: theirs will be forgiveness and a great reward (Paradise).”
The essence of patience and mental peace is based on Tawakal, Taqwa, and goal-directed struggle and contentment on the provisions with positive thinking and mental relief on thanking the sole Provider. Trial time is a caution for the intellectuals and truth-seekers to relax and collect the scattered self-energy, reading the parameters of the situation and analyze it, not putting all eggs in one basket and sitting like a paralyzed person. So, one should reset goals and strategies to overcome the hurdles step by step, objectively find out one’s temperament and thinking pattern under the challenge. One needs to figure out inner guilt feeling or repressed aggressions that are blocking the enforcing power to change in the confrontation.
Historical findings point out that the great nations under crisis, instead of getting over-whelmed by arrogance and rigidity to implicitly win a situation, always use a rational approach to meet the challenges one by one by reviewing the results. Allah does not bless with a right path till a nation is intended to change its stance, which is reminded in V-8:53, “That is so because Allah will never change a grace which He has bestowed on a people until they change what is in their own selves. And verily, Allah is All-Hearer, All-Knower.”
Great reward is for sticking with Tawakal and deep trust in the Master in life in V11:114-115,”And perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat), at the two ends of the day and in some hours of the night [i.e. the five compulsory Salat (prayers)]. Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds (i.e. small sins). That is a reminder (an advice) for the mindful (those who accept advice). And be patient; verily, Allah loses not the reward of the good-doers.”
A normal healthy person as a Sabir (self-controlling person) out of fear of Allah will be placed at high status like the prophets for their deeds. Those who have trust in the Creator, are least anxious about death, they fight wholeheartedly against the challenges with patience and will of the Lord against the aggressors in Jihad. That is the reason Islam spread with peace in a shortest period in the world, helping the repressed subjects who called for help and for a fair peaceful culture for the common person.
Devotion, concentration, confirmation and commitment with an altered state of mind during the prayers provide a deep psychic link (RUH) with the Sole Creator to hit the goals by a righteous believer in life affairs. These all are the deeds to prefer in the next eternal life over selfishness and temptations of this short life.
Fasting is a self-control obligatory practice to increase patience and get awareness of the deprived class in a community. Moreover, sharing with others and creating an international brotherhood during Hajj is also a self-control system. Sacrificing, charity (Zakat) for the relief of needy religious fellows is to follow the will of God for a prosperous social welfare system. In this respect, moderate line of action is directed by first fulfilling the natural deeds and then supporting the fellow human beings, an example quoted for insight in V-17:29-30,” And let not your hand be tied (like a miser) to your neck, nor stretch it forth to its utmost reach (like a spendthrift), so that you become blameworthy and in severe poverty. Truly, your Lord enlarges the provision for which He wills and straitens (for whom He wills). Verily, He is Ever All-Knower, All-Seer of His slaves.”
Historically proven data is available that humans turned arrogant, corrupt, and aggressive, lost self-control and acted like wild brutes, which ruined all these great nations. All the Ahele-kitab and prophet were tortured but they stood patient with moral-ethical values and social welfare deeds.
There is no place of hypocrisy, tricking, manipulation, creating rivalry, playing with others’ feeling, exhibition or self-projection in religious practices which are based on sincerity and devotion with the human fellows in this world’s short stay. A blind money-monger lost in active fantasies has poor awareness and taste of life (food, songs, and social interactions) and mostly passes time like a senseless robot while some eat like wild animals without the refined senses of a civilized rational human being.
Cont…….
Established Fact of Omnipresent and Sole Sovereign of the Universe (P-2)
“And say: "All the praises and thanks be to Allah, Who has not begotten a son (or an offspring), and Who has no partner in (His) Dominion, nor He is low to have Wali (helper, protector or supporter). And magnify Him with all the magnificence, [Allahu-Akbar (Allah is the Most Great)]." (V-17:111)
The analytical picture of the present global socio-political set up indicates variant factors that may be because of human lust for power and affluent motives in this short life. These are people who are lost in worldly gains and left the right path and ethical/moral standards by being selfish, corrupt, and crushing innocent creatures with extremist motive in this civilized society. They are also losing family units, adopting sexual vulgarity like the nation of Lut, are involved in racism and sectarian rivalries, indulging in gender and color discrimination, and controlling the under-developed and developing words for world supremacy.
It is worth consideration to see why the privileged race of Adam is at risk of Creator’s wrath in the present testing. Despite humans globally involved in excessive polytheism, corruption, hypocrisy, cheating, homicide, sexual offences, repressing the poor, etc., He is Generous, Merciful to forgive the creatures over repenting the sins and re-organizing in this life. No doubt, He has given each individual freedom of choice of his own deeds but warned about the accountability of each and without any favor or recommendation for the final awards on the Day of Judgment.
There is abundance of historical examples of human arrogance to act and claim to be god, like the stubborn Pharaoh who challenged the great prophet Moses since a servant-class prophet could not be equated with their race and was ordered to be killed but ended himself with destruction of flood. Later, the Bani Israel, a privileged nation, turned into sects with differences, but the righteous followers of the Torah would be in paradise while those who fabricated would be place in hellfire for misleading the people. So, the clashes of Pharaoh and Moses are described for insight in V-7: 133-136,” So We sent on them: the flood, the locusts, the lice, the frogs, and the blood: (as a succession of) manifest signs, yet they remained arrogant, and they were of those people who were Mujrimun (criminals, polytheists, sinners, etc.). And when the punishment fell on them they said: "O Musa (Moses)! Invoke your Lord for us because of His Promise to you. If you will remove the punishment from us, we indeed shall believe in you, and we shall let the Children of Israel go with you." But when We removed the punishment from them to a fixed term, which they had to reach, behold! They broke their word! So We took retribution from them. We drowned them in the sea, because they belied Our Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and were heedless about them.”
While presenting the details of Adam’s creation, details are narrated that Satan showed arrogance (Takbir) and under self-projection of his superiority, refused to bow to Adam and was expelled forever as rejected but he trapped Adam by exciting temptations too. So, it is a lesson to have contentment and patience of the blessings instead of turning crazy. Still, he expected maximum without spending and sharing with the needy ones. For the insight of the intellectuals, a dialogue about righteous person and evil one’s role is described in V-15:28-41,”And (remember) when your Lord said to the angels: "I am going to create a man (Adam) from sounding clay of altered black smooth mud. "So, when I have fashioned him completely and breathed into him (Adam) the soul which I created for him, then fall (you) down prostrating yourselves unto him." So, the angels prostrated themselves, all of them together. Except Iblis (Satan), - he refused to be among the prostrators. (Allah) said: "O Iblis (Satan)! What is your reason for not being among the prostrators?" [Iblis (Satan)] said: "I am not the one to prostrate myself to a human being, whom You created from sounding clay of altered black smooth mud."(Allah) said: "Then, get out from here, for verily, you are Rajim (an outcast or a cursed one)." "And verily, the curse shall be upon you till the Day of Recompense (i.e. the Day of Resurrection)." [Iblis (Satan)] said: "O my Lord! Give me then respite till the Day they (the dead) will be resurrected." Allah said: "Then, verily, you are of those reprieved, "Till the Day of the time appointed." [Iblis (Satan)] said: "O my Lord! Because you misled me, I shall indeed adorn the path of error for them (mankind) on the earth, and I shall mislead them all. "Except Your chosen, (guided) slaves among them." (Allah) said: "This is the Way which will lead straight to Me." "Certainly, you shall have no authority over My slaves, except those who follow you of the Ghawin (Mushrikun and those who go astray, criminals, polytheists, and evil-doers, etc.)...”And surely, Hell is the promised place for them all.”
On observation of the evidence of nature, it is obvious that there is One God (Allah) only as if there have been more than One Sovereign Unique power, the gods would have been fighting for controlling the universe according to their mood, interest or specific agenda. Moreover, if they had special interest likes family or associates; they would be never impartial to run the whole universal system. “It is He, Who gave you life, and then will cause you to die, and will again give you life (on the Day of Resurrection). Verily! Man is indeed an ingrate.” V-22:66
Despite human evil intention under prosperity, the Master is always Gracious as He will judge the human deeds and intentions according to given potential for struggle is expressed as” And We tax not any person except according to his capacity, and with Us is a Record which speaks the truth, and they will not be wronged. Nay, but their hearts are covered (blind) from understanding this (the Qur'an), and they have other (evil) deeds, besides, which they are doing. Until, when We grasp those of them who lead a luxurious life with punishment, behold! They make humble invocation with a loud voice”. V-23:62-64
Lastly, it is warned that Creator only accepts the Abrahimic religion of monotheism. Therefore, if one repents and corrects himself by following the straight directive line in life by practicing obligatory duties and moral code of ethics, the Almighty forgives the sins except creating deities or associate with His Sovereignty. So, is it repeatedly revealed in V-4:116,” Verily! Allah forgives not (the sin of) setting up partners in worship with Him, but He forgives whom he pleases sins other than that, and whoever sets up partners in worship with Allah, has indeed strayed far away.” Cont…
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