15/08/2020
Say no to cousin marriages...
What is the cost of tradition? Is it worth a mother's child?
It is impossible to have difficult conversations in Pakistan because you are met with, "yahan toh aisay hee hota hay" - we never really think about kya aisay hona chaiye?
Every year countless children are born with genetic disorders in Pakistan because of cousin marriages. We are stuck in our primitive tribal ways. We cannot question the practice because it is 'tradition', well it shouldn't be.
And if you want to continue this practice because it is how it has always been done, I would strong urge you to read this raw unedited story of a mother; a mother who loved her child just as much as any mother would but lost her child to Metachromatic leukodystrophy; a hereditary disease.
I am sure most of you will walk away from this post thinking Allah kee marzi thee but we cannot put babies at a higher risk of genetic disorders and brush it aside as God's will.
How many mothers have to continue feeling this pain? There is a reason everything is compared to a mother's love; it is infinite and unconditional. Let's not continue making them feel this pain just to hold onto tradition.
And karni hee cousin say shadi, Suno chanda level ishq hogaya hay toh please get a Gene Rotation test to see the chances of your children getting these disorders.
Would strongly urge all of you to read Saida's tale and please speak up against cousin marriages:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1lPQQtCkjxG9ylZGF4LzmFhhNVAQOBrS8/view?fbclid=IwAR0xH0MMQAjABZJNseHmPDk1i7mKbTSK297W2c7NLLiSok1dGS-7sRajbZw