
11/08/2025
- I read the letter you've left on the grave - said a middle aged woman voice when I picked up the phone.
- Which grave, I leave such messages constantly - I said with a bit of nonchalance of an experienced genealogist who answered such calls before.
- You left it on your grandfather's grave. He raised me - said the woman. - I think we should meet.
I froze, was left speechless for a good moment and dozens of emotions flooded my heart. After 12 years of research I was to discover what kind of a man my biological grandfather was... And besides the fact that my wavy hair found its source, it turned out not to be a nice discovery.
We sometimes think that if things were different our lives would be better. And we only discover that it was quite the opposite. Genealogy is not only about recreating our family tree, it is also about solving family secrets and releasing the transgenerational trauma. Also a journey of understanding ourselves better through the experiences of our ancestors. For me, the biggest lesson is that in the end our life is in our hands. We can stay in the what if or start working on ourselves while still digging for the truth. I am happy to have chosen this path. And the answer came when I was ready to receive it.