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03/09/2025

You’re not in control even if it feels like you are.

You do everything “right”.
You follow every plan, take every test, stick to every rule.
You double-check, prepare, keep going even when it’s hard not because you’re obsessed with control but because control feels safe.

It gives the illusion that if you just do enough, things will work out; that if you hold it all together, something good will come.

Here’s the truth most of us avoid. You are not in control of:
- When you get pregnant
- How others feel about you
- What the test result says
- What your boss or partner does next
- How fast your body responds
- The exact outcome of your efforts...

That doesn’t mean you’re powerless, it means your energy is better spent elsewhere.

You are in control of:
- How you speak to yourself when things don’t go as planned
- The pace you choose to move at
- Whether you listen to your body or ignore it
- The support you choose to ask for
- What you believe about your worth
- The space you create to feel what’s really there

Control doesn’t create safety! Presence does.

What truly shifts things is meeting yourself where you are not where you think you should be, because safety doesn’t come from doing more, it begins the moment you stop and truly listen.

If you’re ready to explore that space, I have 1 spot open for my 90-day wellbeing & fertility support. Type CHAT and I’ll send you the link to book a free consultation.

02/09/2025

You were never meant to carry this alone.
Understanding the full picture helps you release the pressure.
There’s more going on than what you’ve been told and it’s not all on you.

01/09/2025

She didn’t just feel better she felt free.

Vanessa healed the fears that were holding her back. She found courage, truth and joy. With the right tools, she began walking through life as her full self.

31/08/2025

Do you wait for others to act a certain way to feel seen?
No one sees life exactly like you do.
When your peace depends on others, it becomes fragile.
This post invites you to release those expectations and gently come back to yourself.

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30/08/2025

I don’t know how to heal you but I know that you do

I don’t know how to heal you but I know that you do.That’s not because I don’t care, it’s because it’s not my job. It never was.We often look at the pain som...

28/08/2025

I don’t know how to heal you but I know that you do.

That’s not because I don’t care, it’s because it’s not my job. It never was.

We often look at the pain someone’s going through and try to measure it:
Is it too big? Too small? Too much? Too dramatic?

We judge. We compare.
We either stand above them or sink into the story with them.

We do the same to ourselves.
Maybe because that’s what we saw growing up.
Maybe because no one ever taught us another way.

Something shifted in me over the years.

When I look at you:
I don’t see your pain as too much.
I don’t see your path as broken.
I see your capacity.

I see that you were born with everything you need to get through what you’re facing.

Maybe you don’t believe that yet.
Maybe you believe it but can’t access it yet.
Maybe you’re just now learning to trust it.
Maybe you’ve started using what you have but still wonder if it’s enough.

It is.

No therapist will heal you.
Not me. Not anyone.

What we can do is walk beside you.
Help you see what’s already inside you.
Hold space while you remember who you are and reflect the strength that’s always been yours.

27/08/2025

Yesterday, I spoke with a woman who has been searching for solutions for over three years through talk therapy.

The truth is, some of my clients have never tried therapy before, others continue seeing their therapist alongside our work but the majority? They’re worn out from years of talking without finding real answers.

Does this resonate with you?

Let me quickly explain Hebb’s Rule and how it connects to talking therapy:

Hebb’s Rule is simple: neurons that fire together, wire together. The more you think about something, the more your brain strengthens that thought. In talk therapy, it’s easy to get caught in repeating conversations, revisiting the same emotions, memories and thought patterns without real progress.

The initial relief you feel from talking therapy is real. It helps you understand your emotions and make sense of your struggles. But here’s the thing: that relief fades.

At first, it’s lighter but over time, you may find yourself feeling stuck again. That’s because talking about the same things again and again can keep you stuck in the same patterns you’re trying to break free from.

If this sounds like you, it’s crucial to explore other solutions that might be more effective right now.

This isn’t to say that talk therapy doesn’t work for everyone but if you feel like you’re not moving forward, it’s time to reassess. Are you truly healing? Or are you just recycling the same feelings without real progress?

Sometimes, we need to go beyond the branches of the trees and focus on the roots: the beliefs and experiences that formed us in the first place.

If you’ve been struggling for a while and feel stuck, I encourage you to consider other methods that can bring lasting change.

The right solution is the one that works for YOU in this moment.

26/08/2025

Feeling drained doesn’t mean you’re failing.
It means your body is asking for care.
Burnout isn’t forever. It’s a signal to pause, breathe and come back to yourself.

25/08/2025

She almost gave up on therapy until this changed everything.

18 months after her first RTT® session, Sonia says her life has a before and after. Deep patterns shifted and a new version of herself began to take shape.

24/08/2025

What if the belief holding you back… isn’t even true?
Sometimes, the shift begins with one question.
When you challenge the old story, you make space for something new.
Your next breakthrough might start with doubt and a choice to believe differently.

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23/08/2025

Have you noticed how the more we chase, the more we crave simplicity?

I’ve spent the last few days away with my family.And what I keep noticing is how people who seem to “have it all” the comforts, the luxuries, suddenly seek o...

23/08/2025

I’ve spent the last few days away with my family.
And what I keep noticing is how people who seem to “have it all” the comforts, the luxuries, suddenly seek out the simplest experiences when they’re close to nature.

- No shoes, just earth beneath us
- Sleep, even without much comfort
- Sharing simple meals
- Letting children play freely, without structure
- Hair messy from the wind
- Clothes chosen for comfort, not appearance
- The quiet joy of doing nothing
- Looking up at a sky full of stars
- Realising you laugh more when there’s less to manage
- Remembering that presence is more valuable than perfection
- Discovering peace in the pauses

It’s as if, far from the noise, we remember that we don’t actually need much to feel whole.

We spend so much of our lives striving for more, more success, more possessions, more recognition. Yet the moments that truly restore us are often the simplest ones.

If you’ve been running for so long, the thought of slowing down might feel strange but it’s in that stillness that you finally come back to yourself.

💌 For you, what does simplicity look like?