Emi Tsoref - Yoga Teacher

14/02/2022

It's been about 6 years now that I've been working on my relationship.

With myself.
With my inner child.
Like all relationships, we had our ups and downs.
There were days I felt so connected, so tuned in, and others, where I felt detached, moody, frustrated.
I can't say my inner child never takes control anymore. I can't say I always have the grownups hat on and I always keep my cool. Sometimes i'm too tired, sometimes I get triggered and it takes me a while to calm down. But today I know how to be better towards myself. How to understand better whats going on and take control back.

I used to lose control so often.
To feel that there is something taking over me and not understanding why.
An angry yoga teacher? Sometimes I felt like a fraud.
Slowly I started understanding that it's my childhood wounds that are triggered and in those moments the grownup is out the door, the child takes charge and reacts .This switch can happen in seconds. You don't ever realize it. Only after, when calm, I would wonder how is it that with all I know I still react this way.
When I learned about my inner child and started to work on our relationship, things started changing. I got a clearer understanding of the reasons that lead to these outbursts, I received tools to heal these wounds and to love myself fully, even in those moments.
The more I love the less it happens.

It's a hard thing, to love our darker sides.
Those sides that we might have learned not to love and to hide when we were young.
And this is why it's so important to find kindness and compassion when this darker shades in us come up.
Because all they are, eventually, are little frightened children that simply want to be loved and accepted, just as they are, even when in a meltdown.

Unconditional love.
Did you receive this kind of love as a child?
Do you wish to give this type of love to your children?
In order to give we need to first fill up our cup and give ourselves the love and acceptance we wish to give our children, and by setting the example, our children can do the same for themselves in the future.

I invite you to heal your inner child together, to love yourself better, to take control.
PM for a private session.
If you live near Lagos we meet on Tuesdays at 10:00.

10/02/2022

When a baby is born a mother is born.
And with this birth, all the expectations are born too.
We believe that all the motherly instincts will simply kick in.
We believe it's human nature and we should be able to handle it all.

But it takes a village.
And we don't have one.

We are two adult, sometimes one, a newborn and very little sleep or knowledge.
We didn't grow up watching our sisters and cousins give birth, breastfeed and take care of a baby.
Maybe we never even held a young baby in our arms. But we don't think about it. We don't think it should matter.
It matters.

Because the knowledge and understanding of what it means to attend to a newborn is passed on when we observe and help out, it doesn't just exist in us waiting to come up to the surface of awareness at the site of our child.
In a tribe we would be supported by the whole sisterhood, everyone would help out.
We wouldn't be left to do the cleaning and laundries, entertain guests and try to squeeze in a shower a day just to feel human for a moment.

So there we are, healing physically as we're trying to figure this motherhood out, trying not to fight with our partner over silly things due to tiredness, and sometimes, feeling so, so alone.
Alone with your thoughts, your fears, your worries and mainly misunderstood.

I'm here to tell you this is all normal.
It's a challenging time and we go on an emotional rollercoaster.
IT WILL PASS.

If you're living near Lagos you're welcomed to join my mom & baby yoga and circle.
If you're far and need some support, do reach out and we can schedule a zoom session to lift you up.

Talking with other moms helps us feel normal and less alone. It validates our feelings and helps us understand that we all go through this and feel lots of the same things.
Don't clam up, reach out, ask for support.

In the photo- skin to skin with Tomy when he was 1 month old

17/01/2022

I started connecting with my inner child about 7 years ago, with my beloved מלי-מור פסיכותרפיה ותת מודע -ריפוי שורשי מצמיח .
It took me time to understand how powerful this tool is and how important this connection is and how it affects us on so many levels when we're not listening to the voice of our inner child.

Thanks to this deep work I understood that my anger is a protection shield that my inner child has developed.
It's the way I react when all I want is love and to feel seen.
This goes way back into my childhood. Feeling that I'm not seen by my parents would hurt me so much that the only way I could react would be anger, because facing the true feelings was too much for me to handle.
Understanding this allowed me to realize that this is still happening to me. This defense mechanism has been established and when I feel that I'm not seen or heard it comes out in flying colors.

The work I've done allowed me to not only see that this is happening but also gave me tools to heal this place.
To sit with my inner child and say to her all that she needed to hear. to reassure her that she isn't alone anymore, she has me.
Slowly she started trusting me more and more.
With every situation that I come across I can feel how she learns to trust that I'm here for her and all is going to be ok.

I'm so blessed that my journey has brought me to a place where I can share this gift with others.
It might be the most important work you'll do for yourself.
The biggest gift you can give yourself, the gift of self love.

In the sessions we build a connection with your inner child to heal all the old wounds.
We then take it into the body and practice yoga to process everything on a different level.

12/01/2022

Connect with your deep intuition, understand yourself better, take control over your life.

This is why we connect with our inner child.

This child that stores all that we've been through is within us, holding on to pain, unprocessed emotions and beliefs about life.
This child is usually in the background but when we're triggered it's the child who takes control and responds.
Thats why it's so difficult to change our patterned behaviors only by understanding what they are.

When we reach inside and connect with our inner child we can truly understand where what we're feeling is coming from, and after we understand we can start changing it.
Changing our patterns begins with understanding the core beliefs on which this patterns relay on.

In this group meditation we'll create a path of communication that will allow us to receive deep insights and make impactful changes in our lives.
Tuesday the 18th, 10am-11:15am
Emi's yoga place, near Lagos

20/12/2021

What is our inner child?
Yes, the child within us.
But what does it really mean?
And why is it so important that we establish a relationship with this child?

we come to this world very clean.
Clean from impressions, judgment, self criticism.
Full of curiosity and belief.
Belief that we can achieve anything.
Belief that we are love and that we are loved for who we are.
As the years pass by we start changing. We learn through experience and start doubting ourselves, learning new "truths" about who we are and how can we be loved.
We take in the things our parents and others say about us and start believing in them ourselves and we learn to talk to ourselves the same way we were spoken to as children.

Everytime we "lose it" it's our inner child shouting out in frustration.
needing to be heard and loved.
When we open the channels of communication to our inner child we start understanding ourselves.
What is making us act and react the way we do.
What are the beliefs that rule our lives.

By building a relationship we start a process of deep healing.

Join me Thursday the 30th for an inner child healing meditation at 10am.
Zoom meetings are also possible.

Photo by Annie Spratt

08/09/2021

There are so many opinions on everything these days, so many answers to the same questions and when you're pregnant it can be intimidating.
Not being sure what will be good for you and your baby or simply wondering if what you're feeling is normal are very common things during this time in your life.
I'm a mom, a certified yoga teacher and I specialize in pre and postnatal yoga and inner work.
Alex is a well known birth keeper and a doula, a mom and a beautiful soul.
We're pleased to invite you to share your questions and wonders with us.
We'll hold our next meet up next week, reserve your spot as places are limited!

21/06/2021

A few years ago I worked with mentally disabled people and I found my elf so challenged.
I could do very simple practices and some of them couldn't even lift their arms by themself so I did it for them.
I found myself thinking what's the point? Are they getting any benefits from this? Is it worth it?
I would try to find the things that I thought made them happy and make them smile and be try to be content with that.
When the day came and I said goodbye I was surprised to see and hear how much they'll miss me.
The staff told me how important this was for them and that they could see the difference I made.
This taught me so much.
Sometimes we think that if we don't see a big progress we achieved nothing but, as they say, god is in the little things.

14/06/2021

How yoga helps me become a happier mom #2

I'm my own worst critic and at times I can be my worst friend.
Self blame and guilt send my inner judge into a spin and he always finds me accountable.
In the recent years I started noticing this more and more, especially since becoming a mother, and I realized that if I don't want my son to follow this example I must be kinder to myself.

How did yoga help me with this?

I started off in Ashtanga yoga, where I always felt that I'm not good enough, I never got the complicated postures right and never managed to practice ashtanga every day as expected. I liked sweating and working hard but couldn't bring myself to do it every single day.
My inner judge loved it.
I kept telling my self this story of not being a good enough teacher, and it fed itself.
Until I started realizing that this might not be the right practice for me.
I explored and opened myself to my inner guides and discovered that there are different movements my body needs on different days.

***I became a better friend to myself and more compassionate, and I can teach that to my son by exemple.
*** I started understanding the sessions of my feminine cycle and respecting it, which helped me be more calm.
*** I started loving and respecting my inner rhythm and flow with it, loving my uniqueness allows me to love my son's uniqueness

SO, bottom line is that yoga gave me the opportunity to gently notice the negative self talk and with kindness to allow it to pass on, like a cloud in the sky.
It doesn't always happen that easy but I DO MY BEST, and that's good enough.

07/06/2021

Tomorrow we meet at10:30 in Luz for mom and baby yoga.
So excited to share this time with all you mamas!
The class I always wanted to have when I was a fresh mom I now present to you.
Can't wait to see you!
PM for details.

02/06/2021

Dear new mom,
When it all look chaotic and you're not sure you can do this you may feel alone and self blame can arise.
Know this- as long as you do your best you're the best mom there is for this child.
Your child has chosen you as his mother, with all your imperfections.

Mom & baby yoga classes start on June 8th in Luz.

31/05/2021

25/05/2021

10/05/2021

How many times do you judge yourself over lashing out on your child?
How many times do you think of a mistake you did and punish yourself in your mind by negative self talk?
How many times do you have a meltdown and then can't forgive yourself for letting all your emotions out like that?

05/05/2021