Pia Hylén Psychologist

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Pia Hylén Psychologist

English-speaking psychologist and psychoanalyst in greater Lisbon area, Setúbal and Azeitão. On-line and in vivo.

Helping expats, nomads, English and French speakers with anxiety, depression or burnout symptons - adapting to a new culture and lifestyles. I’m a psychologist trained at UC Berkeley, University of Copenhagen, Cornell Medical Center, and École de la Cause Freudienne, Paris. I specialize in helping people clarify their emotions and transform the way they connect with others. Whether you're facing l

ife challenges, feeling overwhelmed, or seeking to understand yourself better, therapy provides a space to gain clarity and develop solutions. In therapy, we’ll examine issues together, looking at specific elements while considering the bigger picture. My approach supports you in bridging the gap between your thoughts and emotions, integrating these parts to create a more harmonious, authentic self. If you’re ready to explore change, I’m here to help.

27/07/2025

Dear new moms,
Your body has just done something extraordinary. After childbirth, it’s normal if s*x doesn’t feel the same right away—or if it doesn’t feel like a priority at all. Your body and mind are adjusting to a whole new rhythm, and that takes time. Desire will return, in its own moment, when you feel safe, rested, and ready. Be gentle with yourself—your s*xuality is not gone, it’s simply evolving.

*xuality

26/07/2025

It’s not repression that blocks you—it’s proximity. Desire collapses when the object is too close, too available.
Fantasy needs distance. When the object steps into reach, desire can falter, revealing how it feeds on lack, not presence.
Sexual blocks are often not about shame, but about what happens when the Other is too close—when fantasy is stripped bare.
Desire burns on the horizon; too near, and its structure trembles. What we long for is often the interval, not the thing itself.

*xuality

24/07/2025

In Bosch’s Garden of Earthly Delights, from year 1500 where even then desire bloomed beyond measure—
bodies merge, fruit ripens, pleasure spills over.
Here is jouissance: sweet, excessive, impossible to contain.
Every paradise hides its own fall,
for the drive never stops at enough.
We chase what undoes us, and call it bliss.
In every touch, the Real waits, smiling.

23/07/2025

Desire and Lack
In Lacanian psychoanalysis, desire is not about what we want but about what we lack.
This lack is structural—it comes from the very fact that we are speaking beings, cut off from a mythical wholeness.
We think an object or a person will complete us, yet every time we obtain it, the sense of fullness slips away.
Desire keeps moving, circulating around this gap that can never be fully filled.
Paradoxically, it is this lack that keeps life in motion and gives our existence meaning.

22/07/2025

Sometimes, it’s the delusion that lifts you. A spark of imagined grandeur, a flirtation with the impossible — and suddenly, you’re no longer sinking. Against the heavy pull of self-devaluation, Deloulou is a buoy: a necessary fiction that keeps the subject afloat. Call it madness, or call it style — either way, it beats despair.

12/07/2025

Don't complain constantly.
Words are not just sounds—they structure your reality.
Every complaint is a signifier, and if you let them loop endlessly, they shape a world of lack where you're always the victim.
Lacan taught us that speech is never innocent—it binds you to a position in the symbolic.
So speak with care. Your words are building the life you're either trapped in or liberated by.

12/07/2025

Weaponizing s*x is efficient but dangerous.
In Lacanian terms, s*x is never simply biological—it is structured by the signifier and entangled in the subject’s relation to the Other. When one uses s*x as a weapon, one mobilizes desire to dominate, punish, or seduce—not to enjoy, but to stage a drama of lack. It may appear empowering, but this tactic often backfires, as the subject becomes trapped in the very fantasy they sought to control. In the end, jouissance does not obey—it exceeds, and sometimes devastates.

10/07/2025

Il n'y a pas de rapport s*xuel," says Lacan — but what does he mean?
He’s not denying that s*x happens — he's saying there's no pre-established harmony between the s*xes. No formula, no script, no ‘natural’ complementarity. Desire always misses its mark, tangled in language, fantasy, and lack. Love tries to bridge the gap — but the gap remains, and that's precisely what makes desire so persistent.

09/07/2025

There are times when s*x no longer whispers with mystery, but weighs with duty. When the thrill of transgression gives way to the dull echo of expectation. Desire doesn’t bloom in obligation — it flickers in the shadows, in the not-knowing, in what escapes the script. Lacan reminds us: the truth of desire is never where we think it is. So if the fire feels forced, ask gently — whose rhythm am I following?

08/07/2025

Anxiety is not simply an enemy to be fought—it is a signal pointing to the place where your desire is weak and you don't stand your grounds. It doesn't come from outside, but erupts from within. It unmoors your certainty, your direction, and your strength. You need however to listen, but if this listening becomes too much, you are welcome to come speak—to me about it.

08/07/2025

The unconscious is not elsewhere—it is woven into the fabric of our daily life. It speaks, but not directly; it insinuates itself through slips, symptoms, and desires that surprise us. Structured like a language, it insists, even when we think we're in control. It is not hidden deep within, but present in what we say without knowing, in the gaps and detours of speech. Far from being a silent partner, the unconscious guides us—often where we consciously did not intend to.

04/07/2025

> After a toxic relationship, stepping into a space where care and respect are present can feel strangely disorienting. When you've been caught in the Other’s demand, love may have felt like surveillance or control. Now, where tenderness appears, your defenses may whisper danger. But this discomfort is not proof something’s wrong—it’s just your symptom adjusting to a new symbolic order. Don’t confuse the unfamiliar with the untrue.

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Lisbon

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