27/02/2026
Lovingly, no.
I love this last slide because it reminds me that intentional boundary setting can be done from a place of love.
Like, yes, I love you, but no, I am not going to pick you up at 3am again when you are drunk.
Or, yes, I love you, but my work is valued at this rate and the price cannot be changed.
Both of those realities can exist simultaneously.
Too often in the past, I let my boundaries soften because I did not want to hurt the other person or harm the relationship. When in fact, it was myself I was harming by allowing my boundaries to be crossed.
By getting clear on my values, I no longer let my life be led by yeses to cater to others needs.
Now I take time to listen to my body and respond with, “Let me come back to you on that.” And if my gut gives me an immediate response, it is a loving, “I love you, but no, thank you.”
I surround myself with a community that does the same. Women and men who take pride in speaking their truth and owning their no without apology.
For so long, I could not hear my gut because of the noise in my external world. Then I began dedicating time to connect to my body through conscious and sensual movement, and the subtle messages of my breath.
That quiet connection meant I could recognise the power in my voice and the strength in saying no.
What I desired in relationships became clearer, and more aspects of my work fell into alignment.
This is why I do somatic work. To create space in a noisy world, evoke creativity and power, and then lead with soft, intentional strength.
In March, I am holding two somatic exploration containers that bridge the inner exploration with bold expression.
The first is online on 1 March. The second is in person in Lisbon on 7 March.
Attend one practice or both at a special exchange.
Details are in the link in my bio.
Thank you for the photos from retreat at last summer.
