11/06/2021
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From the moment we are born we start learning about this world. This learning is not only cognitive, as many people falsely believe. We learn through our senses, through nonverbal communication, through people around us.
We learn about connection early on. We also learn about protection. And how much of our narrative is about connection vs. protection depends on if we have regulated and regulating people around us.
At birth, we are no longer connected from one body to another (no longer a part of your mother’s body), but connected nervous system to nervous system (which creates co-regulation.) In these very early interactions, we rely on our caregiver to bring a regulated nervous system to this connection. But what happens when there is none? When caregivers can’t attune to baby’s needs, when stressful experiences in babies aren’t recognized and soothed, the autonomic experience of persistent danger shapes the baby’s system from connection into protection.
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