Psihoterapie Delia-Gabriela Gheorghita

30/04/2026

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26/04/2026

Being able to name a feeling isn’t the same as actually feeling it.

Emotional awareness includes recognizing what’s happening:
“I feel angry.” “My body feels tense and anxious.” “I’m hurt.”

Emotional capacity includes awareness—but doesn’t stop there.
It’s the ability to stay present to and even witnessing what we’re feeling without immediately disconnecting—shutting down, reacting, or becoming completely overwhelmed overwhelmed.

Someone can talk about their emotions in great detail and still struggle to stay present when those emotions arise.

Of course, insight matters and it’s often a first important step.
But without the capacity to stay connected to ourselves when the insight comes, it can only take us so far.

In NARM, we work with both—supporting awareness and building the capacity to stay present to our full experience.

23/04/2026

As counterintuitive as it is, self-rejection can actually bring a version of hope. It might give us the feeling that we can stay one step ahead of our pain or more on top of not feeling so exposed.

This way of moving through the world is both incredibly adaptive,
and
it doesn’t come without a price.

Living inside of self-rejecting and self-shaming patterns will ultimately narrow our lives— what we feel, how we express ourselves, and how we allow ourselves to be seen and connected.

If you would like support as you heal from the effects of chronic shame, you can find a NARM practitioner near you 👉 https://directory.narmtraining.com/

03/04/2026

If you're working on having better boundaries, this is an important and nuanced lesson:

Other people are allowed to be disappointed by your boundaries.

This doesn't automatically mean that they're trying to take advantage of you, that they don't respect you, or that the relationship is over.

It means they're having an emotional response to not getting what they want or expect.
And that's okay.
Especially if we're renegotiating the terms of a relationship, which absolutely happens as we continue to grow and develop as individuals and participants in any relationship or community. Sometimes we create boundaries where they didn't used to exist and there is an uncomfortable transition period.
That's a normal aspect of growth.

What is okay is having and naming feelings. ("oof, I get it but I feel sad about it.")
What isn't okay is pushing the boundary or degrading or attacking the person for having it.

If you come from a boundary-less or enmeshed background and you're working on identifying and honoring your own boundaries more (and respecting other people's), this will likely be something you bump up against.
And that's okay.
People can love you and be disappointed by your choices sometimes — and they can still respect those choices.
It is possible!

This is where self awareness and emotional self management come in - being present to your own narratives and feelings that pop up when someone is disappointed by a choice you've made.
Disappointment is a part of healthy relationships, too.

A reminder that we'll be meeting in person again on April 18th for Regulate and Relate in the Pearl district in Portland.
We'll come together to practice settling, slowing down, and then connecting with other likeminded people in the area. Small group lead by me.
https://theeqschool.co/regulate-and-relate

03/04/2026

"When we attend to feelings about what was missed, yearned for, covered in shame, or associated with hurt and rejection we are providing recognition of not “replacement for missed infantile experience"." Jayce Long

29/03/2026

What if healing from the effects of complex trauma didn’t have to mean going back and analyzing everything that ever happened to us?

Of course, our early experiences matter.

But in NARM, the focus of the work isn’t on revisiting the past for its own sake. We can’t change what happened to us. What we can work with are the adaptations we made in order to survive.

How do those adaptations continue to show up in the present moment?
How are they influencing who we take ourselves to be, how we relate to others, and how we see the world around us?

Working with complex and developmental trauma doesn’t require reliving the past. It invites awareness of the strategies that formed in response—and exploration of whether they are still necessary.

The past informs the work.
But the work happens in the present.

27/03/2026

23/03/2026

Understanding the origins of chronic shame shifts how we work with it.

📘 The new NARM book Healing Shame and Guilt is coming May 12.
Preorders are available now: https://tinyurl.com/28r6byzu

18/03/2026

"When people are in pain, they go looking for permission. They scroll through Reddit, they ask their friends, they search for someone to tell them what they already want to hear. And what they find, almost always, is the same thing that they hear and that is leave… Just leave. As if the relationship were a burning building and the only rational act is to run.

We have built a culture of exits. A culture that is far more comfortable handing you a door than asking you to sit with the question of how you got here. And I understand it. Leaving feels clean and it feels like agency. It looks, from the outside, like self-respect.

But here is what I want you to consider. The person you are leaving the relationship with is still you.

Most of what breaks us apart in love is not the other person. It is the old story we brought with us before we ever met them. The attachment wound we have been carrying since childhood. The pattern we swore we would never repeat. And if you walk away without looking at any of that, you will find yourself, six months later, standing in a new relationship that feels suspiciously familiar.

There is something about the tension of staying. Not staying out of fear, not staying to keep the peace, but choosing to stay in the discomfort long enough to actually get curious. To ask not just what is wrong with them, but what is alive in me that keeps responding this way.

Real intimacy is not built in the easy moments. It is built in the repair and in the willingness to be heard without immediately defending yourself. In the capacity to understand that friction, handled with care, is not the enemy of love. It is often where love actually begins to deepen.

I have sat with couples who had already written each other off in their minds. Who were, emotionally speaking, already gone. And what brought them back was not grand gestures or perfect communication. It was curiosity. A single moment of genuine wondering about the other person, and about themselves.

Therapy is not about saving a relationship at all costs. It is about helping you move from a reactive decision to a conscious one. Because you deserve to know the difference between leaving because you have truly grown apart, and leaving because you are afraid of what staying might ask of you." Dr. Saga Helin

14/03/2026

An teaching excerpt from our February 2026 Inner Circle webinar Perfectionism and Developmental Trauma, featuring teaching and conversation from NARM founder...

13/03/2026

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10/03/2026

“Psychic change and new insight always cause disturbance and create a strong tendency to return to the old equilibrium.” Betty Joseph