Psihoterapie Delia-Gabriela Gheorghita

13/02/2026

"The researchers say their findings suggest that alleviating academic pressure for teenagers could have benefits to mental health, and should be considered by schools and educational policymakers. Potential solutions might involve reducing tests and assessments or supporting the development of social and emotional skills.

They say they hope to develop a whole-school intervention, aiming to change the school environment, culture and values, in a way that could reduce academic pressure and improve mental health and wellbeing."

Pressure to achieve at school at age 15 is linked to depressive symptoms and risk of self-harm, and the association appears to persist into adulthood, finds a study led by UCL researchers.

13/02/2026

There’s a lot of information circulating right now about the nervous system. Much of it can leave people feeling as though they’re at fault for how their bodies respond to certain circumstances, people, or environments.

But many of the patterns we struggle with aren’t signs that something is broken. Actually, they’re signs of a nervous system that learned, early on, how to anticipate what might happen next in order to survive.

These survival patterns were originally adaptive. They helped us navigate environments that didn’t reliably offer safety, support, connection, or met needs.

When those same predictive patterns continue to organize our experience long after the conditions that shaped them have passed, they can distort how we relate to ourselves, to others, and to the present moment.

In NARM, the focus isn’t on pathologizing what was once helpful or on endlessly analyzing the past. The work centers on inquiry and exploration—on noticing how survival patterns show up now, and on supporting a growing capacity to stay present, connected, and regulated in real time.

As our nervous systems begin to gradually learn that the present is different from the past, new choices and a deeper sense of agency become possible.

11/02/2026

08/02/2026

“To recognize the other as a subject means relinquishing omnipotence." Jessica Benjamin

03/02/2026

"Defense mechanism

At its core, fantasy is just the mind’s favorite escape hatch. When life gets heavy, whether it’s a rough childhood or a soul-crushing job, we tend to retreat into our own heads to find the control or affection we’re missing in the real world.
It usually starts when we’re kids. If things are chaotic at home, a child might imagine they’re a hero in a distant land just to feel safe. It’s an interesting survival tactic, but it can become a bit of a trap. If you spend too much time in a perfect headspace, the messy, boring work of actual problem-solving starts to feel like too much effort.
We see this everywhere, from our favorite shows to our own mirrors.
Think of Daenerys Targaryen in Game of Thrones. Her vision of being a just queen helped her survive literal fire and betrayal, but that same fantasy eventually blinded her to the actual politics and people right in front of her. Similarly, Michael Scott from The Office constantly imagines he’s a comedy icon or a world-class mentor because his actual reality as a lonely, mid-level manager is too painful to sit with.
Even in our private lives, it is often easier to daydream about a soulmate who just gets you than it is to have a difficult, awkward conversation with a real partner about why you’re feeling lonely.
The goal isn't to kill your imagination, but to move toward what we call the depressive position. It sounds bleak, but it’s actually a sign of maturity. It’s that moment you stop waiting for a perfect person or a magical solution and accept that life is a mix of good and bad. When you stop retreating into a fantasy where everything is flawless, you start feeling a real drive to fix things in the real world. You trade the perfect dream for a good enough reality. It’s definitely harder, and it involves grieving the fact that life isn't a movie, but it is the only way to actually grow." Dr. Saga Helin

02/02/2026

Există un fel de doliu mai greu de văzut, de trăit și de pus în cuvinte.

Este doliul care derivă tăcut din trauma de dezvoltare și din toate acele lucruri care NU s-au întâmplat și ar fi fost nevoie să se întâmple, din toate lipsurile, golurile și absențele. Este doliul care rezultă din conștientizarea unui sine forțat să-și reducă spontaneitatea, să amâne curiozitatea, să limiteze expresia, să se restrângă.

Este doliul ce conține durerea după acea versiune a sinelui care ar fi putut să se dezvolte dacă mediul ar fi fost suficient de conținător, de sigur, de disponibil.

Să facem întâi loc acestui doliu după “Cine aș fi putut fi”. Pentru ca astfel să facem apoi loc lui “Cine pot fi acum?”.

25/01/2026

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14/01/2026

"Idealization is one of those Jedi mind tricks we all pull off, especially starting way back in our early days. As little kids, we’re at the mercy of our parents for everything such as food, comfort, and a sense of safety. It makes perfect sense that we’d paint them in the best light possible, seeing them as these superheroes who are always kind and strong, even if things get messy or unreliable.

It’s not just naive dreaming but it’s our brain’s way of coping with the scary idea that the people we need most might not be perfect. By idealizing them, we create this cozy bubble where the world feels secure, dodging the tough stuff like neglect or inconsistency that could shake us to our core.

But when those idealized images clash with reality such as when a parent who’s distant, unpredictable, or worse that then mismatch leaves a lingering ache. We might hang onto the fantasy as kids, hoping they’ll step up and match the goodness we’ve imagined, all to avoid facing the hurt or chaos. This pattern doesn’t just fade away but it continues along into grown-up life, shaping how we see ourselves and others. It’s like an old echo, pushing us to project that missing stability onto partners, bosses, or even our own self-image, chasing that flawless figure we craved but never quite got.

On the other hand, if that bubble bursts early, it can flip things around, making us super cautious or even jaded about trusting anyone. We end up in this push-pull, yearning for that reliable, benevolent presence while dealing with the fact that nobody’s infallible not our parents, not anyone. It’s interesting how this stuff ripples out, influencing our future relationships, how we view ourselves, and even bigger things like what we expect from society or family ideals.

Melanie Klein’s depressive position slots right into this idealization puzzle, especially when that childhood bubble of seeing parents as all-good starts to pop. As kids move beyond splitting the world into perfect heroes and villains, they hit this stage where they grapple with the messy reality that the same person lets say, mom or dad can be both loving and flawed, stirring up guilt, sadness, and a drive to make amends for any “damage” they’ve imagined causing.

In terms of idealization, its like the antidote. For example, instead of clinging to that flawless projection to feel safe, we learn to tolerate ambivalence, accepting the disappointments without shattering our sense of security. This shift can heal those old echoes of unmet needs, but if we’re stuck in idealizing mode, it might delay getting there, keeping us chasing unattainable perfection in relationships or ourselves." Dr. Saga Helin

09/01/2026

S-ar putea crede că deconectarea este disfuncțională. Pe măsură ce lucrăm cu trauma de dezvoltare însă, începem să vedem că ea este, în fapt, o adaptare cu sens. Deconectarea este un mecanism necesar de supraviețuire și este o formă de funcționare care face parte și este necesară uneori în viața noastră de zi cu zi. Putem accepta, onora acest mecanism și, deschide spațiul pentru mai multă conectare, în același timp..

Aceasta este și esența mesajului întâlnit din nou și din nou în terapia traumei. Deconectarea spune povestea persoanei care a făcut tot ce a putut pentru a supraviețui într-un context nefavorabil.