20/06/2021
🧘🏼♀️🤍 https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=GRjjCH8PuT0&feature=youtu.be
Pentru cei care n-au reusit sa vada documentarul lui Gabor Maté: “The wisdom of Trauma” las linkul mai jos, cred ca filmul inca mai este disponibil azi pentru a fi vizualizat free. E de neratat, societatea noastra are mare nevoie.
https://wisdomoftrauma.com/hub/
❤️🩹our job as human beings is to learn from our suffering
❤️🩹because of trauma, we have lost sight with the beauty of our existence
❤️🩹the common template for mental illness, physical disease is in fact trauma
❤️🩹wisdom of trauma: when we realize that our traumatic responses are not ourselves and that we can work them through and thus become ourselves
❤️🩹depression is rising, su***de is rising, anxiety is rising. It’s an epidemic
❤️🩹trauma is an overwhelming threat that you do not know how to deal with. Trauma is not the bad things that happened to you but is what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you. Trauma means a disconnection from yourself. Why do we get disconnected? because is too painful to be ourselves. It becomes a lifelong dynamic. I know longer know how to deal with emotions, it means that in relationships when I feel a bit hurt, I immediately withdraw so I don’t have to feel those emotions that I don’t know what to do with. It also means that when I have a gut feelings, I do not follow them. So I create situations of risk for myself. Trauma also affects how our brain develop. How we react and respond and regulate ourselves, how we handle stress, how we interact with other people, how much empathy and insight we have, how much compassion we have. The brain develops in interaction with the environment. So the brains of traumatized children don’t look like the brains of non-traumatized children. When we talk about trauma we usually think at something terrible happening to a person. But that’s not the only trauma there is. For trauma to happen, you don’t need second world war. You just need parents who are so alienated from their own gut feelings that they will let their infants cry without picking them up and that child is desperate for a relationship. That’s all it takes.
❤️🩹Trauma is during the first 18 years of life :
- if a parent or other adult in the household often or very often would swear at you, insult you, put you down or humiliate you
- if a parent or other adult in the household often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or threw something at you
- if a parent or other adult in the household often or very often ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured
- if you often felt that no one in your family loved you
❤️🩹 Symptoms of trauma: nightmares and night terrors, inability to love, addictive behavior, insomnia, depression, shame.
That’s not who you are. We heal in community. We have to start seeing each other for what happened to us and not what’s wrong with us.
❤️🩹A baby you don’t pick up actually die. Even if you feed them, change them and look after them, because they get overwhelmed by their feelings, they get overstressed. So the baby needs the mother’s and the father’s brain to regulate their brains, their emotions. When he’s not being held, he’s not getting attached to them. When that’s done night after night, that’s traumatic. If you look at genuine human needs, there is nothing more normal than a child sleeping in the arms of a parent.
❤️🩹As a child we have two fundamental needs: attachment and authenticity. What happens if you have to suppress your authenticity? Normal society does not allow anger and the child who’s angry must be separated. In other words we have to threaten his attachment to relationships on which his life depends, so that he can suppress his emotions. That child, if he learns his lesson well, will disconnect from the anger and then he’s sitting duck for depression, mental illness or physical illness. We don’t want people who don’t have anger, we want people who know that anger does not have to be destructive.
❤️🩹In an autoimmune disease, the immune system attacks the host organism. So a system that was designed by nature to protect you now turns agains you. cell division, which is meant to be coordination with the needs of the entire organism, gets out of hand and now you’ve got cancer. Our approach to treating cancer is: we cut it out, we poison it or we burn it. Most chronic illness is a way of the body saying no when the person suppress their no’s in order to fit in. When the illness comes along, we can just look upon it as a nuisance to get rid of and an enemy to fight, or we can say « ok, it’s here now. What’s the teaching? ». We accept the treatment but we can also ask ourselves what does it mean about my life and my relationships and particularly about how I treat myself?
Why this disease, why in this person and why now? In my view people that develop cancer:
- tend to be nice people who are more concerned with the emotional needs of others than their own.
- they have a hard time expressing healthy anger
- they have this belief that they must not disappoint anybody.
❤️🩹How do you feel when you perceive that somebody is not seeing you, is not listening to you? This little boy that just want to be loved and accepted unconditionally and he wasn’t. He’s had to figure out how to be accepted and loved by others and even my internal judge. As long as you don’t allow the fear to be there, you’re going to be always working to get rid of it. And then you are going to keep working to make yourself acceptable, and all nice and dutiful. Or you can say: ok the fear is there. I’ll let it be there. There is enough space here for it to be a part of me.
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