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11/07/2025

The fear of not being good enough

🌱 1. What is this fear?

The fear of not being good enough — often rooted in childhood experiences, perfectionism, or negative core beliefs — is a persistent inner voice that says:

“I’m inadequate. I don’t measure up. Others are better. I must do more to be worthy.”

It can be conscious (“I’m afraid to fail”) or subconscious (“I sabotage myself without realizing why”).

🔍 2. How does it show up?

This fear can manifest as:

* Procrastination — putting things off because you fear they won’t be perfect.

* Perfectionism — setting impossible standards to prove your worth.

* Imposter Syndrome — feeling like a fraud despite success.

* People-pleasing — overgiving to earn approval.

* Self-sabotage — quitting when you’re close to success.

* Overworking — never feeling “done” or satisfied.

* Avoidance — not trying at all, because failure feels safer than trying and “proving” you’re not enough.

❤️ 3. Emotional impact

Living with this fear can drain your sense of joy and peace:

* Chronic anxiety or low-level dread

* Guilt and shame

* Envy of others who seem “better”

* Emotional numbness or burnout

🧠 4. Psychological & physical impact

This fear can keep the nervous system in a constant fight-flight-freeze state:

* Stress hormones like cortisol stay elevated

* Sleep disturbances

* Chronic tension in the body

* Vulnerability to depression, anxiety disorders, or burnout

🚧 5. Impact on life and relationships

It can limit:

* Career growth — not going for promotions, underpricing your work.

* Relationships — settling for less, tolerating disrespect, fearing rejection.

* Self-expression — holding back your gifts, creativity, or opinions.

* Joy and satisfaction — because your inner critic says you “should” be doing more.

✨ 6. The flip side: Healing and growth

Recognizing this fear is the first step to healing it:

✅ Self-awareness: Identify the stories you tell yourself.

✅ Inner work: Therapy, coaching, or self-reflection can help rewrite old beliefs.

✅ Self-compassion: Practice talking to yourself like you’d talk to someone you love.

✅ Celebrate progress: Progress, not perfection, builds real confidence.

✅ Take small risks: Each time you act despite the fear, you weaken its grip.

🌿 Key takeaway

The fear of not being good enough keeps you small — but it’s not the truth of who you are.

Underneath it is your true self: whole, worthy, and capable — exactly as you are.

10/07/2025

✨ Who am I?

Hi, I am a UK-trained Consultant Forensic Psychiatrist — but that’s just the start of my story.

For over 16 years, I’ve walked alongside people in medicine, with more than 13 years in psychiatry, holding space for them through some of life’s toughest moments.

I trained in medical school in Romania, moved to the UK and worked in different medical and surgical specialties before specialising in mental health. I later trained in Forensic Psychiatry, a field I worked in for 6 years — and along the way, I was honoured with the John Hamilton Fellowship and added to the Roll of Honour of the Royal College of Psychiatrists.

These are all milestones that mean a lot to me, but they don’t define everything I do.

💫 My True Calling

While working in psychiatry, I was deeply drawn to how the mind, body, and soul are connected. I’ve always believed that real healing goes far beyond diagnosis and symptoms — it’s about gently exploring what lies beneath, honouring our stories, and giving ourselves permission to heal as whole human beings.

This passion led me to train in a wide range of therapies and approaches, including CBT, psychodynamic therapy, MBT, EMDR, Brainspotting, RTT, hypnosis, BWRT, and more.

I’m also a certified life coach and a trainer, and I completed an in-depth course in Integrative Psychiatry at the Institute of Integrative Psychiatry, Arizona.

Currently, I’m finalising my training in Integrative Psychotherapy with European and UK recognition.

🌱 Why I’m Here

On this page, I want to share my knowledge — not only as a doctor and therapist, but as someone who has walked and is walking their own healing journey.

Here, you’ll find courses, insights, and gentle reminders that true transformation happens when we reconnect mind, body, and soul — because when these parts align, we come home to ourselves.

💛 My Mission

Whether you’re looking for practical tools, emotional support, or just a safe space to breathe, I hope you’ll find it here. This is your invitation to slow down, look within, and rediscover your inner compass — the part of you that knows your truth.

10/06/2025