The Dialogue of Self Liberation

25/07/2022

Dear Friends,

Just a quick update to let you know we've been busy behind the scenes at TDSL for sometime now, writing a book about The Dialogue of Self Liberation.

We would like to thank you all for your continued love, support and patience, and we look forward to sharing more information about this soon.

In the meantime, here are a couple of links to the recent episode of the "How to Not Get Sick and Die" podcast with Matty Lansdown, interviewing TDSL co-founder Cheyne Towers.

Link to Apple Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/au/podcast/how-to-not-get-sick-and-die/id1450212088

Link to Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2FTMqWqzD89wyFMHUudbX9

Podcast · Matty Lansdown · Most diets fail, not because you’re lazy, but because the real reasons for weight gain and poor health are being hidden from you. I’m Matty Lansdown - scientist, nutritionist, and emotional eating specialist, here to help you lose weight naturally, stop emotional eat...

11/03/2022

What do we say to ourselves? Do we have an internal dialogue that we'd never utter to others? How do we transform our internal dialogue? "How can we let go of something when we may not be aware of it," Cheyne Towers, MBAThH On this week's PTSD and Beyond ...

11/03/2022

I recently had the pleasure of speaking on the PTSD and Beyond podcast, hosted by Dr. Deb Lindh.

This was a wonderful interview and conversation about The Dialogue of Self-Liberation, and how this can be of great benefit in helping people who have experience of trauma.

Please take time to listen and to share!

We have an upcoming TDSL Live Program event, starting on Monday 2nd May 2022 at 6pm UTCBST, book your place!

https://learntdsl.com/join-live-program/

https://ptsdandbeyond.podbean.com/e/cheyne-towers-1/

What do we say to ourselves? Do we have an internal dialogue that we'd never utter to others? How do we transform our internal dialogue? "How can we let go of something when we may not be aware of it," Cheyne Towers, MBAThH On this week's PTSD and Beyond ...

02/11/2021

Change can be challenging if we have carried within us feelings of guilt, shame or regret; or if we first have to admit and acknowledge that maybe we have unintentionally

- limited
- hurt
- abused
- lied to
- let down
- ignored or
- failed ourselves or others.

In order to free ourselves from the weight of those things, we must first forgive ourselves.

Forgiveness is the active process of acknowledging what we have done, learning from those experiences, and then leaving them and any associated feelings in the past.

This allows us the possibility to make a committed movement away from those old non-useful patterns of thinking, feeling, acting and being.

In this very specific way The Dialogue of Self Liberation itself is a practical process of Self-Forgiveness which allows us to draw a distinction between what we have felt and our opportunity to feel something different, from now...

What are you ready to begin forgiving yourself for today?

With Love and Gratitude,

Cheyne

23/10/2021

The words we choose to use determine what we feel and how we experience it.


Often common phrases can have implications which may not be immediately obvious to us and yet have an impact.

The following are some examples:

- "This" and "these" implies something is close and immediate to us.



- "That" and "those" implies something is distant from us.



- "Yet" allows for the possibility for something to occur in the future. Eg “I can’t naturally apply The Dialogue of Self Liberation YET”.

- "I Am", states that something is true of us now, it is an identity statement.


- "My, states that something belongs to us, as if we own it, like Gollum with the ring.


- "Always", implies that something will always be true and can be no other way.

- Never, implies that something is impossible, that it can not and will not occur at any time.


- Can’t, means we are not able and without further qualification suggests we never will be.


- I Won’t ever, implies that we have already given up.

- I Don’t ever, implies there is something which we actively do not engage in and never will.

Sometimes other people can pass limitations to us with such statements and questions as:
- “You never...”,
- “You always...”,
- “You don’t...” or
- “Why don’t you ever...”,
- “Why do you always...”.

Other times we may ask non-useful questions of ourselves which presuppose answers, such as:

- “What is wrong with me?” implying, ‘There’s something wrong with me’

- “Why do I always...?”, implying, ‘I always do something and there is a reason for it’

- “Why does this always happen to me?” implying, ‘This always happens to me and there is a reason for it’.

Understanding the hidden implications of our communications, and then actively applying the The Dialogue of Self Liberation allows us to ‘Reclaim Control of the Helm of Our Ship’, thereby reclaiming control of:

- Our Thinking
- Our Feelings
- Our Actions
- Our Reactions
- And most importantly...

THE PRESENT MOMENT

What common phrases have you noticed in your self talk with hidden implications?

With Love and Gratitude,

Cheyne

19/10/2021

Regular, meaningful and committed application of The Dialogue of Self Liberation enables us to gradually develop it as a positive neural trait.

In doing so, we also weaken and extinguish the neuronal pathways of those old non-useful habitual patterns which we identified as ‘the things worth letting go of’, based on the principle of “If you don’t use it, you LOSE it”.

As we become progressively more skillful in applying The Dialogue of Self Liberation, self-defeating patterns of communication are filtered-out in the same way sunglasses block out unwelcome UV rays.

When we revisit those old limiting patterns, we begin to find that they no longer make any sense to us, and we notice how far we have travelled in a relatively short space of time.

It’s as if we’ve taken off a pair of painfully tight restrictive shoes and now we are able to wiggle our toes, and it feels great!

We can then see that we are beginning to react and behave differently, as the quality of our communications toward ourselves and others improves.

We are not the same person we once were, as we progressively distance ourselves from that ‘old self’.

Take a moment to reflect and look back now. How far have you travelled from any old limiting patterns?

With Love and Gratitude,

Cheyne

08/10/2021

For me the word which resonates the most right now is "gentle".

I've been unwell recently, a bit battered and bruised, and this word reminds me of how I need to treat myself, the same way those who care about me have been treating me.

It's also the last word that my mentor, Vernon, spoke to me before he died, as he reminded me to be patient with myself and my clients.

What one word resonates with you right now?

It could be an aspirational word, or maybe it's something your observing in your life, or perhaps simply a word that corresponds to a memory or important feeling.

It doesn't matter why it resonates, it is enough that it does.

I look forward to hearing from you.

With Love and Gratitude,

Cheyne

11/09/2021

I had the absolute pleasure to discuss The Dialogue of Self Liberation with the wonderful Dr Laura Jaget for the How to Life Podcast.

It was a thoroughly enjoyable conversation and Dr Laura asked fantastic questions.

I'm delighted to share this with you all via the links below.

https://howtolife.podlink.to/NewEpisode
https://howtolife.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-own-way/

11/09/2021

We ourselves stories - about life. Stories that form patterns in our lives or that we've heard about ourselves growing up. Are they truth?

08/09/2021

If you could go back in time and give your younger self one piece of advice, what would it be?

I'm not sure I could keep it to one piece of advice, 😆

But for me the most important one would undoubtedly be "You are alive NOW! Let the past be the past"

How about you? What one piece of advice would you give to your younger self?

Share with me below, I'm excited to know. 🙏 🦋

With Love and Gratitude,

Cheyne

06/09/2021

When we learn to walk as a child our focus, emotions and desire send powerful signals to our minds, stimulating neuroplasticity and allowing us to develop coordination and balance.

With practice we gradually begin to succeed, and this ability becomes a natural unconscious part of us.

In the same way we can apply the principles of neuroplasticity to assist us in our development of The Dialogue of Self Liberation.

Having made the committed decision to consistently apply TDSL we take advantage of conscious practice and repetition in accordance with the
principle of “Train it and Gain it”.

We can then playfully add to this the creative power of our positive emotions and gamify the process by
celebrating each time we succeed in identifying and “TDSL’ing” a non-useful habitual pattern.

This communicates a clear message directly to our non-
conscious “PAY ATTENTION, THIS IS IMPORTANT!”

In fact a 2017 study “The Influences of Emotion on Learning and Memory” even states that positive emotions such as enthusiastic exploration, hopefulness, and creativity, initiate learning in the brain.

With Love and Gratitude,

Cheyne