26/11/2025
Not people pleasing means you will be excluded.
This is a hard fact. It hurts. It is challenging and sad and lonely.
And, I believe it is worth it. You will be in right relation with yourself.
Then those who value you for who they want you to be will fall away.
There will be a feeling of grief for what has been lost and the potential for what could’ve been.
And, those that value you for who you truly are will move towards you.
Not fawning, not people pleasing requires us to expand our nervous systems capacity.
You will need to increase your capacity for the discomfort that comes with being excluded by those who valued you for your compliance.
But you will also find new comfort in aligning with those who see you for who you truly are.
Your fascia will actually soften, as you no longer have to brace and hide who you truly are under layers of falsehood.
You will find more ease in your body as you come more into alignment with yourself.