03/06/2025
A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about what kind of person I would have attracted as a 20-year-old, and that I was happy I let my exes go.
Many felt resonance, but some also commented that ๐ข๐ญโ๐ฌ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐๐ฅ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ฌ๐ ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐ ๐, ๐๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ ๐ซ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐จ๐ ๐๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ and stay in the relationship.
And I definitely agree with that being a possibility. I see examples of when it has worked and and I also see people who held on longer than they wished to, not accepting the reality that it wouldnโt work out.
Personally, I have to be brutally honest and admit: I just had to do the journey my way, with different partners at times and by myself other times.
I wouldnโt have managed to change together with the same other being the last 20 years.
From the time I graduated university at 25, I have been a lindy hop dance nerd, I have gotten obsessed with burning man events, I lived in Mozambique and found an African family, I have let go of all norms in terms of relationships norms and dug into spiritual work in a very personal way.
To say yes to all of these impulses, sometimes being single was the only way to dare to let go and follow my dreams.
During these years, I dreamt of a partner to grow with, but I wasnโt ready.
Today, I think that Iโm mature enough to grow within my relationship, and I have chosen a partner who can meet me in this intention. At the same time, Iโm not going to try and hold on to a form of relationship that doesnโt work for us, but allow it to change form.
I believe in โunbreakableโ relationships, which means trusting that love stays no matter how close or how far we are from each other. This includes having the capacity to let someone go when the time is right, but still keep them in our hearts.
What kind are you?
Do you hold on too long?
Have you managed to have growing relationships over many years? Or are you still doing your own journey, waiting to get ready to commit?
