29/07/2024
Self reflection after coaching hundreds of women and training coaches from scratch over the last 15 years.
If you are a coach or teacher and your work involves working with people and leading them towards a better state (be it health, finance, spirituality, relationships etc) you must have a self care routine to help yourself restore energy, passion and commitment.
If not, you’ll burn out 🪫 and give up very soon.
Oh of course it won’t matter if you don’t care, but I assume you do. Every coach I came across chose to be one because they want to serve and help others.
So I know you care.
However, if you want to help people, then you have to work with humans.
And it’s inevitable to come across negativity. This is a natural part of life and human interaction, we can’t avoid it.
In fact, we ourselves might have at some point earlier in life given our coaches a hard time before. 😂
In our work at Slim Sassy Strong, my team and I give our heart and soul for every client we work with.
Thankfully, most of them are appreciative, they do the work (of course when they do the work they get results) and they generously give us their testimonials.
The clients who follow our lead, eventually transform darkness to light, and they in turn became a light 💡 for others.
However at the beginning part of every journey, before the body and mind transform, there might be some resistance.
Part of being an effective coach is to be able to turn negativity to positivity and transform resistance into results.
Coaches are humans too, when we face too much negativity for too long, our energy gets drained and we feel demotivated.
Fortunately, there is a solution for this. I call this Soul Work and Soul Care.
Soul Work:
This is where you work on yourself to expand YOU.
You improve your physical state, increase your stamina and energetic tolerance to make your container bigger.
Think of a small boat ⛴️ rocking against strong winds and currents, versus a sturdy tanker that sails unfazed through storms.
You want to be the sturdy tanker. Not the small frail boat.
Expanding your container spans from physical to emotional, mental and spiritual.
In terms of physical body & health, what are you eating, doing, or not doing to make sure you operate at your best everyday?
In terms of emotional & mental, are you actively working on healing past trauma? Everyone has trauma, just a question of more or less.
You can’t fully become free of your past trauma BUT you can be bigger than it, and you can convert your trauma into wisdom and depth that can impact your students.
In terms of spiritual expansion, how often do you revisit your purpose and goals?
How often do you reflect on your actions to see if they are aligned with your purpose and goals?
Do you have a daily self study, 📖 journalling and meditation practice?
Do you have a system for learning and growth?
How do you make sure you develop more understanding of yourself, knowledge in your work, emotional health and mental resilience every day?
Aim for 1% expansion every day, you’ll achieve massive growth in 1 year with just 1% everyday.
Soul Care:
This is where we tap on something greater than us to help us.
Whatever your faith or religion might be, or maybe you just believe in divine universal power, you’ll need to rely on a source greater than you.
We are all here on this earth to serve and make life better for others. It’s not permanent.
It’s important to set up a regular prayer & meditation routine so that you can connect to Source.
Especially when you feel drained and tired, look to your source and ask for help (God, Holy Spirit, Divine Source or whichever faith you believe choose to believe in).
Plug in and charge your spiritual battery as often as you can.
You are a messenger and vehicle to facilitate change, do your utmost best to serve.
And then, detach from the outcome. This is necessary, so that you protect your energetic boundaries and be able to serve the next student.
Like the famous saying go: Do your best. Leave the rest to God.
If this resonates with you, do share what are some of your soul work or soul care routines. ☺️