
25/09/2025
This topic is relevant to a pleasantly, surprising number of my female clients in midlife. Often they are curious or worried that they’re being judged, but for the most part, they’re experiencing the most satisfying relationships of their lives.
Here’s why this can work so well if you’re a woman in midlife.
By this point you usually know your body, your boundaries and what you actually want from intimacy. You’ve stopped performing and started asking for what feels good. Younger partners are often more open to communication and happier to explore without ego. When you take away the pressure to prove anything, there’s less performance and more presence. That’s where we find strong partnerships and satisfying s*x lives.
It’s about choosing happiness on your own terms. Men having been dating and marrying women half their age for centuries and now we are starting to see women do the same.
Will it suit everyone? No. It only works when there’s mutual respect, emotional maturity and aligned expectations. You are not there to parent or teach your partner and he’s not there to validate you. If it’s playful, honest and good for both of you, that’s the goal. If you feel yourself shrinking, second-guessing, or carrying the emotional load, that’s a sign to step back.
Check in with yourself:
– Do our values and intentions match, or is one of us hoping the other one will change?
– Do I feel seen and genuinely desired, not just flattered?
– Am I saying yes because it expands my life, not because I’m seeking external validation?
You’re allowed to be curious. You’re allowed to enjoy your body. You’re allowed to redefine what love and s*x look like.