28/08/2025
Sharing 3 personal insights, not just as a therapist but also as an observer, as a spiritual seeker and as a fellow human in this experience called, life.
1. Catastrophes come in pairs, and I have noticed that they come within 12-18 months of each other. Anyone felt this to be true? Like you will have 2 losses/ 2 setbacks/ 2 accidents etc within that period.
2. Okay, so this observation has a bit of professional advantage. Here it is:
When facing a challenge, we often say, why me? And that’s because we don’t know about the challenges others face. Most people don’t talk about their pain, shame, guilt or failures out aloud. If you knew these untold stories, you would realise that whatever your pain, someone’s pain is bigger than yours. Similarly, mist people don’t share about personal successes. So, here’s my insight-whatever your gain or achievement, someone’s achievement/ success is, and will be bigger than yours. This realisation is both humbling & uncomfortable but once the acceptance comes in, there’s a sense of balance and a sense of relief. You are not comparing- nor are you competing. There’s no pressure to prove to anyone and no urge to complain or whine.
3. You have the resources you need. Seek help, seek advice, get educated and look for answers- however, never put the final decision of your life’s choices in anyone else’s power. The only person who knows what’s the best for you is you. Make an informed choice but let the choice be yours.
Being able to have a voice and a choice is the most empowering thing of all. This is what makes the biggest difference in wellbeing.
[reflections, life, insights, ask your therapist, pain, loss, choice, power, wellbeing]