The Good Life Counselling

The Good Life Counselling We are a multifaceted counselling, podcasting and events platform devoted to enhancing mental health. I welcome you into this therapeutic space with me.

As a Trauma Recovery Therapist, I am passionate on helping individuals navigate through the complexities of adversity and trauma, with a unique focus on nervous system regulation. My approach to therapy is rooted in a deep understanding of the mind-body connection, underpinned by years of rigorous study and training in the field. My mission is to create a safe and nurturing space where individuals

can explore their experiences, express their feelings, and begin the journey towards healing. Empathy, compassion, and understanding are at the heart of my practice, ensuring the importance of being heard, seen, and validated.

This healing won’t be loud. It won’t always be roses and butterflies. But it will be yours. A homecoming. A soft return ...
25/03/2026

This healing won’t be loud. It won’t always be roses and butterflies. But it will be yours. A homecoming. A soft return to the parts of you that were never broken - only hidden.

Drop ❤️❤️❤️ if this post spoke to something tender in you.

My brand-new Inner Child Healing Journal is here. A guided companion to help you uncover your wounded parts, reparent your inner child, and write a new story for yourself.
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Hi, I’m Nur, a Trauma Recovery Therapist & Relationship Coach based in Singapore. I help you rebuild from the inside out, so you can reconnect with your worth and finally feel at home in yourself again.

✨ Not sure if therapy is right for you? Or just need someone who truly gets it? Let’s talk. Comment “BOOK” below to secure a free consultation today.

Currently accepting clients in Singapore 🇸🇬 and worldwide 🌍.

📌 Follow for therapeutic tips and mental health insights. A gentle reminder that social media is a helpful resource, but it’s not a substitute for therapy.

Drop ❤️❤️❤️ if this post spoke to something tender in you.Hi, I’m Nur - a Trauma Recovery Therapist & Relationship Coach...
19/03/2026

Drop ❤️❤️❤️ if this post spoke to something tender in you.

Hi, I’m Nur - a Trauma Recovery Therapist & Relationship Coach based in Singapore. I help you rebuild from the inside out, so you can reconnect with your worth and finally feel at home in yourself again.

✨ Not sure if therapy is right for you? Or just need someone who truly gets it? Let’s talk. Comment “BOOK” below to secure your FREE Discovery Call today.

Currently accepting clients in Singapore 🇸🇬 and worldwide 🌍.

📌 Follow for therapeutic tips and mental health insights. A gentle reminder that social media is a helpful resource, but it’s not a substitute for therapy.

Drop “YES” if this post spoke to something tender in you. Some forms of abuse don’t leave visible scars.They happen quie...
16/03/2026

Drop “YES” if this post spoke to something tender in you.

Some forms of abuse don’t leave visible scars.

They happen quietly, behind closed doors - in conversations that slowly make you question your own reality. It’s the moment when your words are twisted until you’re the one apologizing. When your feelings are dismissed as “too sensitive.” When your memory of what happened is denied so confidently that you start wondering if you imagined it.

From the outside, everything may look normal.

They may appear charming, composed, even kind to others. People around them may only know the version of them that smiles, jokes, and knows exactly how to present themselves in public.

But behind closed doors, the experience can feel completely different.

Conversations leave you confused instead of understood. You start explaining yourself more and more, yet somehow nothing ever lands.
And over time, you begin questioning your own judgment, your own feelings, even your own sense of truth.

This is one of the most painful parts of psychological and emotional abuse.

Not only are you being hurt - you are slowly being made to doubt that the hurt is even real.

There may be no bruises for others to see.
But inside, the exhaustion runs deep.

You may start to feel like you’re losing yourself a little more each time you try to explain what happened, only to be dismissed again.

If you’ve ever experienced this, please know this:

The confusion you feel is not a sign that you are weak. It is often the result of being repeatedly invalidated in a space where your reality was never allowed to exist.

And that kind of pain deserves to be acknowledged.

If this resonates with you, you’re not alone in this experience. Sometimes the first step toward healing is simply being in a space where your story is heard - without it being questioned, minimized, or turned against you.

✨ [FREE CONSULTATION] Not sure if therapy is right for you? Or just need someone who truly gets it? Let’s talk. Comment “BOOK” below and I’ll send you the link to get started!

14/03/2026

Comment “YES” if this message speaks to you✨ So many of us were taught to see our survival strategies as personal flaws.

You blame yourself for
being “too sensitive.”
for overthinking.
for needing reassurance.
for struggling to trust people.
for shutting down when things feel overwhelming.

But what if these were never signs of weakness? What if they were adaptations : ways your nervous system learned to protect you in environments where safety, validation, or emotional attunement were inconsistent?

When you understand trauma through the lens of the nervous system, something shifts.

You stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?”
and begin asking, “What happened that shaped the way I respond to the world?”

That shift alone can be incredibly liberating.

Grateful to have had the opportunity to share these reflections today with the beautiful community at & ❤️

Thank you for creating safe spaces where women can gather, reflect, and have deeper conversations about healing and self-understanding. Conversations like these remind me why this work matters so much ❤️

06/03/2026

STORY TIME.

Yesterday I stood in front of a room of practitioners and presented my work on freeze and dissociative collapse, particularly how MEMI (Multi-channel Eye Movement Integration) can help process trauma memories.

But the truth is… this work didn’t start in a conference room. It started many years ago when I was searching for answers for my own pain. Like many people on a healing journey, I was told that the way forward was to talk about it. That if you spoke about the past enough, eventually the pain would fade.

But what I didn’t understand back then was this:

When trauma memories are still active in the nervous system, talking about them can sometimes destabilise the system rather than regulate it.

That realization sent me down a long path of learning. Over the years, I searched high and low to deepen my understanding of trauma recovery. Sitting in therapy rooms, witnessing people who were intelligent, capable, and insightful, yet whose bodies would suddenly go offline when certain memories were approached.

Their eyes would drift away.
Their voice would soften.
Their body would go still.

What I came to understand is that this wasn’t weakness. It was survival - a nervous system doing its best to endure the unbearable..the unthinkable.

Discovering approaches like MEMI changed the way I understood trauma healing. Because trauma memories are not always just stories we remember…most times they are survival experiences the body is still carrying.

So standing there yesterday, sharing this work at the conference… felt truly and deeply meaningful.

Not just as a therapist.
But as someone who once went looking for answers too.

Because behind every theory, every method, every conference presentation… are real human stories of people trying to find their way back to themselves. And if you’re someone walking that path right now, I want you to know this:

You’re not broken beyond repair. Your nervous system simply learned how to survive. And you certainly don’t have to keep living with the painful trauma memories. There is a way through this❤️

Over the years, I’ve sat with many clients who desperately wanted to move forward from painful experiences.They’ve refle...
04/03/2026

Over the years, I’ve sat with many clients who desperately wanted to move forward from painful experiences.

They’ve reflected on it.
They’ve tried to understand it.
They’ve talked about it over and over again.

And yet, the pain still lives very vividly in the body - because trauma memories don’t behave like ordinary memories.

They aren’t simply stories that happened in the past. Often, they are stored together with the emotions, sensations, and survival responses that occurred during the original event. So when something in the present moment activates that memory, the nervous system can react as though the danger is happening again, even when the person consciously knows they are safe.

This is why many people find it frustrating when they are told to “just talk about it” or “let it go.” It’s not a lack of insight or effort. It’s the way trauma is encoded in the mind and body.

Discovering MEMI has been incredibly transformative in my clinical work. It offers a structured way to help clients safely process and neutralize trauma memories that once felt overwhelming to approach.

Watching someone finally experience relief from memories that have haunted them for years is one of the most meaningful parts of this work ❤️

Grateful for the opportunity to share and contribute to the ongoing conversation about trauma healing. To those who registered, I look forward to seeing you tomorrow!

06/11/2025

🚨Perimenopause and menopause are not just hormonal changes. They are identity shifts.
Nervous system shifts. A season of re-meeting yourself after a lifetime of carrying, holding, giving, and enduring.

There’s the fatigue sleep can’t quite reach. The brain fog that interrupts your sentences and makes you question your sharpness. The emotional waves that rise without warning.
The nights your body doesn’t feel like your own. The days you look in the mirror and quietly whisper, “Where did I go?”

This is the part we don’t talk about enough - not because it’s small, but because we were never really prepared for the immense overwhelm it brings the mind-body-soul.

And it can feel lonely.
So deeply, silently lonely.

But if you’re going through this, I want you to know that you are not failing. You are not broken. Your body is not betraying you. She is recalibrating. Choosing slowness over speed,
truth over performance, wisdom over pushing through.

And you don’t have to move through this chapter alone.

We come back to ourselves through community - through being witnessed, understood, and held. Your body has been through so much, carried the toughest of storms. It’s time to gift the love and care she deserves ❤️

Deep gratitude to Dr. Kiran for leading us with such clarity and compassion - and to for bringing this community together with so much heart.
This is how healing happens.
In connection.
In knowledge.
In togetherness.

30/10/2025

Hard Truths, Here We Go…

1️⃣ Just because you miss them doesn’t mean they belong back in your life. It means you’re human. You attached. You cared deeply. Missing someone is part of grieving what could have been, not proof that you should return to what wasn’t safe. Longing and compatibility aren’t the same thing.

2️⃣ If someone kept making you feel like an option, unsure of where you stand, small, or insignificant - that’s not love. It’s breadcrumbs - just enough warmth to keep your hope alive, but never enough consistency to help you feel secure. And you don’t deserve to be treated that way, dear one.

3️⃣ The pain you feel after heartbreak isn’t just about them - it’s a mirror to your unhealed wounds. If you grew up never feeling fully seen, loved, or accepted, the breakup reactivates that same ache. Heartbreak doesn’t just break your heart - it exposes the parts of you that have been aching for love long before they arrived. Those wounds need your attention and healing. Otherwise, they will keep coming back to affect you in every way.

4️⃣ You don’t need their apology to begin healing. Yes, it feels validating when they take accountability, but healing doesn’t wait for their remorse. The closure you’re waiting for begins with self-forgiveness - for staying too long, loving too hard, or losing yourself trying to be enough.

5️⃣ Only you can walk this path of healing.
Others can hold space, be there for you, cheer you on, but they can’t do the internal permission giving for deep inner repair to happen. It begins with starting to show up for yourself, even if it’s messy, even if it’s imperfect. Baby steps.

6️⃣ When you can’t stop replaying the relationship, it’s not weakness - it’s your nervous system seeking safety. Your mind is trying to make sense of what once felt unpredictable, and your body is still bracing for the next emotional hit. Until you teach your body what calm and true safety feels like, you’ll keep confusing peace for boredom, and chaos for love.

✨Which ones resonate with you most? Comment below ⬇️ ✨ Book your FREE Discovery Call via the link in my bio.

You can miss someone, feel guilty about walking away…but still know you deserve better. It’s not a contradiction - it’s ...
23/03/2025

You can miss someone, feel guilty about walking away…but still know you deserve better.

It’s not a contradiction - it’s the complexity of your heart.

You can hold space for the love and memories you shared, while also acknowledging that what you need, what you deserve, is something more.

Walking away doesn’t mean you didn’t care; it means you chose yourself, your peace, and your future.

Love is not self-sacrifice.

True, authentic love uplifts, nourishes, and respects you - without forcing you to lose yourself in the process.

It’s okay to feel the sadness and guilt, but don’t let it overshadow the truth that you are worthy of love, respect, and a healthy, fulfilling connection, dear one.

I hope this post speaks directly to that part of you that is yearning for a sign that things will be okay - that you’ll truly be okay without them.

I know the pain of feeling like something is missing, the uncertainty of what comes next. But deep down, you have everything you need to heal, to rebuild, and to find peace within yourself. You are not defined by the people who leave your life, but by the strength and love you have within.

Even when it doesn’t feel like it now, in time, you will discover that your wholeness was never dependent on anyone else. You will be okay. You will be okay❤️

You are allowed to take the space you need to move through this. Sending you much love ❤️

Drop 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 if this post spoke to you. Tag a loved one who needs to hear this message today.

📌 I’m Nur, a Trauma Recovery Therapist & Relationship Coach based in Singapore, supporting individuals as they heal from heartbreak, abandonment, and rejection ❤️‍🩹.

📌 Unsure if therapy is the right fit or struggling to find a therapist who truly understands you? Let’s chat! ✨ Book a FREE Discovery Call using the link in my bio.

📌 Now accepting clients both in Singapore 🇸🇬 and globally 🌎.

📌 Follow for therapeutic tips and mental health insights. A gentle reminder that social media is a helpful resource, but it’s not a substitute for therapy.

If the world feels like it’s been pressing down on you, if every step feels heavier than the last, and you’re struggling...
16/03/2025

If the world feels like it’s been pressing down on you, if every step feels heavier than the last, and you’re struggling to find a way out of the darkness - this post is for you, dear one ❤️

Drop 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 if this post spoke to you.

📌 I’m Nur, a Trauma Recovery Therapist & Relationship Coach based in Singapore, supporting individuals as they heal from heartbreak, abandonment, and rejection ❤️‍🩹.

📌 Unsure if therapy is the right fit or struggling to find a therapist who truly understands you? Let’s chat! ✨ Book a FREE Discovery Call using the link in my bio.

📌 Now accepting clients both in Singapore 🇸🇬 and globally 🌎.

📌 Follow for therapeutic tips and mental health insights. A gentle reminder that social media is a helpful resource, but it’s not a substitute for therapy.

Drop 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 if this post spoke to you.📌 I’m Nur, a Trauma Recovery Therapist & Relationship Coach based in Singapore, su...
15/03/2025

Drop 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 if this post spoke to you.

📌 I’m Nur, a Trauma Recovery Therapist & Relationship Coach based in Singapore, supporting individuals as they heal from heartbreak, abandonment, and rejection ❤️‍🩹.

📌 Unsure if therapy is the right fit or struggling to find a therapist who truly understands you? Let’s chat! ✨ Book a FREE Discovery Call using the link in my bio.

📌 Now accepting clients both in Singapore 🇸🇬 and globally 🌎.

📌 Follow for therapeutic tips and mental health insights. A gentle reminder that social media is a helpful resource, but it’s not a substitute for therapy.

Some people don’t want a conversation - they want control.They don’t engage to understand, they engage to dominate. They...
01/03/2025

Some people don’t want a conversation - they want control.

They don’t engage to understand, they engage to dominate. They aren’t interested in perspective, only in proving themselves right. They don’t ask questions to learn, only to weaponize your words against you later.

A real conversation is built on mutual respect, openness, and a willingness to listen. But with them, it’s different.

Every word you say feels like walking through a minefield—one wrong step, and suddenly, you’re the villain.

1) They move the goalposts. No matter what you say, it’s never enough. The argument shifts, the bar gets higher, and you’re left chasing an ever-changing standard you can never meet.

2) They rewrite history. They deny things they said, twist events, and gaslight you into questioning your own reality.

3) They attack, then play the victim. They lash out, insult, and push your buttons—then when you react, suddenly you’re the problem.

4) They make you feel small for having emotions. If you show frustration, they call you “too sensitive.” If you detach, they say you “don’t care enough.” No response is ever the right one.

And here’s the thing: You will never “win” with someone whose goal isn’t resolution, but control.

So when you feel like you’re constantly defending yourself, pause.

Ask yourself: Is this a conversation, or is this manipulation? Because real conversations leave room for both voices—control doesn’t.

Drop 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 if this post spoke to you.

📌 I’m Nur, a Trauma Recovery Therapist & Relationship Coach based in Singapore, supporting individuals as they heal from heartbreak, abandonment, and rejection ❤️‍🩹.

📌 Unsure if therapy is the right fit or struggling to find a therapist who truly understands you? Let’s chat! ✨ Book a FREE Discovery Call using the link in my bio.

📌 Now accepting clients both in Singapore 🇸🇬 and globally 🌎.

📌 Follow for therapeutic tips and mental health insights. A gentle reminder that social media is a helpful resource, but it’s not a substitute for therapy.

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