24/02/2024
“We are all very different, but yet very much the same, just that we express ourselves in different ways.”
[On Motivational Interviewing]
I undergo psychological training as part of MI, and I issue homework to them (my patients). It’s all about asking people - what gives you joy? It gives people a chance to see a light in the darkness, to have the courage to choose these things, when life is telling them to choose something else. Counselling for depression is very much like MI just as smoking cessation is. Life goes on mindlessly for many of us, but it takes courage and effort to be mindful and aware of certain things. But I think if we know what makes us happy, what our true needs are, we will be able to find the courage to make certain decisions. And you will be able to make happy choices not only about you, but for those around you. And with enough courage you can also choose to go against the general flow in pursuit of what you want.
In life, when it comes to making “different” decisions, some people have always followed the books and they wished they could do something different. There are societal rules but some people feel the need to break certain rules and boundaries for certain periods of time. It’s also about autonomy: who am I? Must I look like you exactly? Eventually they come back from making a bad decision and this is how it is. So they can’t be judged for these moments because it’s an experimentation - figuring who I am, what matters to me. And honestly speaking, we are all very different, but yet very much the same, just that we express ourselves in different ways. Back in medical school, I looked at my friends in the Arts & Social Science faculty trying new things while I needed to study. This shaped my post graduation years, which I spent doing things like learning a third/fourth language or dabbling with something new. That’s the thing with dabbling - sometimes it stays with you, other times that's not what you want. All of these are an inkling of desire - Why can't I experience this? Why do/How do societal rules hold us back and affect how we make decisions? (cont in comments)