Impact Counsellor

07/03/2026

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29/01/2026

29/01/2026

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A practical, reflective workshop exploring how awareness, engagement, and connection help us remain human in the age of AI.

22/01/2026

14/10/2025

The Power of Calm Parenting

Kids grow even in the silence between your words. 🌿
When you stay calm, they feel safe — when you listen, they feel seen.
Peaceful homes raise confident hearts, and gentle tones raise strong minds. 💖

14/10/2025

A graphic illustration of a positive perspective of coping with hiccups in life.

Life, much like flying, isn’t always smooth and straightforward. Sometimes, no matter how prepared we are, we find ourselves stuck at the runway, waiting for the right conditions to take off. We plan, we train, and we dream of soaring high, yet delays and setbacks are part of the journey. It’s in these moments of waiting and uncertainty that we are tested the most.

Just like pilots trust air traffic control to give them clearance, we must learn to trust the timing of our lives. There will be days when things don’t go as planned when opportunities seem out of reach, and our goals feel distant. But that doesn’t mean we won’t get there. Delays don’t mean denial; they simply remind us that patience and persistence are key to reaching our destination safely.

When life puts us on hold, it’s an opportunity to reflect, to refine our skills, and to grow stronger. Perhaps there’s something we still need to learn or prepare for before we can take off. Rather than getting discouraged, we should embrace the wait and use it to fuel our determination.

So when life isn’t cleared for takeoff, remember this: “Delays are not dead ends; they are part of the journey to greater heights.” Keep your dreams alive, stay ready, and when the time is right, you’ll soar higher than ever before.

14/10/2025

14/10/2025

"The truth has no defense against a fool determined to believe a lie." - Mark Twain

Twain captures the frustrating asymmetry between truth and willful ignorance. Truth relies on evidence, reason, and a willingness to be persuaded. But a person committed to a falsehood is armed with an impenetrable shield of confirmation bias and cognitive dissonance. They will dismiss facts, attack the messenger, and twist logic to preserve their comforting illusion. In such a battle, truth is disarmed, for its very nature is to be examined, while the lie is fortified by a blind, emotional commitment.

When you encounter a "determined fool," is it more productive to present facts or to understand the emotional need their lie fulfills?

13/10/2025

Ability to cope with loneliness matters & can be problematic for many. Loneliness basically has to do with detachment from meaning & purpose of life more than a lack of meaningful social relationships. It boils down to finding an overarching purpose of life. When one has a clear direction & purpose for living we should neither be vulnerable to loneliness nor boredom which is a lack of meaningful activities. Loneliness & boredom are inter-connected & impact mental health.

Shoji Morimoto, a 41-year-old from Japan, earns around $80,000 a year by renting himself out to “do nothing” 🤔

Charging between $65 and $195 per session, he has conducted over 4,000 sessions in four years, offering silent companionship for those who need a nonjudgmental presence.

Clients hire him for various reasons, from sharing a meal to attending important life events, often to combat loneliness. Morimoto sets clear boundaries, refusing requests involving labor, long-distance travel, or anything inappropriate.

Previously working in publishing, he found fulfillment in embracing his passivity as a service, bringing joy to both himself and those who seek his presence.

13/10/2025

"A fraudulent intent, however carefully concealed at the outset, will generally, in the end, betray itself." — Livy

Livy warns that deception cannot hide forever. False motives unravel with time, exposing truth. This quote affirms that integrity outlasts manipulation. Even the most cunning fraud eventually reveals its cracks. Character is revealed not in the moment—but in the unfolding.

13/10/2025

Our polyclinic & hospitals regularly filled with many old folks. Need not live for sickness & medication everyday if we start early to take charge of our health with healthy living. Nutrition, sunshine, water, rest & exercise. And not forgetting to give attention to mental health. Watch out for fears, anxieties & depressions along with intrusive negative thinking. Health is more a matter of prudent choices & certain consequences than choices or wishes.

https://www.businessinsider.com/arnold-schwarzenegger-longevity-exercise-diet-aging-2025-10

https://www.businessinsider.com/arnold-schwarzenegger-new-longevity-workout-regimen-2025-10

At 78, Arnold Schwarzenegger is still one of the fittest men in Hollywood. Here's how he's doing it.

10/10/2025

Terrible to lose a son to su***de without any warning. Yet knowing how to grieve &/or get help for grieving is so necessary to have a good closure of the loss of a dear family member. If not one would get stuck in a rut of regrets, self-blaming & at risk of chronic depression & loss of purpose in life & eventually the dire prospect of sliding quickly down a suicidal path.

On the other hand, this sad story of Thomas (turned a professional counsellor) is an affirmation of the wise axiom of “never waste the pain” of my counselling professor. A pain is wasted when we learn nothing from it (whether the pain is a direct consequence of one’s bad choice of action or caused by others).

So pain is wasted when one keeps getting the same painful outcome of a repeated pattern of actions (by choice). Isn’t that insane to expect a different outcome by doing the same thing again & again. For Thomas he never wasted his pain of losing his son as he used his experience of pain & grief to help & give support others in the same painful journey of all humankind. It truly takes a “wounded healer” to heal the wounds of others (quote the late contemplative Catholic priest & university professor, Henri Nouwen, author of “The Wounded Healer”).

Thomas’s story of his son is just the tip of the iceberg of su***de rates in SG that has become the highest in this part of our world as the su***de data do not include unreported cases across all age groups. Good that PM has already made mental health a top national priority before global concern for climate change even before the start of his official appointment. Hence, prudent for us to personally give attention to our own mental health & that of our family & other significant others in our social circles living in a very costly & stressful First World global city state amidst a more troubling world in the turmoils of rapidly shifting values, geopolitics, economics & high tech developments.

https://mothership.sg/2025/10/singaporean-man-son-su***de-counselling/?fbclid=IwY2xjawNWXMtleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBicmlkETFkVE5LcjhhTnVFYXhmOVRzAR5P-GzPlB6ekmvytv4gpaXASal5ehY855BNJExVYUA7r1QR9SCRq49tyS1FLQ_aem_RUKtjZHmLa2ZABE1XsdejQ

"Just because we love them, doesn't mean that we know them enough to trust us," he said.