Incontact Counselling & Training

Incontact Counselling & Training Incontact is a team of experienced, empathic, accredited counsellors, who offer confidential counselling services to individuals and corporate clients.

We are passionate counsellors who want to empower you to be the best version of yourself. Incontact Counselling & Training service in Singapore has a simple mission: to empower people in need towards growth, development, and positive change. Spearheaded by two psychotherapists, what sets Incontact apart is the diversity of our experience. Our practice is multicultural and rooted in grassroots comm

unity care due to our expertise and engagement with local community services and welfare organisations. With reciprocity in mind, Incontact has scaled its practice to work with individuals, couples, and families in private settings as well as multinational companies. Implementing solid mental hygiene is imperative for individuals and the community at large. However, there is no rigid structure or one-size-fits-all approach to mental health. So, our psychotherapists tailor a solution that considers circumstances, whether you’re in an individual counselling session or a mental health webinar. The team is also trained in various skills and multiple languages, providing a safe space to land for individuals and organisations alike. To date, Incontact has helped clientele with social issues, workplace problems, mental health issues, LGBTQIA+ struggles, trauma, sexual assault and more. At Incontact, confidentiality guaranteed. Here to support your personal growth. Book an appointment on our website today.

You’re not lazy. You’re overwhelmed.When you find yourself looking at a simple task like: “just send that email,” “just ...
09/08/2025

You’re not lazy. You’re overwhelmed.

When you find yourself looking at a simple task like: “just send that email,” “just make that call....BUT...
..not making any progress:

- Your body doesn’t move.
- Your mind spirals.
- The longer you wait, the worse it feels.

You start to call yourself names — lazy, undisciplined, unmotivated.

What if it’s NOT laziness?

At Incontact Counselling & Training, we see clients who come in thinking they need more willpower — and realise they need more "self-understanding".

Not a stricter routine, but a gentler approach. Not a productivity hack, but healing.

What looks like procrastination is often:
— Emotional overload
— Fear of failure
— Decision paralysis
— Burnout in disguise

Your nervous system might be doing everything it can to protect you from perceived danger — even if the “danger” is just a to-do list.

If you’ve been calling yourself lazy lately — pause. That label may be masking something deeper.

You’re not broken. You’re carrying too much. And you don’t have to do it alone.

Puberty. Pregnancy. Postpartum. Perimenopause.Our bodies shift, sometimes subtly, sometimes radically, across a woman’s ...
07/08/2025

Puberty. Pregnancy. Postpartum. Perimenopause.
Our bodies shift, sometimes subtly, sometimes radically, across a woman’s life.

And with every shift, body image and self-worth can be challenged.

You may remember picking apart your reflection as a teen, feeling disconnected after childbirth, or struggling to accept your body during menopause. These moments aren’t shallow, they’re deeply human.

💬 What we often don’t talk about:
🔹 How beauty standards can make you feel like you’re failing
🔹 How self-esteem isn’t just about looks, but about identity
🔹 How hard it is to love your body in a world that keeps changing the rules

But it’s never too late to unlearn the shame and rebuild respect for the body that’s carried you through it all.

At Incontact, we support women in exploring the deeper layers of self-worth and body image through all of life’s transitions.

Being a single parent isn’t just about managing logistics, it’s carrying the weight of emotional labor, decision-making,...
03/08/2025

Being a single parent isn’t just about managing logistics, it’s carrying the weight of emotional labor, decision-making, and care, often without a safety net.

Many single parents silently wrestle with:
• The pressure to be strong all the time
• Guilt when asking for help
• Emotional burnout from constant giving
• Moments of deep loneliness even in a full house

You’re not failing. You’re just running on empty, and no one can thrive that way.

Therapy offers a space where you can be cared for, not just the carer. A place to pause, reflect, and reconnect with your own emotional needs.

At Incontact, we understand the quiet strength it takes to do this alone. And we’re here to support you, because you matter too.

"I don’t need help.""I’ll handle it myself.""I can’t rely on anyone anyway."It might sound like strength.But often, it’s...
01/08/2025

"I don’t need help."

"I’ll handle it myself."

"I can’t rely on anyone anyway."

It might sound like strength.

But often, it’s self-protection.

Many people wear independence like a badge of honour—

But for some, it was never a choice.

It was a lesson: 𝐃𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐲.

This is what trauma can quietly teach us.

When care was inconsistent, support unreliable, or emotions dismissed...

Self-reliance became the only way to feel safe.

And so, hyper-independence was born.

Not out of strength, but out of survival.

At Incontact Counselling & Training, we meet many people who carry this quiet burden—

People who look like they have it all together, but who feel exhausted from holding everything alone.

💭 Healing isn’t about doing less.

It’s about feeling safe enough to receive.

Support. Care. Partnership. Rest.

Strong doesn’t have to mean solo.

Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is let someone in.

She’s managing deadlines at work.She’s calming tantrums at home.She’s answering calls, sorting dinner, remembering birth...
30/07/2025

She’s managing deadlines at work.
She’s calming tantrums at home.
She’s answering calls, sorting dinner, remembering birthdays, and somewhere in all this, she’s quietly falling apart.

Many women carry the invisible weight of being “everything to everyone.” And while they may look like they’re doing fine, the emotional cost often goes unseen.

🔹 Burnout from juggling roles
🔹 Guilt for not doing “enough”
🔹 Isolation from putting themselves last

Mental health doesn’t thrive on strength alone, it needs support, boundaries, and permission to pause.

At Incontact, we support women navigating work, life, and family demands. Whether you're overwhelmed, anxious, or just tired of holding it all in, we’re here for you.

Your wellbeing is not a luxury. It’s a necessity.
💬 Reach out to talk. We’re listening.

When you're hurt or frustrated, it's easy to reach for absolutes. “You never care,” or “You always do this.”But these wo...
28/07/2025

When you're hurt or frustrated, it's easy to reach for absolutes. “You never care,” or “You always do this.”
But these words don't open a door for understanding. They shut it.

Using absolutes puts the other person on the defensive and turns your emotional needs into accusations.

In couple counselling, we help partners shift from blame to clarity. Because when you're able to name what you feel (without turning it into a fight), you're more likely to be heard, and helped.

Want to build better communication in your relationship? We're here to help.

The loss of a pregnancy can be invisible to others, but deeply felt by those who experience it.You may grieve a future y...
26/07/2025

The loss of a pregnancy can be invisible to others, but deeply felt by those who experience it.

You may grieve a future you had already started dreaming of. And yet, you may also carry that grief quietly, unsure of how to share it or whether it’s “okay” to feel so much.

Here’s what we want you to know:

🔹 Your loss is valid.
🔹 Your grief is real, even if no one else can see it.
🔹 Healing doesn’t mean forgetting.
🔹 You don’t need to explain or justify your pain.

At Incontact Counselling, we hold space for every kind of grief—even the kind the world can’t always see. If you’re mourning a loss others may not understand, you don’t have to carry it alone.

“I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I’m just…lazy.”We hear this often in therapy.But when we pause and look closer, here...
24/07/2025

“I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I’m just…lazy.”

We hear this often in therapy.
But when we pause and look closer, here’s what we often find underneath that label:

Not laziness.
But emotional overload.
Fear of not getting it right.
Grief that hasn’t been named.
A body that’s running on empty.
Or a brain frozen from burnout.

What you call “lazy,” we see as a nervous system doing its best to cope.

So many of us grew up hearing that productivity defines worth.
That rest is indulgent.
That if you’re not doing, you’re falling behind.

In reality:
- There’s nothing wrong with needing rest.
- There’s nothing wrong with taking time.
- And there’s nothing wrong with you.

At Incontact Counselling & Training, we help you move from self-judgement to self-understanding—so you can meet yourself with the same compassion you offer others.

💬 If you’ve been hard on yourself lately, what might happen if you replaced the word “lazy” with “overwhelmed”?
It’s a good place to start.

When men hesitate to seek therapy or talk about their struggles, it’s often seen as pride or resistance. But the truth r...
20/07/2025

When men hesitate to seek therapy or talk about their struggles, it’s often seen as pride or resistance. But the truth runs deeper.

From a young age, many boys are taught to suppress emotion, avoid vulnerability, and perform strength—even when they are hurting.

Phrases like “man up,” “stop crying,” or “deal with it” may sound like discipline, but over time, they teach men that asking for help is failure.
That struggling is shameful.
That silence is strength.

But emotional health is not a gender issue, it’s a human one.

Therapy isn’t about weakness. It’s about understanding yourself, breaking harmful patterns, and creating space to be more fully human.

At Incontact Counselling & Training, we support men through the process of unlearning and healing. Every step you take toward self-awareness is a powerful one.


Many people struggle to express their intimacy needs, especially when they fear rejection, conflict, or being misunderst...
18/07/2025

Many people struggle to express their intimacy needs, especially when they fear rejection, conflict, or being misunderstood.

But the ability to speak honestly about what helps you feel emotionally or physically connected is essential to a healthy relationship.

Here are a few ways to begin:

▫️ Start by identifying your need: Is it quality time, affection, emotional check-ins, or physical closeness?
▫️ Use “I” language: “I feel distant when we don’t talk about how we’re doing.”
▫️ Be specific: “I feel most connected when we share a meal without distractions.”
▫️ Avoid blame: Keep the focus on connection, not criticism
▫️ Stay open: Invite your partner to share what helps them feel connected too

At Incontact Counselling & Training, we support couples in having these meaningful conversations. Because intimacy grows when both partners feel safe, heard, and understood.


Emotional vs physical intimacy differences are common and completely normal.In this conversation between Rachel and Marc...
16/07/2025

Emotional vs physical intimacy differences are common and completely normal.

In this conversation between Rachel and Marcus, we see two different but equally valid ways of connecting:

▫️ Rachel values emotional closeness. Meaningful conversation, openness, and feeling emotionally seen.
▫️ Marcus values physical closeness. Touch, affection, and the reassurance it provides.

Misunderstanding these needs can create emotional distance, hurt feelings, and frustration.

But when both partners learn to express, listen, and respect these differences, true intimacy happens. It’s not one or the other; healthy relationships thrive on both emotional and physical closeness.

In couples counselling at Incontact, we help you:

Identify and understand each partner’s intimacy style

Strengthen emotional safety and communication

Create practical ways to bridge intimacy needs

Because true intimacy isn’t just about closeness—it's about being deeply understood, safe, and loved, in every sense.




In Singapore, we don’t often smile at strangers in the MRT.We don’t strike up casual chats in the lift.We tend to keep t...
14/07/2025

In Singapore, we don’t often smile at strangers in the MRT.

We don’t strike up casual chats in the lift.

We tend to keep to ourselves—eyes down, earbuds in.

To someone new—especially from Western cultures—this can feel cold.

One client from the UK told us what she missed most wasn’t deep friendships.

It was the small gestures:
..smiles exchanged with strangers, friendly greetings in public spaces, the passing warmth of social openness.

But here’s the paradox:

Despite our reserved public culture, Singapore is one of the least lonely countries in the world.

Compare that with the UK, where:
📊 7% of adults—about 3.1 million people—say they feel lonely “often or always.”
(So serious, the country appointed a Minister for Loneliness in 2018.)

Meanwhile in Asia:
📉 Only 6% in Vietnam report feeling lonely “a lot of the day”—the lowest Gallup recorded globally in 2023.

Singapore ranks low on the loneliness scale too.

So what are we doing differently?

In many Asian cultures, connection isn’t always loud or visible.

It lives in quieter, deeper rhythms:

– In multigenerational homes where you're expected to show up, even if no one says “I miss you”

– In shared meals, practical check-ins, and emotional duty that doesn’t always find words

– In the quiet comfort of belonging, not performance

These aren’t just cultural niceties.

They’re emotional infrastructure.

They keep people tethered—even if no one makes eye contact in the lift.

At Incontact Counselling & Training , we believe that mental health care must be culturally attuned.

Connection doesn’t always look like what we expect.

Sometimes, it looks like a bowl of soup waiting for you after work.
Or someone asking if you've eaten.
Or simply... staying close. ❤️

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