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23/11/2025

Coming to the end of 2025, I've been thinking a lot about time lately!

It reminded me how fast time flies 💨 and how easy it is to keep putting things off! So, I decided to finally try two new activities I'd been meaning to explore and attended a concert by my favourite artist, something I could've easily talked myself out of 😅.

Thanks to the quotation by Paulo Coelho: "One day you will wake up and there won't be any more time to do the things you've always wanted to do."

Tomorrow isn't guaranteed, and no more “someday”.

20/11/2025

I stumbled on this quote many years before "There is never enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time to do the most important thing."

But, I just refused 🙅 to accept it. I kept telling myself if I just worked harder, faster, and more efficient, I'd finally catch up with my infinite to-do list,.…. I never did 😞.

Recently, I've been so busy reacting to what feels urgent that I forgot to protect what's actually important….my health…. my relationships…myself! Then, this quote started to make sense 💡.

Lesson learned! What makes the difference is not how much we do in those 24 hours but in knowing what deserves those hours in the first place!!!

20/11/2025

A part of grief is learning to accept what happened and finding a way to live with the loss.

You cannot forget, but you can learn to live with what happened.

Grief occurs when something unexpected or unwanted happens.

20/11/2025

If you fail this month, congratulations.

Failure isn’t proof you’re doing something wrong - it’s proof you’re trying.

Every “mistake” teaches you more than playing it safe ever will.

So stop waiting for the “right time”
Stop overthinking it.
Just start.

Because the only REAL failure is never trying at all.

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20/11/2025

20/11/2025

It is important to know which behaviors can weaken intimacy in a relationship, especially habitual, subtle patterns like these that insidiously erode connection and drive us apart.

20/11/2025

Healthy relationships aren’t about choosing independence or dependence. They’re about learning how to hold both without losing each other or losing yourself.

It’s messy, human, beautiful work and we’re right there in the middle of it with them.

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19/11/2025

2. Marrying isn’t a one-off decision.

13/11/2025

How often do we think that time will never run out? 🤔

Putting off the trip 🏝️, delaying to act on that dream, .... waiting for the perfect moment to finally start.

The interesting fact is …while we’ve been stressed about being busy, we’ve also been comfortable postponing what truly matters, the hard conversation, the creative project, and so on so forth.

We all have the same 24 hours ⏰. The real question is whether we're spending them on autopilot or actually moving toward what we value the most!

12/11/2025

12/11/2025

Pathological demand avoidance, or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy (PDA)*, is an anxiety-driven need for control and resistance to demands/expectations that threaten a sense of autonomy. Whilst everyone experiences demand avoidance at times (e.g., refusing to complete homework or household chores), for individuals with PDA, everyday demands such as “put on your shoes” or “take a shower” can cause significant anxiety and evoke extreme emotional reactions (panic attacks or meltdowns). In fact, individuals with PDA may resist demands even if it’s something that they enjoy or want to do. It is the expectation, rather than the nature of demands, that leads to a perceived lack of control. Thus, demands that may trigger PDA include:

Direct Demands: Instructions e.g., Brush your teeth, put your shoes on, do your homework, corrections, or discipline.
Indirect Demands: Praise, discussions/comments about the future, transitions, social expectations.
Internal Demands: Hunger, thirst or needing to use the bathroom.
Wants/desires: Hobbies/interests, special occasions. ( Mind Matters ❤️)

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12/11/2025

How do you ensure your marriage lasts a long time? Julie and John Gottman are the world's leading relationship scientists — and they've also been married for more than 50 years. They join Chris Duffy, host of the podcast "How to Be a Better Human," to give advice on love, relationships and the sec...