Psihoterapija, svetovanje in psihosocialna pomoč Vida Mlakar

10/07/2025

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S psihiatrinjo in sistemsko psihoterapevtko Bredo Jelen Sobočan sva se pogovarjali na nevihtni ponedeljek, ki je presekal dolgo trajajoči vročinski val in je zelo povedno simboliziral turbulentno dogajanje, povezano s sprejemanjem predloga zakona o psihoterapevtski dejavnosti. Dokument naj bi nam...

04/06/2025

This is the sweetest thing I’ve ever learned - and it fills me with so much joy. 🥹✨

During pregnancy, fetal cells cross the placental barrier and enter the mother’s bloodstream. These tiny fetal cells can come from various fetal tissues - like the skin, liver, and immune system - and they can travel to the mother’s heart, lungs, even the brain.

Some of them stay for years, some for life.

This incredible phenomenon is called microchimerism - and it means that we, as mothers, carry a part of our children not just in our bodies, but literally in our ❤️ too.

We are forever connected - right down to our cells.

31/05/2025

🌍✨ Feeling inspired at the EMDR Europe Research & Practice Conference 2025 in beautiful Prague!

An incredible gathering of professionals from 77 countries, with over 1800 participants in person and online — all committed to advancing EMDR therapy and improving mental health care worldwide.

From insightful talks to moving recognitions, and a beautifully orchestrated opening ceremony, it’s an honor to be part of this meaningful event. ❤️


🧠💬 “Healing happens when science, compassion, and connection meet.”

29/05/2025

O (ne)odraslih odnosih, bežanju pred odgovornostjo in svobodi, ki je v resnici strah

Nekateri odnosi se začnejo čarobno. Lahkotno, igrivo, z občutkom svobode. Oseba, ki očara, navdihuje, prinaša iskrico. A ko pride do vprašanja prihodnosti, se zazre skozi “okno”. Ne reče “ne”, a tudi ne reče “da”. Vse ostaja v nedoločljivem. Zadostno prisotno, da ohranja upanje, a nikoli dovolj zavezano, da bi ustvarilo temelj.

V globljem psihološkem smislu pa to ni zgolj vedenjski vzorec. Je arhetipska dinamika. To je Peter Pan – simbol večnega dečka. Tistega, ki ne odraste, ker odraslost razume kot konec svobode. Tistega, ki leti stran od realnosti – odgovornosti, ranljivosti, smrti.

Letenje, v tem kontekstu, pomeni bežanje:
– v idealizacijo, v možnosti brez meja
– v začasne odnose, ki nimajo teže
– v teorije, duhovnost, projekte brez tal
– v »svobodo«, ki v resnici skriva strah pred stikom

Na drugi strani odnosa pa je pogosto Wendy. Ona, ki drži prostor. Ki upa. Ki čaka. Ki ljubi z zrelostjo. A na koncu izčrpana ugotovi, da čakanje ni faza. Je struktura. In ona ni več v tej zgodbi.

V terapiji ne sodimo. Razumemo, da Peter Pan ni sovražnik. Je tisti del nas, ki ni imel iniciacije. Ki ni imel varne strukture odraslega sveta. Ki se boji zavrnitve. Ki verjame, da mora leteti, da ne bi izgubil sebe.

A tudi Wendy ima svojo vlogo:
- Zakaj ostaja tam, kjer ni napredka?
- Kdo je, ko ne čaka več?
- Katera njena globlja prepričanja so v “igri”?
- Kakšne sekundarne koristi vendarle dobiva?

Kaj mislite? Zapišite v komentar ⬇️

06/05/2025

Visoko funkcionalna depresija: ko navzven deluješ »v redu«, znotraj pa trpiš

Depresija se redko začne tisti dan, ko ne moreš več vstati iz postelje. Le redkokdaj udari nenadoma in popolnoma ohromi. Pogosteje se prikrade potiho – počasi, vztrajno – medtem ko skušaš ohranjati videz normalnosti in izpolnjevati vse zahteve vsakdana. Morda globoko v sebi trpiš, a navzven opravljaš svoje naloge: hodiš v službo, skrbiš za druge, se smehljaš v družbi.

Prav zato pogosto govorimo o visoko funkcionalni depresiji – stanju, kjer je notranje trpljenje skrito za zunanjo “normalnostjo”. Ker okolica vidi le to, kako “dobro ti gre”, je toliko težje spregovoriti o tem, kako se v resnici počutiš. Pojavijo se sram, dvom, strah, da te nihče ne bo razumel. In tvoja stiska ostane nevidna.

A »funkcionirati« ne pomeni biti srečen. In zagotovo ne pomeni biti duševno zdrav.

Izraz »visoko funkcionalna depresija« sicer ni uradna klinična diagnoza – depresija pa je.
Dejstvo, da vsak dan prideš v službo ali šolo, ne izključuje možnosti, da potrebuješ pomoč in podporo.

Pomembno je razumeti: tudi če zmoreš, to ne pomeni, da si v redu.
Tudi ta oblika depresije lahko vodi v izgorelost, osamljenost, težave v odnosih ali zlorabo substanc. A tako kot druge oblike depresije je tudi ta ozdravljiva – s strokovno pomočjo, razumevanjem in časom.

Prvi in najpomembnejši korak? Priznaj si, da potrebuješ pomoč – in si jo dovoli poiskati.

30/04/2025

Tvoja pot. Tvoj tempo. Tvoja zgodba.

V svetu, ki nas nenehno spodbuja k primerjanju z drugimi, ne pozabi: tvoja pot je edinstvena.

Ni treba hiteti.
Ni se ti treba primerjati.
Ni se ti treba dokazovati.

V psihoterapiji cenimo individualnost. Ni pomembno, kako hitro greš ali kje so drugi. Pomembno je, da ostajaš zvest/a sebi in spoštuješ svojo lastno pot.

Zaupaj procesu. Ponosno stopaj po svoji poti – v svojem ritmu. Prav tam, kjer si zdaj, je čisto v redu.

10/03/2025

Vulkan znotraj nas 🌋✨

Vsi v sebi nosimo svoje vulkane – nepredelane izkušnje, potlačena čustva, globoko zakoreninjene vzorce. Dolgo časa lahko ostajajo nevidni, tlijo v ozadju, dokler pritisk ne postane prevelik in pride do izbruha.

A izbruh ni nujno uničujoč. Lahko je klic k spremembi, priložnost za soočenje s tem, kar smo dolgo odrivali na stran. V terapiji se učimo, kako razumeti notranje procese, se z njim spoprijateljiti in jih usmeriti v rast.

🌱 Kaj v vas tli in čaka, da to prepoznate?

znotraj

20/02/2025

Kaj lahko danes spustiš? ✨

- Potrebo po nadzoru
- Strah
- Skrbi
- Tesnobo
- Preteklost

Spustiti ne pomeni izgubiti – pomeni se osvoboditi. 💫
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💬 Kaj boš danes spustil/-a?

15/02/2025

💙 Dragi starši, vaš najstnik ima sporočilo za vas… 💙

🌿 Dear Parents, Your Teenager Has a Message for You… 🌿

Dear Mom and Dad,

Please stick with me.

I can’t think clearly right now because there is a rather substantial section of my prefrontal cortex missing. It’s a fairly important chunk, something having to do with rational thought. You see, it won’t be fully developed until I’m about 25. And from where I sit, 25 seems a long way off.

My brain is not yet fully developed

It doesn’t matter that I’m smart; even a perfect score on my math SAT doesn’t insulate me from the normal developmental stages that we all go through. Judgement and intelligence are two completely distinct things.

And, the same thing that makes my brain wonderfully flexible, creative and sponge-like also makes me impulsive. Not necessarily reckless or negligent but more impulsive than I will be later in life.

So when you look at me like I have ten heads after I’ve done something “stupid” or failed to do something “smart,” you’re not really helping.

You adults respond to situations with your prefrontal cortex (rationally) but I am more inclined to respond with my amygdala (emotionally). And when you ask, “What were you thinking?” the answer is I wasn’t, at least not in the way you are. You can blame me, or you can blame mother nature, but either way, it is what it is.

At this point in my life, I get that you love me, but my friends are my everything. Please understand that. Right now I choose my friends, but, don’t be fooled, I am watching you. Carefully.

Please stick with me.

Here’s what you can do for me:

1. Model adulting.

I see all the behaviors that you are modeling and I hear all of the words you say. I may not listen but I do hear you. I seem impervious to your advice, like I’m wearing a Kevlar vest but your actions and words are penetrating. I promise. If you keep showing me the way, I will follow even if I detour many, many times before we reach our destination.

2. Let me figure things out for myself.

If you allow me to experience the consequences of my own actions I will learn from them. Please give me a little bit of leash and let me know that I can figure things out for myself. The more I do, the more confidence and resilience I will develop.

3. Tell me about you.

I want you to tell me all the stories of the crazy things you did as a teen, and what you learned from them. Then give me the space to do the same.

4. Help me with perspective.

Keep reminding me of the big picture. I will roll my eyes at you and make all kinds of grunt-like sounds. I will let you know in no uncertain terms that you can’t possibly understand any of what I’m going through. But I’m listening. I really am. It’s hard for me to see anything beyond the weeds that I am currently mired in. Help me scan out and focus on the long view. Remind me that this moment will pass.

5. Keep me safe.

Please remind me that drugs and driving don’t mix. Keep telling me that you will bail me out of any dangerous situation, no anger, no lectures, no questions asked. But also let me know over and over and over that you are there to listen, when I need you.

6. Be kind.

I will learn kindness from you and if you are relentless in your kindness to me, someday I will imitate that behavior. Don’t ever mock me, please and don’t be cruel. Humor me-I think I know everything. You probably did as well at my age. Let it go.

7. Show interest in the things I enjoy.

Some days I will choose to share my interests with you, and it will make me feel good if you validate those interests, by at least acting interested.
One day when the haze of adolescence lifts, you will find a confident, strong, competent, kind adult where a surly teenager once stood. In the meantime, buckle in for the ride.

Please stick with me.

Love,
Your Teenager
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05/02/2025

Se nekaj prostih mest v Ljubljani!