Tina Bozic

04/01/2024

Light.
Start within.

16/09/2023

When you release your need to be perfect, which is only fear of being judged, hurt, and rejected... life becomes

play.

It always takes work to dig through the territories of fear, and fact is, you can only create something meaningful by attending to all those fears.

Magic is, that fears completely lose their grip and "power" when we

a) understand them
b) talk about and share them honestly.

They literally evaporate into thin air, and what happens is that there is suddenly so much more space and power available to create... something New.

I believe the Creation of New is the joy, the "gusto" of our existence.

I also believe everyone should understand that there is nothing to fear regarding Creation because we all have simple human superpowers inside us with which we can actively shift and influence the energetic reality -

how something actually becomes

a thing...

☺️

Be bold, be wise, have faith, and use your brain diligently. If you work for it, you can have it, and you will have it because it is done,

and so it is.

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30/08/2023

Make sure you always do.

01/05/2023

Post-traumatic growth is possible; we grow by fully embracing our personal truth. That is the hardest part of the personal growth work if you've ever been used, abused, or neglected. Our personal truth is ground beneath our feet; our past is our soil and we need to work with it consciously to filter out the harmful and add the nutrients. People with abusive pasts, growing up in abusive homes and relationships, doubt their version of the reality of what was happening. They constantly seek objective truth, never able to honor their subjective truth. They don't even know the difference between these two exists; it does, from a spiritual perspective for sure... When do we know that something that was happening, was no doubt real to us? Once we hug the truth. Once we finally allow ourselves to honor our version of reality. Because we start to grow. We begin to love and appreciate ourselves, which is all impossible 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 we let ourselves know our own truth. Only then, agony melts away. Suffering starts to disappear. We stop spinning in black circles. Transformational growth is the final proof of your personal truth, and the personal truth is always medicine. There are always people available who can help you move through this process because it's not easy when you do it alone.

Tina

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13/03/2023

"That most rare and privileged cosmic event – two souls aligning inside a playful, loving, and enduring relationship." This is how Nick Cave defined "good relationship" in his recent newsletter.

PS. I also believe grounded relationships don't respond significantly to any cosmic weather in particular.

10/02/2023

FOLLOW NOBODY... BUT YOUR BODY 🥰 When I finished my BA in psychology, I started a Ph.D. program in biomedicine - neuropsychology. I was enrolled for two months or so - and then I quit. I remember coming home with six spiral-bound scripts, each about 200 pages, totaling over 1200 pages of Neuroscience - Basics... I opened the script in English, and there was page after page about a neuron. I can't tell you how detailed it was. I was transfixed. In my zeal, I probably imagined that a Ph.D. was a natural must in my career, that it would boost my mind and my ego and social network, and that with all the research and work and a Ph.D. at the end, I'd feel great! No, not great, FANTASTIC!!

But the truth is, I sat in my little dorm room, turning the pages of those spiral-bound scripts, and I realized that if I kept this game up, I'd be doomed to more spiral-bound texts like these, feelings like these, labs, mice, and experiments for years to come. I called my best friend, who was already doing her Ph.D. in Zurich at the time, and I don't remember what we talked about exactly. Still, I do remember that after hanging up the phone, I realized that my love of the sciences couldn't outweigh my deep feeling that investigating and researching things to first factors was NOT the right path in life for me.

I felt it in my body, and it felt like the truth, nothing but the truth.

And I was correct.

Of course😎

Later, I got to know more people whose minds LITERALLY were made to explore things to the smallest detail. And I came to know the immense value they have to offer to US who aren't here to explore every single crazy detail of a thing, but we need their skills, their gifts, and their mastery that only they have to dig so deep and bring forth such profound knowledge and connections.

One of these people is my husband.❤️

Of course, I love Samo dearly for obvious reasons - we've been together for almost 20 years - but I'm also very proud of his work and more fascinated each time by how his mind works, especially when he switches into his notorious teacher mode!

Years ago, one of my psychotherapy instructors said that body psychotherapists aren't very good with words because their field is the body, the senses, and the feelings.

Well, body psychotherapists can be excellent with words and presenting concepts.

And some of them - like my husband - can teach you things you didn't even know you needed to know because nobody mentions them to you. After all, it takes a unique flair and an inquiring mind to explain the basics to people AND, at the same time, make things practical, functional, helping.

GROUNDING FUNDAMENTALS is a work of love. And you can tell it. It's a great online course that the most dedicated and SERIOUS seekers of inner truth will find FASCINATINGLY INFORMATIVE AND HELPFUL. Therefore, it's NOT made for everyone. YOU'LL NEED TO DO THE WORK, and while traveling with Samo for nine (9) weeks, you will be inspired and learn how to connect DEEPER with your body. You'll develop a profound understanding of how your body works energetically and how it is entirely possible to stop being afraid of your body (hello, anxiety!!, hello, panic attacks!!). Samo will show you how to work with your body peacefully, lovingly, respectfully, and firmly.

Just take my word for it - with Samo as your teacher and guide, you are in excellent hands!😉🥰😎

Check all about this evergreen mastery, full of love, here: http://bit.ly/3DZ2YP0

Much love,
Tina

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08/02/2023

YOU DON'T NEED VALIDATION?

We need validation. Don't be fooled by spiritual bypassings saying "the more authentic you're, the less validation you need." That's not correct. We need validation like food. You only get it in healthy relationships where people see you or try to see you and try to understand you and love you and you do the same back. No man is an island. Toxic relationships are full of vicious feedback loops where you keep learning how wrong you're and how much you need to improve to meet the other person's expectations. You don't need to fit into anyone's expectations; you need to come as you are and you deserve people that see the beauty of your soul, and how precious you are AS YOU ARE and are clearly communicating this to you as you are to them.

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Painting by Georgia O'Keeffe, 1918, Sunrise

30/12/2022

TOLERATE NO MORE

"What has happened to me in all this time since we've been together? Why have I changed so much? Where has my liveliness gone? Where is my happiness? Where have my dreams gone? Where is my life? Why have I become so bitter and resentful? Why does my body aches? Why these bladder infections?" I often work with women on the cusp of a New. And when we meet, it is often transparent that bad relationships have taken them away from who they really are. They come, all anxious, bitter, and frustrated. And they think it's all their fault - that's typical. But they're wrong; it's not their fault. And that's what I tell them. At first, they don't believe me, and some even get suspicious... But the fact is that in bad relationships, women change for the worse. Because in bad relationships, we ALL would become more and more crazy, unbalanced, and uncomfortable. Relationships with unemphatic, uncompromising, narrow-minded people harm our mental, emotional, and eventually physical health. The trend toward bad relationships remains the same. Our tolerance for it does "improve" over time as we tap, pray, journal, meditate, or neuroregulate that famous vagus nerve... But when we draw a line in the sand? While lying in bed at 3:45 a.m. after another bitter disappointment that happened to us the day before? We have to admit to ourselves that we're in a negative spiral. Negative doesn't mean positive. Negative is negative... And yes, it's okay to be sad and recognize that. I know what that feels like. And it's okay to cry because the tears soften the heart, and we begin to feel love - for ourselves. Be very compassionate with yourself in these situations. Find out why you have closed your soul and heart and love and surrounded it with an icy layer of frozen tears? You'll dream... and see... and feel. When you suppress sadness, your lungs often work hard, and when you start to feel again, they speak volumes. Just like your pelvis and hips, your womb and bladder, filtering wasted emotions... and else.... they all speak of something overwhelming. The woman's body is wise. The body asks: love, what are you putting up with? The body asks: are you aware that you're incredibly loyal, even if there are signs that your loyalty is undeserved? The body wants to tell you that you're tolerating things that are no longer good for you... What have you tolerated in the past that you continue to tolerate now? What do you think you could do about it? What is it that you can change? Use your wonderful mind and listen to your soul, for it's constantly speaking through your dreams, body, and synchronicities... You're loved and supported at all times.

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Illustration: The Snow Girl by LittleSeaSparrow on DeviantArt

29/12/2022

CLEANSE, THEY SAY...

Purification is an essential part of the transformation process. In energy work, we cannot stabilize high vibrational imprints in a cauldron filled with low vibrational energies such as fear, shame, guilt, etc. You can sit all day and imagine a better future, but if you don't deal with the feelings that rise up from your subconscious, nothing will happen; dealing with limiting beliefs and frustration, bitterness, and anger is essential. I'm not saying it's good to wallow in it, but it's energetically correct to deal with unpleasant feelings. But we also need to be very careful when the urge to "cleanse" becomes another expression of a shadow. This is popular with some, and I understand why: they don't understand the psyche's complexity. In their eyes, it looks like everything needs to be cleaned. Body, mind, soul, and attachments. As if we were garbage dumps. But we aren't. Even the most traumatized of us are pure. So if the inner work feels like a duty or a threat, in the sense of "if I don't do this, then...." will something terrible happen, even though the consequence is clearly irrational and statistically unlikely? It would help if you got back on track. And compulsively "cleansing" yourself, whether on a physical or psychological level, is usually not the right path, but a sign that you need to ground yourself. I think there is little we "need" to do. There is no will beyond your will, just as there is no inevitable destiny - but your consciousness is evolving... Where you're now, where you were born, what your body is like, and what your talents, gifts, quirks, and abilities are... that is no coincidence; the universe is too ordered for that. But what do you do with all that? That's the crux of the matter. There's a muscle you need to exercise: the ability to consciously choose. The more you use it, the stronger your whole becomes; that is a point of self-mastery. So if you feel weak, exhausted, stuck, or frustrated? Then start making choices that make you healthy, whole, agile, and content. That may involve "cleanse", but it also just might not. Sit with the animal of your body, have a cup of mint tea with your soul, and then decide what is right for you. Acknowledge your needs, not those of the powers around you. Influence yourself. Have a cookie. Celebrate yourself, your precious life.

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Illustration by Unknow😍

28/12/2022

APROPOS WINTER

Sacred conformity to the natural cycles on earth and in the sky has everything to do with the state of our inner world, its prosperity, which depends on the vastness of our presence anchored in our cells, on inner radiance... literally, we're beings of light. Sacred alignment with the natural is about a deep awareness of our unique frequency that resonates within the Field. Adapting to natural cycles is adapting to our profound inner nature. When I watch women "get it," I observe a deep sense of relief in their souls and a new level of freedom. It's no fun being the "father's daughter." The most compliant and desired daughters of the patriarchy are the ones who either suffer the most or make those around them suffer... Say goodbye to socially imposed rhythms - including the hectic, stressful Christmas "season" - and replace them with our own rituals? Such as honoring winterish slowness, a wholesome winter rest? It's nothing big, nothing special, nothing out of the ordinary. But it requires some heretical thinking, good grounding, and the will and ability to listen to our soul. It challenges our psychological ability to connect absolutely contradictory aspects of ourselves with the greatest possible cosmic love, set boundaries, and indulge ourselves. It challenges our willingness to support ourselves in ways no one has ever supported us and to take timid steps, make mistakes, love, and butter cups... all in the name of radical self-love.

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27/12/2022

THEIR TIME

Winter is a natural time of deep initiation and absolute incubation. Energetically, winter rises with Shaimah and ends with Imbolc, a time of symbolic rebirth. It's late December, and the energy is still far from moving into rebirth mode. We are a month or so away from freshness entering our cells... not necessarily a particularly easy time. The deep need to relax is there, and it's time to devote oneself to organic rest, which may or may not feel pleasant... In any case, seeds have been planted and are now incubating in our subconscious. Don't push them. Please go gently. You don't rush a baby in the womb. You wait patiently, pregnant with possibilities. As if they were your children, take care of your seeds - visions, love them and support them. Have faith. They're preparing to rise into the visible when the time is right for THEM. I'd like you to hear the animal in your body, for it knows when the time is right to bring forth the new, to start acting on those visions... The truth is we can consciously create our parts of reality. But there is also the other part of the truth - we do this in a subtle dance with nature within and outside of us. Stay wise, imagine the impossible, keep the faith, and prepare for the miracles to come.

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26/12/2022

CO-CREATE YOUR SLICE OF REALITY

Amidst the growing chaos in human society, we each create our own energetic reality in ways that can be more elegant and efficient than ever. I'm watching our ability to meet chaos with grace, and I'm glad to see them grow. I believe we're in good time to consciously co-create our part of reality.

After much of the inner, emotional work is done, even when we know how to connect deeply with ourselves, dealing with the growing chaos of humanity's challenging times isn't a walk in the park. It's not that life gets more manageable when we know better who we're, how our minds and emotions work, what triggers us, and what behavior makes us content, fulfilled, and peaceful.

Sometimes people who don't have enough experience with inner, emotional work expect a finish line at the end of the road of their emotional recovery, and they expect to "get it" when they cross it, which will change their lives for the better once and for all.

But that never happens.

With deep emotional work - listening carefully to our depths and reflecting on our own ways, life ALWAYS changes for the better, but not in the way you'd expect. It doesn't become "good" per se.

Expecting life to be good when we finally "get it" is tantamount to trying to be "good" - a good daughter, student, employee, follower or devotee. This is a "good girl / good boy" phase of emotional work, similar to the naive spirituality of the Fool card in the Tarot. The truth is that life doesn't automatically respond to our good nature. Our father didn't stop drinking because of us, and our mother didn't stop cheating on him because we kept our room clean and our grades good.

The journey to lost self-love, a foundation of co-creating our slice of reality, usually begins with the unexpected, the adventures you didn't want. Conflicts, body aches, struggles of all kinds. Crying games turn into sleepless nights, turning into deep self-confessions. Then it continues through lots of reading, journal writing, meditation, therapy, bodywork, womb work, soul work, dream work, inner journeys, and prayers.

To consciously co-create our part of reality, we MUST build a firm mental concept of self-love that opposes the shadowy forms of self-inflicted pain and suffering. Only then will self-love one day become a lived experience. What was once a word, a phrase, an idea, a shy fragile vision... it becomes flesh and becomes the truth and nothing but the truth that rests deep within the animal of our body and leads us to an even better future.

You must love the acorns before you know the oak.

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