Design Your Destiny

📰 ‘The Dark Side of Online Therapy’ 📰 ~ I was pleased when asked my opinions on this topic by The Daily Telegraph UK as it’s something I’ve spoken about before when witnessing people who’ve merely completed a short wellness or yoga course begin putting themselves forward to provide therapy for vulnerable people seeking a professional mental health practitioner. Should you ever require emotional/psychological support/therapy: ALWAYS choose someone who can prove that they’re professionally registered! 🤍 #onlinetherpy #onlinetherapist #professionaltherapist #onlinecounseling #onlinecounselling #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthprofessionals #anxietyrelief #depression #traumarecovery

People question the validity of manifestation, but I say it’s veryyy, very real!!! I call it a deep-seated ambition/desire/human instinct to do better for ourselves & in my case, my driving force was my 2 amazing daughters. I said from day 1 that I’d ensure they had an easier start in life than myself…. And I used that declaration to dig deep on the many occasions I needed to push upwards to keep rising. I envisioned being an international therapist and holding session from my home that would be overlooking beautiful waters……. The first snap is my current home office area whereby I conduct sessions to clients, globally. YOU are enough!!! YOU can do it!!! YOU can overcome!!! YOU can escape toxicity, abuse and social limitations YOU can dig deep for the self-belief & determination needed to design your own destiny & make it a reality….. Just as I have 🥰 #selfbelief #determination #hardworkpaysoff #therapy #therapist #internationalcareer #independentwoman #turnpainintopower #neversettle #believeinyourself #followyourdreams #mentalhealthawareness #womensupportingwomen #femaleempowerment #femaleentrepreneur #womenempowerment #narcissisticabuse #physicalabuse #abusesurvivor #counseling #counselling #womensretreat #heal #healing #healingjourney 👂🏼🤍

My clients are often blamed (scapegoated) for their partners abusive behaviours by the abuser or either of their families or friends (this is common due to@the manipulation involved)….. ❌🚫‼️ Since watching the hit Netflix show 'Maid' this week, whereby a young mum is emotionally and financially controlled/abused by her partner, I have found that an already present passion & like of work of mine has been ignited to the max. That is in helping women to overcome abuse, trauma and hardships. We do not need to be in deprivation to experience abuse or personal hardships, and abuse can be far less blatant than physical harm. Emotional/psychological, financial and other forms of abuse, such as yelling and smashing items within the home are just as common and definitely as damaging (for yourself and children who usually bear witness). My career as a mental health therapist begun in 2014 by providing weekly sessions to women from all walks of life and status who, collectively had experienced some form of abuse and were dealing with the ramifications (trauma). I cannot advocate enough that you must never turn a blind eye to what we hear being referred to these days as 'red flags'. If you feel as though you are being treated unfairly, secluded from friends and family, or 'walking on egg shells', it is because YOU ARE! Trust your intuition! Do not fear judgement or becoming alone! Remind yourself of your worth and remember that there is always someone who cares! Reach out and get that support you need, even if it is by simply confiding in a friend. Love & Strength, LJ @ Design Your Destiny #abuseisabuse #abuseisnotlove #therapist #therapy #femaleempowerment #toxicrelationships #abusiverelationship #endabuse

A therapist’s reaction to a child being blamed/scapegoated for adults shortcomings ❌🚫🛑‼️ We are responsible as care givers, professionals and anything in between to take accountability for the way children behave around us! This is not to say that children are always completely innocent, but there’s usually a reason behind their actions (misbehaviours). It is our job to: * dig a little deeper * take accountability for the way we handle the child in times of conflict * consider all aspects of a child’s home & school life (even, sometimes especially privileged children have emotional hardships) * demonstrate the behaviour we wish them to mirror (love, compassion, empathy, patience, integrity, equality) #childrensmentalhealth #childtherapy #childtherapist #takeaccountability #gaslighting #kidsmentalhealth #childrenswellbeing #consciousparenting #mindfulteachers

(Belated) Happy International Women’s Day!!!! We can be ANYTHING, because we are EVERYTHING!!!! Having worked in more than one industry which promotes female empowerment, personal choice and freedom - my passion of healing & empowering women just keeps on rising and my book is designed to reach the masses in this field. I have worked with close to a thousand females and helped women to escape & heal from abuse, forced marriage, female genital mitigation (fgm) and countless other issues which leads them to realise their purpose and abilities on their journeys. I am currently counselling women from India, Thailand, UK, USA & Vietnam and female empowerment is becoming more prevalent than ever before. To think it was only a century ago that women couldn’t vote, have custody of their children if divorced, buy a house alone & many more misogynistic limitations. We are living in an era whereby you don’t need to tolerate abuse and control - so don’t!!!! And show your daughters that we don’t!!!! Women; please be who you want to be, be safe and please, please believe in yourselves & reach for your goals - even if they don’t squeeze into the 📦 of social or family norms. We are women We are fearless We are brave We are sexy We are creative We are WHO we want to be 💪🏼💃🏻✈️👯‍♀️💄💅🏼👠🥼👑🪖⛑🧳💼🌍 #internationalwomensday #independentwoman#equalityforwomen #femaleempowerment #therapist #womensretreat #WomenSupportingWomen #femaleleaders #strongwomen

🧠🧠🧠🧠 NEUROCEPTION🧠🧠🧠🧠 #neuroception #therapy #therapist

PROTECT YOUR ENERGY!!!! This is something I’ve talked a lot about over the years as it’s grown as a priority in my own life. We CAN & SHOULD be selective with who is entitled to our energy!!!! I often use the ‘energy cup’ metaphor in sessions with clients who are consumed with negativity about others or being over-generous with their time & resources which in turn leaves themselves drained or worse. It is such a 🔑 component of emotional intelligence to manage your mental capacities in order to care for your own wellness. Unfortunately, there are many people who (in the wise words of Tupac), will ‘take kindness as a weakness’. These people will prey on your kind gestures and giving nature and exploit it. These kind of one way relationships, whether they be with a lover, parent, friend or other - will leave you feeling drained, even devastated at times, and overall can prevent you from applying the time abs energy to your energy hopes and dreams. Be mindful of who makes you feel valued, energised, inspired and underwood. Who provides a ‘two way relationship’. Eliminate people who make you feel devalued, drained, who lead you to make poor choices and feeling misunderstood. ☮️ & 🤍 LJ @ Design Your Destiny #chooseyourcompanywisely #protectyourenergy #protectyourpeace #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #therapy #setboundaries #emotionalhealth #emotionalintelligence

People in therapy are often in therapy due to the people in their lives who aren’t willing to take accountability for their behaviours and personal issues and work on themselves! 🥴 #dothework #therapy #therapist #counseling #mentalhealthawareness #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticmother #narcissisticfather #narcissisticparent #heal #abuserecovery 👂🏼🤍🪶

CONSCIOUS PARENTING: being mindful, present & attentive to your children & adolescents. * Actively listen to them - with compassion when needed * Ask open questions about their day in general and their thoughts & feelings * Don’t put yourself on a peristalsis because you’re the adult. Yes they need to show respect, but don’t make them feel silenced and ignored * Spend time with them BREAKING GENERATIONAL CYCLES: recognising the shortcomings or worse from your own parents and consciously using that as the opposite of how to parent your wknd children * If you were only shown love when you achieved something great or conformed to their idealisms, remember how that made you feel & love your children unconditionally * Don’t make your children feel the same fear and heartaches that you felt Be the parent you needed for yourself!!!!!! #consciousparenting #counsellor #momsgroup #parentingtips #parentingadvice #womensgroup #therapy #therapist

A simple New Years resolution tip to protect your mental health from uncertainty anxiety…….. “Ditch the what-if’s!!!!!!” Happy New Year (yeahhh according to the gram) ☮️ & 🤍 LJ @ Design Your Destiny #licensedtherapist #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthtips #anxietycontrol

Ladies, ladies, ladies, are you ready to engage in some deeeeep inner-work & adventure in the stunning Phuket, Thailand??? * 5 nights in a luxury Thai location * Sunrise & Sunset yoga sessions held by an expert Thai yoga teacher * Divine feminine energy circle work including ‘inner child’ and ‘chakra work’ * Confidential talking therapy & goal setting with myself * Daily mindfulness and meditation * Thai massages * Thai cooking class * Walk & talk groups around the sensational Thai landscapes * Island hopping by boat * A trip to the ‘Phuket big Buddha’ overlooking Phuket & whereby you’ll be blessed by Buddhist monks & set intentions to leave Thailand realigned and as the best version of you whilst lighting incense should you wish * You will leave our retreat with a vibe so strong that you are ready to conquer your new destiny and have your new tribe of self-develops sisters to cherish forever Q & A’s are all provided via the link in bio Our retreats are meticulously designed so that you will revel in a perfect blend of relaxation and growth - a balance of wellness, adventure, inner-work and still have time to pause and process and unwind alone or with your most bonded with retreat friends. I am beyond excited to welcome you and work with you in a way which will leave you feeling your highest self 🤍 #retreats #womensretreats #heal #empowerment #healingjourney #femaleempowerment #thairetreat #phuketretreat #selfdevelopment #yogaretreat #mindfulness #womensgroup #designyourdestiny

Ladies, ladies, ladies, are you ready to engage in some deeeeep inner-work & adventure in the stunning Phuket, Thailand??? * 5 nights in a luxury Thai location * Sunrise & Sunset yoga sessions held by an expert Thai yoga teacher * Divine feminine energy circle work including ‘inner child’ and ‘chakra work’ * Confidential talking therapy & goal setting with myself * Daily mindfulness and meditation * Thai massages * Thai cooking class * Walk & talk groups around the sensational Thai landscapes * Island hopping by boat * A trip to the ‘Phuket big Buddha’ overlooking Phuket & whereby you’ll be blessed by Buddhist monks & set intentions to leave Thailand realigned and as the best version of you whilst lighting incense should you wish * You will leave our retreat with a vibe so strong that you are ready to conquer your new destiny and have your new tribe of self-develops sisters to cherish forever Q & A’s are all provided via the link in bio Our retreats are meticulously designed so that you will revel in a perfect blend of relaxation and growth - a balance of wellness, adventure, inner-work and still have time to pause and process and unwind alone or with your most bonded with retreat friends. I am beyond excited to welcome you and work with you in a way which will leave you feeling your highest self 🤍 #retreats #womensretreats #heal #empowerment #healingjourney #femaleempowerment #thairetreat #phuketretreat #selfdevelopment #yogaretreat #mindfulness #womensgroup #designyourdestiny

When I speak on radio, podcast & other platforms to inspire people to do more, aim for better than the life they have lived and the hand they were dealt; I say it with a deep rooted passion and understanding. I am not a person who you could say: “oh it’s easy for her to say that” about!!! I have had NOTHING handed to me! I have had NO family or spouse support my entire adult life, even when raising 2 daughters alone! I had no education until I went out & fought for one throughout my late twenties & thirties whilst juggling single-motherhood! I mean it from the bottom of my heart when I say you can be whatever you want to be: AGAINST ALL ODDS. It might take you longer than others to get there, it might feel impossible at times, but where there’s a will, there’s a way - and when you have designed your own destiny & living it - it will feel a million times better than if it had been handed to you. I promise! Do it! Chase your dreams! Set your goals & achieve them! Self-belief & determination are a force to be reckoned with 😉 Peace & Love LJ @ Design Your Destiny #designyourdestiny #goaldigger #youcanbeanything #chasedreams #believeinyourself #hardworkpaysoffs #selfbelief #determination #againstallodds #breakcycles #achieveyourgoals #leavetoxicpeople #livethelifeyouwant #therapist #author #speaker #inspirationalwomen #inspirationalwords #beinspired #strongwomen #independentwoman 💪🏼🤍

📻 My interview on Transformation Talk Radio, America was aired this weekend 📻 The utterly fabulous and world renowned female leader, Kornelia Stephanie invited me to her podcast and radio show to share my personal and professional journey as inspiration to others within the ‘Stories that inspire hope’ platform of the station. It is truly wonderful to be invited on such platforms to use my voice to inspire other women who may need that injection of empowerment to fulfil their goals.

💚How can talking with a Counsellor support you? 💚 COUNSELLING CAN: 👂🏼Help you to cope with & overcome mental health difficulties, such as: anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation, self-harm, PTSD, OCD, and general trauma. 🤍provides a qualified professional to metaphorically ‘walk with you’ as you process and heal from grief/bereavement & any type of loss. 🧠helps you to recognise and eradicate those self-sabotaging thoughts, or limitations which a lover, parent or other have placed on you which prevent you from achieving your ambitions. 👶🏼help you to explore the life experiences which have contributed to who you are today. The first 8 years of life are the most influential in terms of what you inherit as your blueprint - unpacking childhood to process and heal from trauma can create enormous empowerment. 💪🏼increase confidence ❌decrease your burdens ☮️ implement lasting inner-peace Are you are ready to embark on your journey of deep healing & empowerment? If you feel you need to make sense of your challenges so that you can proceed to living your preferred destiny: you can click the link in bio to book your initial 45 minute assessment. This remains at no cost for the month of November. All contact is welcomed with a nonjudgmental warmth & compassion. Love & Strength, LJ @ Design Your Destiny 👂🏼🤍🪶 #counselling #counsellorsofinstagram #therapy #therapists #healing #healfromtrauma #traumatherapy #confidencebuilding #processinggrief #ptsdrecovery #ocdrecovery #bereavmentcounselling #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthprofessional #personalgrowth #anxietyrelief #depressionhelp #therapistlife #designyourdestiny 👂🏼🤍🪶

Does a fresh start sound relieving to you? Are you feeling deflated, unmotivated, highly-emotional? If the pandemic mixed with other life stressors are taking their toll on you, and creating anxiety & low mood, 1:1 talking therapy may be the 🔑 to ridding yourself of the negative emotions that are weighing you down. By allowing a professional, licensed Therapist to ‘hold space’ for you while you pause and process your problems, can support significant personal growth which allows for inner-peace & achievements. Click the link in bio to book your initial consultation for free for the month of November. Design Your Destiny is ready to welcome you with an empathetic and nonjudgmental warmth 👂🏼🤍 #counselling #counsellorsofinstagram #counseling #counselorsofinstagram #therapy #therapistsofinstagram #personcentredcounselling #anxietysupport #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthprofessional #depression #trauma #traumarecovery #healfromwithin #makepositivechanges #designyourdestiny 👂🏼🤍

Even the most head strong of people can reach burnout and/or mental health complications when overlooking self-care! Being overworked, under-rested, juggling a multitude of life stressors, and trying to navigate your way through a pandemic while feeling you still need to achieve…. It’s heavy uh? What does self-care mean to you??? Implementing the following is a great start to taking care of your wellness: * making time to spend with the friends who you feel most alive and at ease around 💞 * starting your day with good food and stretching 🫐 * time out to read or listen to music in a lovely bubble bath 🛀 *start practicing mindfulness/meditation 🧘🏻‍♀️ If these simplistic steps aren’t working for you, maybe offloading to a professional Therapist is your next requirement 🛋 Allowing a licensed Therapist to ‘hold space’ for you as you ponder your reality and what you need to do to create a preferred destiny can create enormous personal growth as you realign your centre and become more focused than ever before. You can access our booking page via the link in bio. I am ready to greet you with a nonjudgmental warmth should you wish to engage in a free consultation. This giveaway offer lasts until the end of November. LJ @ Design Your Destiny 👂🏼🤍 #counselling #counsellorsofinstagram #burnout #careerburnout #therapy #selfcare #takecareofyourself #prioritiseyourself #healing #innerwork #taketimeforyourself #counselor #counseling #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsupport

5 signs your parent is Narcissistically abusing you

5 signs that your parent is Narcissistically abusing you: 1. EMOTIONAL/PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE: your parent(s) purposefully withholds love and makes you feel unlovable. 2. VERBAL ABUSE: they insult you and make hurtful comments on your physical appearance (often weight). 3. COMPETE: your parent(s) does not support and encourage you to be the best version of yourself. He/She attempts to make you believe you are incapable as they do not want you to outshine them. Their false sense of grandiose pushes them to compete with you and even imitate you. 4. SIBLING RIVALRY: normal parents would be heartbroken should their children become estranged. Narcissistic patents thrive off this so that they can be at the centre of the world of their ‘golden child’. Every narcissistic parent has a golden child and a scapegoated child. They purposefully make the scapegoated child aware that they are less loved and valued. 5. GASLIGHT: classic trait of any narcissistic. Your parent(s) will hurt you by any or all forms of abuse, but NEVER apologise or take accountability. They will even ‘play the victim’ and lie to manipulate others and pin the blame on you. Seek support ASAP and begin talking through what you have or continue to endure in your dysfunctional family system. Make sense of their manipulation and find peace that it wasn’t your fault! Narcissistic abuse is one of the most difficult to cope with for various reasons, one being that it goes un-noticed to those around you which makes you feel further isolated. Love & Strength LJ @ Design Your Destiny 👂🏼🤍

5 signs that your lover is Narcissistically abusing you: 1. Self-focus: narcissistic abusers are self-centred and will manipulate you for their gains, no matter how ruthlessly they need to trample on you to do so. 2. Controlling behaviours: dominate your finances and socially exclude you from your fiends &/or family by creating unrest for you. This is purposefully done so their abuse is easier to carry out without the strong and caring members of your support network there to highlight the abuse and advise/facilitate you to escape it. 3. Gaslight you: deny all knowledge and understanding of their behaviours towards you and refuse accountability. This can make you question yourself even though you know the abuse occurred. In lengthier reigns of abuse, this can severely dysfunction your mental health which in turn makes their abuse even easier to harm you with. 4. Verbally abuse you: name calling, put-downs, make your feel ‘useless’ and unattractive. 5. A history of any or all of the above with a previous lover - if so: “GET OUT NOW”!!! Narcissists are usually extremely charming and which makes the abuse difficult to deal with as your abuser is kind abs helpful to others. People laugh at him/her and see the great qualities. This can make you feel further isolated and self-doubting. Narcissistic abusers seldom heal their own insecurities and traumas that make them act in such a way, therefore the promises they make and the changes they implement are short lived! They do not see anything on ring in their behaviours and may only seek treatment when absolutely required to do so. Falling in love with a narcissist is easy to do, but healing from them is not! Seek support ASAP and begin talking through what happened in your toxic relationship. Make sense of their manipulation and find peace that it wasn’t your fault! Love & Strength LJ @ Design Your Destiny 👂🏼🤍 #counselling #counsellors #healfromabuse #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissis