03/11/2025
For those who suffered abusive or narcissistic behaviour,all one truly wants is Love, Kindness and Acceptance; and it isn't too much to ask for!
And you deserve that, just not with him
He is broken.
He can't help it
He doesn't do love
He can only take hostages
That's his nature
But you were never the problem
You weren't in the wrong place at the wrong time
You are not the problem or the cause
None of this is your fault
It's like buying a faulty car, you can love your car to bits, but it was created on a Monday or a Friday,it has faults and intricate issues that can never be fixed. You can spend you life trying to fix it and love it, and it should have been scrapped long ago
This is any attempt at a healthy loving relationship with a narcissist.
He is broken and can't be fixed
It's time to let him go completely
He is more happy being broken than if you were to fix him
Now it's all about you
Finding your old independent self
Finding your true soul mate
Breaking free of all of him
Letting go and letting God
You can do this, its simple but its not not easy
Understand,the person you are today, no longer under his power, is not the same person who was his hostage.
You are two completely different aspects of the same person
There is the you of today, looking back, at the you of all those yesterdays
Grab two pieces of paper
On the first page write an autobiography of you today, of who you are today, who is in your life today(without him)
all your interests and hobbies, your skills and abilities, your hopes, dreams and goals, and attach a picture of you today to this biography
on the other page write an autobiography of the young woman who fell for his charm, who committed her life to this lie
On this page write out all of her life
The narcissist
Other people in her life
The broken lies and dreams
The broken hopes and goals
The damage to her soul and self belief
Her undermined self belief, self worth
The guilt and blame put on her
And the rest of that nighttime that defines who she was.
And add a picture of her on her wedding day, or at the beginning of the relationship when she had hope and belief that he was Mr Right
See that these are two completely separate people
See that, you are not that person,
See that you are in the position to feel for your younger self, that you carry the memory of what she went through and Sympathy Pains for her, as a show of support and solidarity for her
But, know it didn't happen to the person you are today
It's time to give all of that baggage back to her
She wants you to move on, to be independent and strong, and to find true love
But, for this to happen you have got to give her back all her demons, all that baggage, it's hers to carry not yours.
There is a way to achieve this
It's a 3 hour healing practice
Only you can do this
No one can fix or save you
It's an inside job
Do this, and he will lose all power over you.
And you will become the strong independent woman you were created to be.
