07/12/2020
The following may be a hard pill to swallow!
Men are fun to be loved by, and they get pleasure from it, and this seals their relationship. She may feel “If she enjoys his love, she can make him feel like a man, by her treasuring and delighting in his love, seeing he enjoy the experience of loving her, and the pleasure of being loved by her, and his love treasured and delighted by her, sexually arousing him by it, and they will have a good relationship”. And the false covenants, “He desires making her experience excitement from the unique way he loves. If she receives the excitement he gives her from the unique way he loves, from him. He will feel successful and accomplished, and feel needed and wanted, therefore they will always be together”. Simply, “He desires making her experience excitement from the unique way he loves. If she receives that from him, they will always be together”.“He desires making her experience fun and excitement from sexual intimacy. If she receives the fun and excitement he gives her from sexual intimacy, from him. He will feel successful and accomplished, and feel needed and wanted, therefore they will always be together”. Simply, “He is desires making her experience excitement (sexual excitement). If she receives that from him, they will always be together”. Or, “He is desires making her experience fun and excitement from sexual intimacy. If she receives that from him, they will always be together”. This is in reply to her craving for a false covenant. “She craves experiencing excitement (sexual excitement). If he gives her that, from him, they will always be together”. Or, “She craves experiencing excitement from the unique way he loves. If he gives her that, from him, they will always be together”. Or, “She craves experiencing fun and excitement from sexual intimacy. If he gives her that, from him, they will always be together”. Knowing that his stability and strength is fun and exciting to experience. Receiving it invigorates her. And understanding it is him loving her. It reassures her. She wants him to love her with his stability and strength. She craves him serving her with exciting strength.
Women are pleasurable to be loved by, and they get excitement from it. He may feel “If he enjoys her love, he can make her feel like a woman, by him treasuring and delighting in her love, seeing she enjoy the experience of loving him, and the excitement of being loved by him, and her love treasured and delighted by him, sexually arousing her by it, and they will have a good relationship”. And the false covenants, “She craves making him experience pleasure from the unique way she loves. If he receives the pleasure she gives him from the unique way she loves, from her. She will feel successful and accomplished, and feel needed and wanted, therefore they will always be together”. Simply, “She craves making him experience pleasure from the unique way she loves. If he receives that from her, they will always be together”.“She craves making him experience comfort and pleasure from sexual intimacy. If he receives the comfort and pleasure she gives him from sexual intimacy, from her. She will feel successful and accomplished, and feel needed and wanted, therefore they will always be together”. Simply, “She craves making him experience pleasure (sexual pleasure). If he receives that from her, they will always be together”. Or, “She craves making him experience comfort and pleasure from sexual intimacy. If he receives that from her, they will always be together”. This is in reply to him desiring a false covenant. “He desires experiencing pleasure (sexual pleasure). If she gives him that, from her, they will always be together”. Or, “He desires experiencing pleasure from the unique way she loves. If she gives him that, from her, they will always be together”. Or, “He desires experiencing comfort and pleasure from sexual intimacy. If she gives him that, that from her, they will always be together”. Knowing that her beauty and delightfulness is comforting and pleasurable to experience. Receiving it sustains him. And understanding it is her loving him. It supports him. He wants her to love him with her beauty and delightfulness. He desires her serving him with pleasurable delightfulness.
They seek control because of their insecurities. Both him and her may fall for false relationships and their respective false covenants. Coming from fear and seeking success, he wants a covenant where she craves his love, therefore they will always be together, and she loves him/ serves him, therefore they will always be together. She may want a covenant where he desires her love, therefore they will always be together’, and he loves her/ serves her, therefore they will always be together.
Having a friendship closer then a brother, or a friendship closer than a sister, and you can trust her or him to be a family, is a more fulfilling and rewarding relationship. And an expression of grace, so you can be a friend closer then a brother or sister and be a family, is a true covenant, one can rest in. There is safety, freedom, and charity in friendship. Friendship enjoys someone’s love, without any condition, or bo***ge applied, or demands of control and subjection. Friendship is always proud of, and treasures, someones capacity to love, with out demand, or regret, or making one a 'emotional hostage' to each other, and such physical and emotional slavery.
