Today's Marriage

30/07/2024

How to navigate the different stages of your relationship or marriage?
The Honeymoon Stage
At the beginning of a relationship, everything feels effortless and magical.
You and your partner are infatuated with each other, spending as much time together as possible and dreaming about a future together.
This stage is filled with joy and excitement, and it seems like you’ve found your perfect match.
The Reality Check Stage
As time passes, the initial excitement starts to wear off.
You begin to see your partner’s flaws and imperfections.
The intense feelings of love might fade, and everyday life sets in.
This is when you start to question your relationship and notice more conflicts and disagreements.
It’s a time of testing whether your bond can withstand reality.
The Challenge Stage
This stage is marked by significant challenges and conflicts.
Small issues can lead to big fights, and insecurities may rise to the surface.
Intimacy might wane, and the relationship can feel strained.
This stage tests your commitment and maturity.
It’s a make-or-break period where many relationships either strengthen or fall apart.
The Commitment Stage
If you make it through the challenges, you reach a stage of deeper commitment.
Here, you accept each other’s flaws and differences, understanding that you are two unique individuals.
You prioritize the relationship over temporary emotions and work together to maintain your bond.
This stage is about choosing to stay together and grow as a couple, despite the ups and downs.
Many relationships fail because couples marry during the honeymoon stage without experiencing the reality and challenges of being together.
Recognizing and navigating these stages can help build strong, lasting relationships and marriages.

30/07/2024

SECRET ABOUT WOMEN
1. When a woman is angry, she doesn't mean over half of what she says. If possible always hug her to calm her down.
2. The most difficult time for a woman is when she is away from the man she truly loves. She can get distressed.
3. It takes time for a woman to trust a man, its hard to change her mind when she does, but if you mess-up, you might just forget it.
4. A woman is such a school you will never graduate from.
5. Your wedding certificate with her is not a " Driving license", its just a "Learners permit". Continue wooing her.
6. She can be very bitter now, and a very sweet angel later on, it all lies in your approach. Yes treat her right always.
7. A woman hardly forget things, she remembers hurts more, avoid making her hurt. Avoid negative words and affirm her always.
8. A woman can be highly secretive. Most times when they prove hard to men, they go to their closet and cry to friends. Make your woman your best friend.
9. All women Love to be begged. Men often miss out on this. Yes please handle them like babies sometime its all they want.
10. All women have a unique character like salt, their presence might not be noticed but their absence makes all things tasteless.
11. If she loves you she can do everything you ask of her as far as it makes you happy, so never force her to love you.
12. If you don't take care of her, she will find someone who will. They are always there only that she chose you.
13. If a woman truly loves you, even to ask money from you she will be shy, but as a gentleman don't wait to be asked and most especially if she loves you she can never leave you to spend unnecessarily. That's what makes them special
If you have a good woman in your life, don't take her for granted. They are expensive jewelry. Don't hurt them cos there are many out there that wish to have someone like her
In every man success there must be a good honest Woman behind

18/02/2024

Marriage secrets

Stay Flexible

Roll with the punches. As this past year has shown, you have to keep reinventing your relationship to withstand what has been thrown at you. Never consider yourself too old to switch up ‘roles’ within the marriage—if you change things up, you’ll have a fresh window into your partner’s life.
Always listen to what’s important to your spouse and if you disagree, always try to compromise.”

16/02/2024

The Beauty of Sacrificial Love in MARRIAGE

When it comes to marriage, you must have God’s love in your heart in order to truly love your spouse. When you do, you’ll always have his/her best interest in mind and desire to serve and support them. You’ll focus more on what you can do for your spouse than striving to make sure you get your way all the time.

Sacrifice is not always fun or easy, but when it’s motivated by godly love, it always brings greater peace and joy to your soul. It is a powerful investment in your marriage that will reap great rewards because God will work in both of your lives in amazing ways as you trust and obey Him.

I’m so thankful God helped me understand the benefits of godly submission and sacrifice in my marriage. Dave and I have been married for more than 50 years now, and our life together is the best it’s ever been.

I want to encourage you to give your heart and your marriage to God completely. Trust Him to give you the grace to love your spouse as He loves you. The blessings that will come as you diligently submit and sacrifice as God leads you to do so will far outweigh the growing pains you experience in the process!

18/01/2024

Genesis 2:18
[18]Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.

That time is there and will

17/01/2024

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

[9]Two are better than one, because they have a good [more satisfying] reward for their labor;

[10]For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!

04/10/2023

10/08/2023

HOME TRAINING

Now that your children are on holiday, create time to teach them well.

Teach them how to greet
Teach them how to cook
Teach them how to study scripture
Teach them how to pray

Let your male child learn business early, making money and to know that he should be able to cook, wash dish, clean house by himself and train your female child to be able to learn how to make money. Be dependent on God and her business.

It is also the time to read their notes
Listen to them
Tell them stories
Take them out on picnic
Take them to your village
Play games with them
Correct their English
Teach them your language

Your children are your future
Train them the way you want your future to be.

10/08/2023

MARRIAGE IS GIVE AND TAKE📢

1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband
2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband
3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances
4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meeting
5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend
6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood
7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband
8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him
9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly
10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time
11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids
12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments
13. When a woman is not vulnerable, she is loved by her husband
14. When a woman does not keep secrets from her husband, her husband tells her all of his every moves
15. When a woman is prayerful, she becomes a powerful support system to her husband
16. When a woman is God fearing, she sets her home on the principles of God the Almighty
17. When a woman is selfless, her husband relies completely on her
18. When a woman is creative, she and the husband can figure out the future together
Unfortunately when you are not any of these, it becomes so hard for you to enjoy marriage.
Seek God's help to become any of the above, you can't do it on your own.

10/08/2023

ADVICE TO THOSE FALLING IN LOVE:
1. When you fall in love make sure it's with somebody who treats you exactly how you deserve to be treated.
2. Love somebody who wants to know everything about you,from your favorite color to your childhood memories how you managed to survive all those years.
3. Love somebody who can make you laugh,who kisses your forehead and who notices all your flaws but chooses to see past them.
4. Love somebody who listens to whatever is on your mind,who protects you and always reminds you how blessed they are to have found you.
5. Love somebody who you can't stay mad at for more than an hour because you miss speaking to them,who knows every freckle on your face, every stretch mark on your thighs, every scar and every tear.
6. Love somebody who you can plan your future with,and most importantly love somebody who is God fearing.
7. And lastly don't forget to make them feel loved in return.

04/08/2023

HOW MONEY AFFECTS YOUR SEXLIFE

1. Couples that are struggling financially tend to have pathetic s*x lives. Their marriage tends to have arguments about the lack of money and the misuse of money. It is difficult to desire or even enjoy s*x yet you don't even know where food for the children or rent money is coming from. In case you two are struggling financially, understand when your spouse says they are not in the mood for s*x. Channel that energy towards finding real financial solutions

2. Some couples however have alot of s*x when facing financial problems because the or***ms give them relief, after the relief, they get up and look for solutions

3. Most men who are struggling financially tend to be very insecure and they think their women will leave them and go sleep with a rich man. This insecurity makes them attack their wives, call them pr******te for no reason and dictate where the wife goes and does

4. Women struggle to make love to a husband who is not putting effort in providing financially and is just lazy. A hard working husband turns on a woman

5. Men struggle to make love to a wife who is ungrateful about his financial effort and who takes advantage of him financially

6. Alot of people because of their financial woes turn to po*******hy and ma********on as an escape. Sadly this addiction gives no lasting solutions and often wastes time

7. Some, because of their financial problems turn to pr******tes and alcohol. They will find money to pay a pr******te or buy alcohol yet rent is not being paid, kids have no school fees and no food on the table. This is wasteful and will lead you to feeling useless

8. Some people just to get ahead in life financially give their bodies for s*xual favours. Anyone who has s*x with you to give you success ends up owning you. It is a miserable kind of success

9. The wealthier some people get, the more s*xually irresponsible they become. They cheat on their spouses, play multiple people, book hotel rooms for affairs then come to regret when they lose the things that money can't buy like family, character, honour and peace of mind

10. Someone who has money and still remains s*xually faithful to you truly loves you

11. When you have money, opportunistic people will try to bait you with s*x. They will seduce you and flirt with you hoping to get a slice of your money. Don't fall for the trap

12. There are lots of people who want to enjoy s*x but not the financial responsibility that comes with
a baby after the consequences of s*x. This is why we have so many dead beat fathers and mothers. Be careful with your p***s and va**na if you are not financially ready

13. Financial success is a huge confidence booster and confidence is s*xy

14. You don't have to invest in expensive lingerie to look appealing to your spouse. Be visually inviting within your budget

15. Alot of women who depend on their husbands for every coin tend to be shy s*xually because they feel they are at the mercy of their husbands and just play along. Alot of them struggle with low self-esteem and identity. Lady, no matter how wealthy and nice your husband is, find something for you to earn from, it will make you feel good about yourself

04/08/2023

*HOW TO ENCOURAGE YOUR WIFE TO HAVE YOUR BACK*

1. Have her back too. You are not the only one who needs help, she does too

2. Treat her right. Don't expect her to be there for yet you repeatedly hurt her

3. Tell her your plans. Involve her. She won't force her way into your business

4. Win with her. Make her a part of your success. She wants to play her part and contribute to progress too

5. Lose with her. Let her be there for you in your losses as you both look for solutions

6. Be faithful to her. No woman invests her all when she knows her place is not secure and you are entertaining another woman. Faithfulness motivates a woman to stand with you through thick and thin

7. Pray with her. Tell her your prayer requests. Hold hands with her and pray

8. Tell her your struggles, don't pretend to be all strong or you have it all together. Be real. Be vulnerable. Open up. She can't read your mind

9. Appreciate her when she is there for you. Don't make her feel that you take her for granted

10. Make her proud in public, and she will love to cover you and walk with you in private

11. Understand when she gets tired. She is not a robot. As she is there for you, she can get overwhelmed. She is not your slave but your life companion. Give her a break sometimes and tell her "It's OK". Pamper her. Give her time to rejuvenate

12. Evaluate progress with her. Take stock of how far you two have come and it will remind you how blessed you are to have a woman who loves you in your imperfections on your way to greater greatness