Únashay

08/19/2025

This Sunday, August 24th •⁠ 3 to 5pm⎯
at French Funeral Home in Albuquerque, NM
with Aaron Bumgarner

✼ We meet again ✼

𝘈𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦.

Please RSVP at inquiries@unashayhome.com 🐉

08/14/2025

New Mexico neighbors⎯ join us this Saturday for a 𝑁𝑂𝑅𝐼𝐴 𝐶𝐴𝐹𝐸 in Chimayo, NM with friend Steven Sprung to facilitate.

⎯ Sat, August 16th 5pm to 7pm
at SomeSecludedSpot.com
7 Santa Cruz Lake Road
Chimayo, New Mexico

"𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘭 𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘢𝘯 𝘰𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘭𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘧 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘶𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘱𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘨𝘭𝘰𝘣𝘢𝘭 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘺, 𝘸𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘭𝘰𝘸. 𝘐𝘯 𝘢𝘥𝘥𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘦, 𝘸𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘸𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘢𝘣𝘺𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘩 𝘰𝘳 𝘷𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘨𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘧 𝘨𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘯." ⎯ Steven Sprung

Please RSVP at inquiries@unashayhome.com and help us invite who might benefit! 🌀 All are welcome.

More on Steven⎯
"Steven Sprung is a tai chi instructor, experiential astrologer and workshop facilitator. He and his partner Victor also lead personal, guided retreats at their home on sacred land at the foot of the Sangre de Cristo Mountains in northern New Mexico."

08/09/2025

Join us this October + November with our brother Bayo Akomolafe, Lidia Yuknavitch, Janice Lee, Ché-vanni Beon Davids, and more brilliant humans to court us in this practice of becoming sanktuaree.

This is for the artists of repair, edge walkers, and refuge makers.

If you long for sanctuary - not as escape, but presence - come.

Visit here, to learn + register: https://unashayhome.com/becoming-sanktuaree

In these resolutely humanitarian times of flame and fury, you would think that a posthumanist philosopher such as myself would be out of work: sitting in an armchair somewhere and being of no real use.

On the contrary, I've never had to work harder in my life. I don't think it's because I am 'special'; I think there is a wordless, atmospheric recognition that our experiences as humans gestating within these collapsing walls need a bigger story;

that within these charged electro-circuitries of artificial algorithms;
beside the blasts of a missile that has hit its target;

in front of the cold screens and immediately accessible news stories depicting images of the explosion alongside what Kim Kardashian wore to the Oscars;

at the user-friendly end of a stern CAPTCHA (short for ‘Completely Automated Public Turing test to tell Computers and Humans Apart’) wanting to know if you are a bot or a human;

and, behind face masks that ward off the invisible spirits released by the cracks in the thawing Anthropocene,

the ‘human’ is, ironically, not capably held within the slippery grip of liberal humanism.

In other words, to properly tell the story of the human, one must not focus so much on the ‘thing’ itself. One must turn to the web of relations, to sticky logics, weathering patterns, the migrancy of fungal entities, the pheromone trails of foraging ants, and the underground secretions of ancestors. One must think in a posthumanist way to generously hold the sprawl and prestige of our human weight.

Humanitarian imaginaries urge us to fix the world as urgently as we can. And I cannot think of a more prestigious thing to do in times of genocidal loss than to do everything we can to stop suffering. But what becomes of us when we notice that the world doesn’t stop simply because we insist that it does? What do we do when doing no longer emanates from us but seems to precede us, to enlist us in a firmament not entirely of our own making? What happens just before the primal scream of discontent is channeled to a QR code, when the ache and groan of things kick against the forms we’ve adopted, and when we realize in one fell swoop that just because we are tirelessly against something doesn’t mean we are excused from its operational logic?

These questions are troubling – but startling emancipatory in their potential to open out other spaces of power, if we stayed with them in some way.

If there is no more water to quench the fires on the mountain, perhaps it is time for the stranger alchemy of becoming water.

***

In support of the upcoming refuge-making space of ‘Becoming Sanktuaree’, hosted by partners únashay and ten (The Emergence Network), I invite you to join us at the fireplace of making sanctuary together.

Becoming Sanktuaree is an intimate and wondrous experiential practice space composed of four online sessions and a 3-day in-person gathering. We will meet together to explore, co-create, inhabit, and listen into the lived experience of making and being sanctuary.

In a time when loneliness has become an epidemic, and unmet grief resides below and between much of the world's preventable disconnection, genocidal-wars, and suffering, we seek to inhabit sanctuary in its myriad forms. Perhaps by allowing ourselves to be taken by something greater than us, we might become the sanctuaries we so long for in these times.

Throughout Becoming Sanktuaree, participants are invited into practice and dialogue, while cultivating deeper capacities to listen, be present with what is, build systems of care, and play with what pulses below, between, and around our bodies.

This delicate, precious, and powerful journey, taking place from October 2nd to November 16th, is an invitation into collective presence with the world as it is.

Visit our website: https://unashayhome.com/becoming-sanktuaree

Bayo Akomolafe

08/09/2025

⚭ ○ Night singing from the babies ⚭ ○

08/07/2025

Join us for another 𝑁𝑂𝑅𝐼𝐴 𝐶𝐴𝐹𝐸, this time in Chimayo, NM with gentle friend Steven Sprung to facilitate.

⎯ Sat, Agust 16th 5pm to 7pm
at SomeSecludedSpot.com
7 Santa Cruz Lake Road
Chimayo, New Mexico

"𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘭 𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘢𝘯 𝘰𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘭𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘧 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘶𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘱𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘨𝘭𝘰𝘣𝘢𝘭 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘺, 𝘸𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘭𝘰𝘸. 𝘐𝘯 𝘢𝘥𝘥𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘦, 𝘸𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘸𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘢𝘣𝘺𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘩 𝘰𝘳 𝘷𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘨𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘧 𝘨𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘯." ⎯ Steven Sprung

Please RSVP at inquiries@unashayhome.com and invite whoever might benefit! All are welcome.

More on Steven⎯
"Steven Sprung is a tai chi instructor, experiential astrologer and workshop facilitator. He and his partner Victor also lead personal, guided retreats at their home on sacred land at the foot of the Sangre de Cristo Mountains in northern New Mexico.

Since the early 1990s, Steven has been practicing meditation and tai chi. His interest in astrology emerged from his studies in esoteric philosophy and evolved into a more experiential, imaginal and relational approach which grew out of his apprenticeship with Jason Holley.

With these offerings, Steven attempts to help people evoke a more peaceful feeling within themselves. He also has a passion for photography as a relational art, documenting life's ordinary moments through artful, cinematic photographs which capture people, places and events in an authentic and beautiful way."

08/05/2025

What if the sanctuaries we seek…
are not places we find,
but presences we become — together?

If this question stirs in you, too, consider joining us for 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗦𝗮𝗻𝗸𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗲. A Fall immersion for those drawn to dwell inside the ache and the beauty of the world 𝘢𝘴 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴, and to co-create systems of care that ripple outward.

This is a tender, experimental journey of listening and becoming.

𖦦 Four live online sessions
𖦦 A (potent + optional) 3-day in-person gathering at Dar al Islam in Abiquiu, New Mexico
𖦦 October 2 – November 16, 2025

Hosted by + , with guest-hosts from around the globe.

𝗥𝗲𝗴𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻 ~

Learn + register at link in bio or unashayhome.com/becoming-sanktuaree

07/15/2025

More of the good spells, from Andrea ⚭ How.. thousands upon thousands are shattered now, without ever having met them. How.. the collective chest can break open like this and feel the entangled expanse of connection running through our veins, across timelines, bodies, the ache,.. and into sea. This is love.

07/14/2025

"May our falling be the
most beautiful climb
in the good light
and in the lightning strike."
⎯ Andrea Gibson

Oh Andrea. You were lightning 𐌔 💔
Thank you, thank you, for reminding us that it's in the breaking open that we reach the greatest summit.

07/01/2025

•⁠ Dear All,

Another invitation for you, that is a culmination of many longings. 𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘶𝘴, for....

𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗦𝗮𝗻𝗸𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗲⎯ an experiential practice space for participants and hosts alike to explore the lived experience of sanctuary. It will invite us to notice where we 𝘢𝘭𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 in such daily encounter, and beckon us to live more deeply into such attention. 'Guest-hosts' from around the globe will gather online and/ or in-person to share their practices, longings, stories, creations and more; and together, we will move into this emergent field.

𝘘𝘶𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘸𝘦 𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘤𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦⎯
How might we move with pain as portal, rather than build empires over it? What if we let ourselves fall into a different intimacy, and began to build public cultures of mourning and celebration, 𝘪𝘯𝘩𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯𝘩𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦? Perhaps by allowing ourselves to be taken by something greater than us, we might become the sanctuaries we so long for in these times?

๛ We will begin in early October for several online sessions, and end at the stunning Dar Al Islam adobe mosque & madrasa complex for a 2 & 1/2 day in-person residency, November 13 to 16th. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘫𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘯-𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘺.

Online sessions:
October 2nd (12pm - 3pm MDT)
October 16th (5pm - 8pm MDT)
October 30th (12pm - 3pm MDT)
November 13th (5pm - 8pm MST) / hybrid session
*More dates likely to be added

In-Person residency:
November 13 - 16th at Dar Al Islam in Abiquiu, New Mexico
•⁠ With a celebration and fundraiser for únashay (a physical grief sanctuary) Sat, Nov 15.

LEARN MORE + REGISTER at link in bio.

Hosted by and

06/03/2025

✣ 𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘚𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 (6/7), 𝘸𝘦 𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦!

Join us, for a post-pride gift to q***r kin and loving community, to gather, listen, mourn, eat, and 𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘴 𝘰𝘶𝘵!

5 to 7p⎯ 𝗻𝗼𝗿𝗶𝗮 𝗰𝗮𝗳é 𝗼𝗻 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝗲𝗿 𝗴𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗳, w/ +
7p⎯ 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗹𝘂𝗰𝗸, and
8 to 10p⎯ 𝗚𝗥𝗜𝗘𝗙 𝗣𝗥𝗢𝗠 🪩

at
229 Saavedra Rd. SW

Guests are welcome to come for any or All parts of the evening!

✣ norias are an attempt to bring collective presence to the grieving. they are reverent, brave holding grounds for All to share what hurts.

✣ GRIEF PROM is a performance installation collectively held by NM based artists + curated by breana. an altar to q***r brokenheartedness.

All is free, and welcoming of donations for 's land-based and translocal community grief work.

** Please rsvp for the noria at inquiries@unashayhome.com , & we'll send info on the entire evening.

***

Please arrive 10 to 15 mins early to park and orient to the space. 

Park along the Eastside gate and enter through the gate. If you have accessibility needs, please write + ask us. 🙏

This event will be located outdoors on an active farm with crops and farm animals. The farm is mostly flat with paths that are primarily covered in wood chips with some dirt areas. There will be access to a compost toilet on site.
There will be some logs and other seating available. 

WHAT TO BRING: 

Food and/or drinks for the potluck?? (but no one turned away, if unable!) 

Chairs and/or blankets. There is plenty of space to picnic and hang.

We'll also have N95 masks available, if guests need.

06/01/2025

𓁙

This October and November, únashay and ten (the emergence network) will host a deeply intimate experiential practice space including four online sessions and a 3-day in-person gathering in Northern New Mexico to explore, co-create, inhabit and listen into the lived experiences of making and being sanctuary. Participants are welcome to join just for online sessions or for both the virtual and in-person elements of this journey.

Online Sessions: October 2nd, 16th and 30th and November 13th

In-Person Gathering: Thursday, November 13th - Sunday, November 16th at Dar Al Islam in Abiquiu, NM

The hosts and a diverse array of grief-workers, death doulas, ceremonialists and other practitioners from around the world will offer experiential community-held space(s) of inquiry, presence, encounter and creation. We invite participants into practice and dialogue, cultivating the capacity to deeply listen, be present with what is, to build relationship, and play with what pulses below and between our bodies.

Who is this offering for? Grief-walkers, care-givers, artists, people concerned about the ways we are living into these strange end-times, spiritual seekers, disillusioned activists, those wanting to connect despite wounds around connection, people with a local community (human or non-human) around the world in which they can put into practice what is learned and co-created in this space, people feeling pain and willing to turn towards it, parents, educators, therapists, body-centered practitioners. Those who feel isolated and are grieving in these times.

Registration / application opens June 19th. Fill out the interest form to receive the full invitation later this month: https://forms.gle/dkyP3jGqRjN1UjMq7 .

05/05/2025

Beauty from
..

when touching it, keeps the wound from becoming weapon,
- transmogrifying it into a supple, quiet opening.

how do we get there? how can we become there?