12/15/2025
No, your young child is not being rude! She’s learning what feels safe and comfortable to her and how to set boundaries for herself. And I’m not offended!
Sometimes children who are shyer or slower to warm up are labeled insecure or a problem and parents are told to “make” them talk to people. (How do you *make* someone else speak!??) But these children are actually exercising confidence in themselves and trusting their own experience. So let’s foster that sense of self and trust in oneself, whether it looks/sounds like a child saying, “You stay over there!” or hiding behind your legs. With time and no pressure, they’ll be ready to interact in their own time!
And just a note, this child was totally comfortable by the end of playgroup and gave me a high five. She just needed some time and space.
(This happened last week, but it took me a while to edit the 14 videos I took into one (mostly) coherent reel. 🤷🏼♀️)