Pam's Health & Healing

07/29/2024

I miss my mom, both of them.

Two Mothers Remembered

I had two mothers – two mothers I claim, two different people, yet with the same name.
Two separate women, diverse by design, but I loved them both because they were mine.
The first was the mother who carried me here, gave birth nurtured me, and launched my career.
She was the one whose features I bear, complete with the facial expressions I wear.
She gave her love, which follows me yet, along with examples in life that she set.
As I got older, she somehow younger grew, and we’d laugh as just mothers and daughters do.
But then came the time that her mind clouded so, and I sensed that the mother I knew would soon go. So quickly she changed and turned into the other, a stranger dressed in the clothes of my mother.
Oh, she looked the same, at least at arm's length, but now she was the child and I was her strength.
We’d come full circle, we women three, my mother the first, the second, and me.
And if my own children should come to a day when a new mother comes and the old goes away,
I’d ask of them nothing that I didn’t do. Love both of your mothers as both have loved you❤
Author Joann Snow Duncanson

05/22/2024

The one thing that you have that nobody else has is YOU! Your voice, Your mind, Your story, Your vision. So write and draw and build and okay and dance and live as only you can. - Neil Gaiman

05/20/2024

After working with people who have had problems with depression, anxiety, chronic pain, and illness, I have learned that these issues might come from not just our own experiences, but also from the experiences of our parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents.
Scientists have found that the effects of trauma can be passed down from one generation to the next. This is called inherited family trauma.
Even if the person who first experienced the trauma is no longer alive, their story can still affect the minds and bodies of people living today.
To learn more about identifying and healing your generational issues, check out my ebook It’s Not My Baggage”. Get it for free by commenting “ME” below.

05/17/2024

Anxiety, chronic pain, depression, phobias and obsessive thoughts may reside in the traumas of our parents, grandparents and even great-grandparents.
Inherited family patterns and issues are passed down from one generation to another. Have you ever wondered where certain thought patterns or illnesses come from? It may not have started with you, it may not be your burden to carry.

Sometimes we share an unconscious allegiance with ancestors who lived in poverty and had a difficult time providing for themselves and their families.
If our ancestors experienced great hardship we can continue their suffering without realizing we are doing so.

If you have ever had the thought “ I’m not good enough, I don’t deserve to have what I want, I have to work so hard for everything.
You might want to ask yourself “ Who “ didn’t think they were enough and why.”
Who “doesn’t deserve the things they desire.”
Who is it that can’t move forward without working themselves so hard?”
How many of these thought are yours and how many have been unknowingly passed down to you?

If you would like to learn more identifying and healing your generational issues, check out my ebook It’s Not My Baggage”. Get it for free by commenting “ME” below.

05/14/2024

Hey everyone! Did you know that sometimes our pain might have deeper roots than we think 🌱.

Ever wonder why sometimes we feel pain that just won't go away? 🤔

It's like our bodies are trying to tell us something, but we can't quite figure it out. Well, guess what? Sometimes, that pain might not even be ours alone. Generational or ancestral healing is like looking back at our family history to understand why we feel the way we do. Sometimes, our ancestors went through tough stuff, and it can affect us too, even causing unexplained chronic pain. By learning about our family's past and healing those old wounds, we can start feeling better in our own lives. It's like giving our hearts a big, warm hug! 💖. It's like unlocking a secret to our own well-being! 💫

To learn more about identifying and healing your generational issues check out my ebook “It’s Not My Baggage.” Get it for free by commenting ME below.

01/13/2024

😀Everyone who has ever helped a child to get dressed will love this one 🙂
Way down in the heart of Texas there was a teacher helping one of her kindergarten students put on his cowboy boots?
He asked for help and she could see why...
Even with her pulling and him pushing, the little boots still didn't want to go on. By the time they got the second boot on, she had worked up a sweat.
She almost cried when the little boy said, 'Teacher, they're on the wrong feet.' She looked, and sure enough, they were. It wasn't any easier pulling the boots off than it was putting them on. She managed to keep her cool as together they worked to get the boots back on, this time on the right feet...
He then announced, 'These aren't my boots.'
She bit her tongue rather than get right in his face and scream, 'Why didn't you say so?' like she wanted to. Once again, she struggled to help him pull the ill-fitting boots off his little feet. No sooner had they gotten the boots off when he said, 'They're my brother's boots. My mom made me wear 'em.'
Now she didn't know if she should laugh or cry. But, she mustered up what grace and courage she had left to wrestle the boots on his feet again.
Helping him into his coat, she asked, 'Now, where are your mittens?'
He said, 'I stuffed 'em in the toes of my boots.'😀

01/13/2024

Thought😊

11/17/2023

Taking a moment to reflect on the power of a different perspective. Remember the feeling of climbing the ladder to your childhood treehouse, where the world below seemed distant, and your mind could clear? Embrace that escape, whether it's in your attic, on a rooftop, or in the trees. Find your sanctuary, shed the masks, and breathe in the revitalizing energy. Sometimes, a change in view is all we need for new ideas and solutions. Ready to descend with a clearer mind and inspired spirit.

11/13/2023

We all go through hard things in life.

However, we all also have a choice to either let those hard things bring us down or teach us a lesson and move on to better things.

What is something hard you have faced in your life that you either already overcame or you still want to overcome?

11/12/2023

Listen to your body.

It speaks to you.

It might be telling you just what is needed for your healing.

11/10/2023

Did you know emotions can get trapped within the body?

11/08/2023

I think it was Brene Brown who told a story about a village where all the women washed clothes together down by the river. When they all got washing machines, there was a sudden outbreak of depression and no one could figure out why.

It wasn't the washing machines in and of themselves. It was the absence of time spent doing things together. It was the absence of community.

Friends, we’ve gotten so independent.

We’re “fine” we tell ourselves even when in reality we’re depressed, we’re overwhelmed, we’re lonely, and we’re hurting. “We’re fine, we’re just too busy right now” we say when days, weeks, months, and years go by without connecting with friends. I’m fine, I’m fine, I’m fine. It’s so easy to say even when it’s not true.

We’ve become so isolated and it’s hard to know how to get back. It’s so hard to know how to even begin to build the kind of relationships our hearts need. And I think In our current culture, it’s just not as organic as it once was. It's more work now.

Because you know, we have our own washing machines. We don't depend on each other to do laundry, or cook dinner, or raise babies anymore. We don't really depend on each other for much of anything if we're being honest.

In Brene Brown’s book Braving the Wilderness, she says that being lonely affects the length of our life expectancy similar to smoking 15 ci******es a day. I don’t say that to freak anyone out, but to let you know that the longing for connection is LEGIT. I think we’ve treated friendship like a luxury for far too long; friendship isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity.

We don't want it. We kind of need it.

Be independent. Be proud of it. But be an independent woman who realizes the value and the importance of opening the door to other good women.

You can do it alone, but you don't have to. Islands are only fun for so long.

There is true magic when women come together and hold hands and share ideas and share stories and struggles and endless bowls of salsa. You use your gifts, and I'll use mine, and then we'll invite that girl over there who brings a completely different set of skills to the table we are building, and we'll watch together as something miraculous unfolds.

Written by Sister, I am with you.❤️