Dr. Zaymara Esteves

10/18/2025

❤️

08/25/2025

While emotions are messengers, they can also become the narrators of our lives, sometimes trapping us in stories that feel like nightmares.

Fear, in particular, has a vital purpose:
it warns us of what could destroy us,
urging us to take action and protect ourselves. Yet within emotions lies another truth. They also reveal what we hold most dear, the very things that give life meaning, beauty, and worth.

Pain → Joy
Abandonment → Belonging
Blame → Compassion
Judgment → Understanding
Embarrassment → Authenticity

When we choose to step through fear
and face uncertainty, we unlock a higher level of ourselves.

We grow.
We rise.
We discover strength we never knew we had, the kind that proves WE CAN MOVE FORWARD NOT WITHOUT FEAR, BUT IN SPITE OF IT.

Today, let’s not forget:
this is the story you deserve to tell yourself. Let’s make THIS your story.

07/13/2025

We don’t talk enough about anger. Too often, it’s viewed as something shameful—something to hide or suppress because it might make you appear out of control, unkind, or less attractive. Many people misinterpret anger—especially when expressed by women—as a sign of being “difficult” or “problematic.” Society frequently equates silence, compliance, and avoidance of conflict with goodness. So when you express anger or stand up for yourself or others, you’re often seen as less desirable—or even as not a good person.

But here’s the real question: Not good for whom?

Anger doesn’t disappear just because you suppress or ignore it. When it’s not acknowledged or expressed in a healthy way, it doesn’t vanish—it turns inward. And that’s where the real damage begins.

Anger has a purpose—an adaptive function. It shows up to protect you. It signals that something is off, unfair, or harmful so you can respond accordingly. Healthy anger can be a powerful force for clarity, boundaries, and change. Denying it only disconnects you from yourself, creating the perfect conditions for resentment and damaged relationships.

So don’t be afraid of your anger. Pay attention to it. Understand it. Use it wisely. When you honor this part of yourself instead of silencing it, you move closer to wholeness—and to a more peaceful, empowered version of yourself.
-Dr. Esteves

06/28/2025

Don't settle for less 🫶

03/25/2025

03/14/2025

Many people struggle to show themselves or others compassion or love. This often stems from childhood, when the adults and caregivers in their lives placed high demands/standards on them, believing that toughness and resilience were necessary for success and survival. However, in doing so, these caregivers unintentionally sent a harmful message—that love and worth must be earned, rather than being inherent. As a result, these children grew into adults who now find it difficult to extend themselves the kindness, forgiveness, and compassion they so freely give to others. The weight of this emotional burden can be overwhelming, often taking a serious toll on their mental health for years, even a lifetime. It’s heartbreaking.

When I encounter patients who struggle with self-compassion and forgiveness, I often ask them to imagine their own children, a beloved family member, or even a cherished pet.

“If everything that happened to you happened to someone you love—a child, a close friend, or anyone dear to you—and they came to you feeling ashamed, unworthy, or guilty, what would you say to them? How would you comfort them? What would you do to make them feel accepted, supported, and loved?”

This is when something extraordinary happens. They realize that they already know how to love unconditionally—because they do it every day. They love children who can give them nothing in return, pets who rely on them completely, and friends who don’t have to prove their worth to be cherished. And in that moment, they recognize that the same love, the same compassion, belongs to them as well.

That my friends is unconditional love. Be sure that you teach this to the young ones around you, including your wounded younger self.

03/12/2025

A kind reminder ☺️

03/06/2025

It is important to understand that some of the people you miss right now or feel worried about are making conscious and intentional decisions to:

- Not call
- Not reach out
- Not think
- Not care
- Not engage in conversations that would change everything

You may think that people do these things out of anger or to punish you. However, more often than not, people are simply caught up in their own narratives and dramas to truly think or care about you, even if they claim to love you.

The truth is that people do exactly what they want to do.

While this reality can be sad at times, it’s important to remember that people have every right to do whatever they choose with their lives. This includes not choosing you or even not choosing what is best for themselves.

Once you make peace with this, you will begin to see their choices more clearly and realize a wonderful thing-as they have the right to choose, you also have the right (and the responsibility) to decide what to do with your life.

Understanding where you stand in someone’s life—however disappointing—allows you to stop waiting, stop questioning, and start investing your energy where it is valued and reciprocated.

Don't dwell on the things that people are consciously choosing to do (or not to do). You deserve to choose yourself, detach and consciously decide to heal, grow, and move on.

02/27/2025

☝️How can you tell the difference?

02/21/2025

Some people take longer to understand that, regardless of how difficult their past may have been, no one is coming to fix it. The past cannot be changed, which can evoke feelings of sadness, anger, frustration, and grief—emotions that are entirely valid. However, amidst these feelings, it's important to recognize that you have the power to create something new for your future. While you may not have had control over your circumstances in the past, this moment is yours. It's up to you to shape your future and determine how you want to feel about it moving forward.

02/19/2025

Sometimes, taking a deep breath and reflecting on how far we've come reveals the fortune of our journey. Often, those so-called “failures” or past mistakes redirect us to much better destinations. Trust the process, take a moment to embrace your growth, and remember: you are doing amazing!